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Author:  rahulsingh [ Wed Nov 07, 2012 7:30 pm ]
Post subject:  Begginer Going Wrong
Dear Friends,

i had just started sarging for 2 weeks , and i met with accident .

So i couldn't go out for 3 week , in this time I had used facebook , though it i got a a girl to date with ..

We dated for 1 month .. then she left me..

My problems:
1) Today I feel needy .. I feel i want her back..fucking I invested 1 months and 3 weeks in her .
2) May be i afraid now i will not get date like her.
3) I feel I need to investe too much time to get girls date to me.
4) I have become emotional towards her.. which is making me wussy .


Guys Help me.. u advices would take me ahead .
Author:  puaninja [ Wed Nov 07, 2012 7:55 pm ]
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The only solution is to man up and sarge more girls. There's simply no other options that will make you feel better or change the situation in a way that will benefit you.
Author:  rahulsingh [ Thu Nov 08, 2012 7:35 am ]
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How to deal with these emotions ?
Author:  Sevendays [ Thu Nov 08, 2012 8:35 am ]
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These emotions arise from attachment generated by being with someone. This attachment exists on multiple levels and can happen with anyone we sleep with.

To begin with we feel validated when someone likes us. So when they leave us we feel unvalidated, or even the opposite we feel worthless. Secondly sex in itself creates a physiological response to the other person. The body and brain crave the happy chemicals that are released as a result of sex, and when you have sex with someone you imprint yourself. This imprint associates that person with those chemicals, hence you have a strong desire to be with them again.

Then you have emotional satisfaction, and mental, emotional and physical comfort. These all typically exist in a relationship and when they are taken away we are suddenly sleeping alone again. Its painful.

The best ways to deal with the pain are:

A) Finding another girl. Nothing will make you forget about your last relationship like being around and with women again.
B) Distraction. Go to a bar, a concert. Play some video games, hang out with friends normally, don't worry about sarging or whatever. Just relax and have some fun. Time will heal most wounds.
C) Realizing that everyone feels this kind of thing. Its not like its just you, or that you are weak for feeling these things. You aren't even weak if you act on them, just human. Framing things as being weak or strong, right or wrong, just sets you up to look at yourself negatively when you act in a way you have judged as wrong. Its not wrong to want someone back nor is it wrong to try to get them back. Its your choice. Being Alpha means knowing what you want and going for it without consideration about whether or not someone will think you are weak or strong for doing so. If this girl is worth the effort, then go for it if its what you want. If not, then forget about her because you'll find 10 other girls that are just as good or better.
Author:  Sevendays [ Thu Nov 08, 2012 8:42 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Begginer Going Wrong
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1) Today I feel needy .. I feel i want her back..fucking I invested 1 months and 3 weeks in her .
Barely any time at all really in the grand scheme of things. Neediness arises because we are in a state of poverty (of whatever we need). So you feel needy because you don't have 5 other women you can call and fuck and form relationships with or whatever. Recognizing that, you can just move on and find more girls.
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2) May be i afraid now i will not get date like her.
Fear is the forerunner to failure. If you think "I can't sleep with a girl like her anymore" then you won't. She didn't reject you because she doesn't know you. 6 weeks is not enough time to really get to know someone. So get out there and do your thing, you got a girl like her once, you can and will do it again.
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3) I feel I need to investe too much time to get girls date to me.
Then try to study more about escalation so you can escalate to sex faster which gets you to dating faster. But also try to frame your experience with PUA and women in general as being for fun. You are trying to have fun right? Have fun just meeting girls and being around them. If you just enjoy going out and talking to people you will not worry about how long anything takes.
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4) I have become emotional towards her.. which is making me wussy .
Emotions don't make you a wuss. To truly feel requires a great deal of inner strength and fortitude, and the more deeply you feel the more strength it requires. Weak individuals are those who are afraid to feel anything, they suppress everything and honestly it just messes them up and usually makes them worse people. Sociopaths don't feel anything. Feelings are healthy and natural, and they always pass.

Good luck to you!
Author:  rahulsingh [ Thu Nov 08, 2012 6:10 pm ]
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Thanks for valuable advices.

1) All though I feel not letting some one go... all I could really understand is there is always some one out there .. better , more enjoyable ..

2)I need to deal with emotions and find some one better.


So guys should I leave trying to approach girls on FB ??

What community thinks about online game? Is real field game better ??
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