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| Author: | AFC_engineer [ Wed Oct 03, 2012 7:43 am ] |
| Post subject: | Approach anxiety - head game tips wanted! |
Hey all, I have visited this forum quite a few times, but only recently joined. I am an engineer as my name suggests, but I don't feel overwhelmingly unattractive or totally socially inept. I do however have absolutely horrible approach anxiety. I find myself having to get drunk to the point of barely being able to remember my conversations in order to break it, which is neither healthy or good game. I was hoping some of you might give me some tips on good head game to get me talking to new people. At this point it's terrifying to the point of keeping me frozen in place, even when my rational brain knows that no interaction could be so damaging that it's not even worth trying. I feel like once I get into conversations I do reasonably well at triggering attraction, although I do have trouble closing as well. I think though, if I could get my AA problem handled I could finally take some major steps in my journey to becoming better with women. So if you guys have head game tips, or even some kind of awesome pep talk to get me to freak out just a little less, I would be incredibly grateful. Thanks. P.S. I do have a fair amount of background in PUA material, so feel free to use acronyms and pua terms, hopefully most will not be entirely new to me. |
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| Author: | Fvckitimout [ Wed Oct 03, 2012 9:35 am ] |
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Hehe i actually want to see you sarge drunk xD LOL BUT anyways yeah thats bad. A good start would probably be to stop drinking. Or at least reprogram yoursef to do something else when confronted with a stressful situation. Some people each cottage cheese, they eat ice cream, i eat chocolate, some people workout because the dopamine spike makes them feel good during exercise. |
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| Author: | puaninja [ Wed Oct 03, 2012 12:59 pm ] |
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You wouldn't be nervous about talking to a ten if she was your waitress, or the clerk in a store. But yet you get nervous talking to a seven at a bar. Why is that? It's because you only get nervous when you know that you are going to have to entertain and close a set. You don't have to worry about entertaining your hot waitress, so it's a non-issue. It's hard to just bust out opinion openers on sets, especially when you have bad AA. So ease your way in to it. First, just trying interacting with the set in a very non-obtrusive way. I sometimes ask for a piece of gum. Or ask her for the time. Believe it or not, that actually breaks the ice. You can treat the woman like a total stranger would who is not trying to pick up on her. This is one step beyond an indirect open, because you aren't even really trying to do anything to build attraction at that point. You are literally just getting her attention and making her respond to you in some way. From there, you can then make an observational comment about her or ask her some other questions, then maybe introduce yourself. That's just so much more natural than tapping her on the shoulder and saying "Who lies more, men or women?" |
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