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| Author: | yeeaabuddy [ Mon Sep 10, 2012 3:42 pm ] |
| Post subject: | How Do You Get Over Your Fear Of Rejection? |
Is it true that to get good with pickup you just need to man up and face your fear of rejection directly? and to do that wouldn't you just go direct since it take's more balls? I'm just starting out with this and I want to get some advice on taking the right path for pickup, thanks. |
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| Author: | puaninja [ Mon Sep 10, 2012 3:55 pm ] |
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Go out with a wing. Watch him get rejected. Then start opening sets yourself, whether it be HB9s or HB3s. You'll get rejected by both. Then you'll start to realize that it doesn't matter who the guy is, sets will reject them. It doesn't matter what girls are in the sets, they will still reject you. That will lessen the sting a bit because you'll realize that rejection isn't this personalized thing directed at YOU specifically. It's just something that happens to all guys and it's something that all girls do. I guarantee that any of the mpua's have been rejected by HB5s or less. And you're talking about dudes who can close HB9s and 10s on a regular basis. They didn't let being rejected by some mediocre chick affect their self-esteem, confidence, or motivation. Once you realize that yourself and learn to embrace it, you'll find that you aren't being rejected nearly as much, and even when you do, it won't bother you at all. |
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| Author: | Melodical [ Mon Sep 10, 2012 4:32 pm ] |
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The girls don't even know anything about you when you approach them so they're only rejecting their perception of you which could be completley false. If someone rejects you for a reason which isn't even true then it's not YOU thats being rejected so why should it bother you? |
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| Author: | clearspeak [ Mon Sep 10, 2012 11:38 pm ] |
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Fear of rejection comes from two directions. The fear of the actual rejection which you can face in the ways people are saying. And the insecurity that makes you vulnerable in the first place. That has to be dealt with by becoming more comfortable and accepting of yourself. That is a lot deeper of a task. Come at it from both angles and you'll see yourself become calmer and more tolerant of rejection. |
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| Author: | TrueFlame [ Mon Sep 10, 2012 11:54 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: How Do You Get Over Your Fear Of Rejection? |
Quote: Is it true that to get good with pickup you just need to man up and face your fear of rejection directly? and to do that wouldn't you just go direct since it take's more balls? I'm just starting out with this and I want to get some advice on taking the right path for pickup, thanks.
You could go direct, which will get results faster. There is a risk that after a bunch of initial rejections your confidence may be affected. Only you can tell that and decide whether its the best strategy. The truth is that every time you hit on a girl you have a high % chance of failure. This % chance doesn't actually change much and mostly is not to do with you at all. Its actually rather egoistical and narcissistic to believe otherwise. Its like betting a single number at roulette. Many times you'll do everything right and it won't work, sometimes a weak approach works because the girl just likes you. That's not to say you shouldn't focus on improving your performance, but your actual results are irrelevant on a day-to-day basis and mostly down to pure luck. Only over the longer haul can you start to determine whether you're doing the right thing. Ultimately, and I'm speaking from personal experience, those rejections mean absolutely nothing when you are getting your dick sucked by some hottie. |
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