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Author:  rflook [ Mon Oct 01, 2012 10:06 pm ]
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Ok,

So (as previously posted), met a girl a week ago at a mates party. Didnt game heroer se at the party,but showed lots of dhv. Asked my mates gf for her number but she said as she has just come out of a relationship recently she would give her mine, fine whatever. A few days later my mate texts me her number along with a comment that she wants me to chase her.

So I texted her the following.

Hi motormouth (she talks a lot), was nice to meet you at Alan's last week. Selina (my mates gf) said you wanted to meet up, so what what will it be, coffee or pub?

Thinking that maybe that was a shit opener as not heard from her for over 24 hours.

Wondering if it is worth one more shot, maybe along the lines of.

I know you want me to do the chasing, good job I was always awesome at tag. So one more time, coffee or pub?

What do people think?
Author:  BassOpens [ Tue Oct 02, 2012 5:18 am ]
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Instead of "so one more time, coffe or pub?"... I'd say "So do you want to get lucky today?" (or something else that doesnt seem like you're pushy)

Btw, I personally think that texting a girl who never gave you her number is not that cool (for her). You immediately display interest by getting her number tru someone else.... but if she replies its ok, not all girls are the same (in a way)..

If you chose not to send her another SMS, freeze out and do not txt anymore until she does....

Game other girls please :) if she replies its game on, if she doesnt well, you can either try again and risk seeming needy or pushy or just freeze out and look for someone else
Author:  rflook [ Tue Oct 02, 2012 3:23 pm ]
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Instead of "so one more time, coffe or pub?"... I'd say "So do you want to get lucky today?" (or something else that doesnt seem like you're pushy)
Hmm agreed, but not sure about that opener, saying do you want to get lucky basically means do you want to have sex - isnt that too pushy?
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Btw, I personally think that texting a girl who never gave you her number is not that cool (for her). You immediately display interest by getting her number tru someone else.... but if she replies its ok, not all girls are the same (in a way)..
Again I agree with you but thought it was worth a shout
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Game other girls please :)
Dont worry I will/am :-)
Author:  puaninja [ Tue Oct 02, 2012 6:27 pm ]
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Why the hell you acknowledged that she wants you to chase her is beyond me. You basically just exposed your hand. The idea is that this is all a "GAME" and you are both supposed to play along like you don't know it's all just a game. Also, the motormouth neg might not have translated well through text. I've come to realize that jokes and negs aren't always appreciated by women via text message.

As far as damage control, you need to mix it up a bit. Change your frame. Don't be the guy trying to get a date. Be the guy that she doesn't really know where he is coming from. Maybe text her again once it is clear that she isn't going to text you, and ask her some question about one of your mutual friends. She'll be compelled to answer it, since it's about her friend, then just kind of fade away and don't ask about her. She'll wonder why you wanted to know that, or want attention for herself, and then she'll hopefully chase you a bit to get that.
Author:  Junglepimp [ Tue Oct 02, 2012 6:32 pm ]
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No dude. Your idea reeks of neediness. Let her respond or next her.
Why be needy for a girl who's not keen on responding in the first place?

Besides, if she actually wants to make you chase her, and you do chase her, you're not the challenge. You're offering her your balls to control. NOT a good idea.

The third reason why I would discourage you is that it verbalizes things too much. It's like saying "I know you want me to be a dominant alpha male and I'll just be that for you and try to sleep with you".
Author:  puaninja [ Tue Oct 02, 2012 6:44 pm ]
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Exactly junglepimp. Only, I don't think you should necessarily next her, especially if you actually like her. I mean, don't be afraid to lose her, but don't just write her off simply because she isn't responding to you as you would prefer. It'd be no fun if they just tipped over with their legs up in the air. There's usually going to be a challenge for us to overcome. Don't be too quick to next her, or any broad, just because they make it difficult for you. Play the game a bit first.
Author:  Junglepimp [ Tue Oct 02, 2012 6:46 pm ]
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Exactly junglepimp. Only, I don't think you should necessarily next her, especially if you actually like her. I mean, don't be afraid to lose her, but don't just write her simply because she isn't responding to you as you would prefer. It'd be no fun if they just tipped over with their legs up in the air. There's usually going to be a challenge for us to overcome. Don't be too quick to next her, or any broad, just because they make it difficult for you. Play the game a bit first.
Haha of course. Next her till she texts you is essentially what I meant, instead of following-up on your texts when she hasn't replied. Just going by the equal give-and-take funda.
Author:  puaninja [ Tue Oct 02, 2012 7:30 pm ]
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That's more playing aloof or hard to get, which is a good tactic. It's when you make yourself unavailable, but you are still willing to game her. When you actually NEXT her, it's you totally giving up and moving on. And unless she comes crawling back, you won't even bother acknowledging her again. Just wanted to make that distinction, because I think some people hear "Next" and think you are telling them to just move on and forget about her for good, which doesn't really help them win the girl over, lol.
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