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| Author: | Brotein [ Fri May 18, 2012 6:28 am ] |
| Post subject: | My journal, from AFC sarging in the valley of the sun |
I am 22, in college at ASU and I am very AFC. I have decent social exposure being in college for awhile but my Approach Anxiety is probably as worse as any newbies. I have almost no success with women my whole life and I finally know what I have to do. DAY 1: Mall I'm trying to systematically desensitize myself. thankfully I have a buddy that studies pickup as well. We start off saying hello to random people that walk buy to kill some of the AA. Being my first cold approaches ever this is not going to impress many of the puas out there but I opened 3 sets with the same opener. HB #1 clothing store (women's section) me: hey can you help me with something for just one second? I'm looking for a gift to get my friend it's her birthday. her: sure what were you thinking? me: oh I don't know really where to a start, I mean I'm a guy in the women's section so any advice would be helpful. something in the 10-20 range. her: ok well what style is she into me: shes from cali, I don't know if thats really a style but it might give an idea. I can't really remember what happened word for word after but she helped me out. I failed to transition so I just said thank you and ejected. Atleast I killed my fear of approaching at that very moment and I was satisfied with myself HB #2 different clothing store I don't know if it counts but i open a girl that was an employee asked where a certain brand of tshirt was and discussed how I liked similar stores at a different mall. She was really hot however I'd give her a 9 so it was still progression HB #3 Probably the best one of the day, I'm in the same store as hb #1 and i use the same opener. me: hey can you excuse me for a quick moment, i'm looking for a gift for a friend she just graduated and her birthday is coming up? her: oh sure what does she like. me: I have no idea i'm just freestyling at this point, are you an employee? her: no (laughs) me: oh shit I thought you were haha well you don't have to help me you're not getting paid to do this me: oh no its no problem she like walks around the store literally to the other side trying to find stuff for me. she twirls her hair. scratches the back of her neck. and keeps feeding and feeding the conversation but not changing topics. I would assume all the above being iois. again i feel slow headed and fail to make the transition. I smile say thank you and eject. possibly could have n closed. DAY 1 ACCOMPLISHED: opening girls, realizing that its not commiting a crime and some can be very receptive even to very bland openers. DAY 1 SELF CRITIQUE: I failed to transition when interactions went well I need to preplan that better, less hesitation, very safe openers even though i tested my very own reality and shattered a lot of it today; i am far from being a master. |
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| Author: | Brotein [ Fri May 18, 2012 6:48 am ] |
| Post subject: | DAY 2 |
DAY 2 so i go out the next day, same place, same time. Start with a couple hellos to warm up. I have 4 sets today. 2 my wing opened for me. 2 i opened. HB #1 we are in a clothing store. my wing opens this girl saying this time i'm looking for a gift opener directed at me. nothing extrordinary happened. she was an employee but i worked on my transition a bit. I asked what kind of girl she is based on clothing country or city. she explained to me she was city. and then we talked about where we were from. all in all same as before i eject to early and she has to get back to work. HB #2 I go into hollister open an employee with the same opener. This time she ejected when i tried to transition a little bit but i don't blame her I wasn't going in a real direction with the conversation. DAMMIT I NEED TO TRANSITION. HB #3 Me and my wing go into victorias secret. he opens the HB saying hes looking for clothes for his (fake) "girlfriend". she happily starts giving advice. I throw a lot of funny comments. My wing actually gets a call and leaves the set. So i'm standing there talking to her about how my wing's fake girlfriend is and how she likes to wear slutty clothes but hes embarrased to talk about it. She starts laughing. I drop. So it must be pretty difficult with boyfriends whenever you had them cas they have no idea what to get you. shes like ya my boyfriend has no clue usually he just gives me a giftcard. at that moment i kind of tone it down because ehh she has a bf and say what you guys will. i respect that. tangent: that opener while unintentional is bullet proof for victoria secret... wing opens with girlfriend gift opener, then ejects with phone call, then you are left there standing talking to the hb. HB #4 My favorite one of the day. like always same opener. This time however i feel more calm and confident. me: hey can you help me out with something for just a moment? i'm looking for a gift for a friend she just graduated and her birthday is coming up so its kind of a double whammy. her: ya sure! me: do you work here by the way? her: no (laughs) me: oh lol well you look like you know what you're doing. her: what does she like! me: well idk i was thinking something like this (I point at a dress) its kind of vibrant. her: well does she like to go out or is she more casual. me: well i would say shes more casual shes form california if that helps. her: Oh i don't know does she like pink me: haha i think so but i'm not going to put money down on it. her: i mean some girls are really against pink me: ya i suppose it's too fanatic of a color its not very moderate and you pretty much have to either for or against it. she: (laughs) i mean if she likes summer dresses there are some over in that section. hmmm well you can't really see them from here. me: how old are you? her: 19 me: aww so you are about in the same age range as her. at this point my brain is starting to run out of juice. i bitch out and fail to transition beyond that. i self eject out of the set. granted she was facing torwards me the whole time while i was facing away and looking above the shoulder, she hair twirled, she smiled, and seemed into the conversation. yet i still didn't push myself for the n close. DAY 2 ACCOMPLISHMENTS: stayed consistent from the previous day, applied more humor, i transitioned (minimally) Day 2 GRIPES: my transitioning was still very bad i need to give the conversations more direction because i often have nothing after the opener, still using the same opener, i need to nclose when it goes well. |
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| Author: | Brotein [ Fri May 18, 2012 6:56 am ] |
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i'm probably going to try again tommorow or the next day with my wing; or if he can't go solo. I wish i had more openers i was comfortable with.... the thought of doing direct is still very startling to me. I only really want to stay in the realm of situational, indirect openers. also i'm going to try to open a set every time i go to starbucks for coffee and everytime i go the gym (however the gym can be rough sometimes) |
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