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Author:  alrasch [ Sat Mar 31, 2012 1:03 pm ]
Post subject:  im fear shitless to open a set / approach a woman
hei guys how are u all =)

does anyone have the same problem like me ? im really afraid to even go to a woman and tell her hi i can do it but only while walking so she dosent see me for long time but i cannot really go to a girl a open a conversetion because i have no clue what to say i have tried it one time in a disco where 2 woman where standing next to the dance floor i was standing near them with my brother next to me we were doing pictures of us with the phone then i asked him if we should not better ask the girls if they can make pic of us 2 so we have something to start e conversetion but he seems like he was scared aswell he said nooo dont go ask them its stupid it wont work they will say no then i tought ok lets see what else i could say i was verry nerfous and after like 10 minuts i did go to the 2 ladies.

before i did go the girls i something like a hallizination i was hearing like mysterys voice in my head where he said "If u dont open u will not get the girl" it is a quote that he used on his show

I Said:

"Hello guys i have a really importment question for both of you"

One of those womens looked me werid said "What?"

I repeatet again because there was verry loud music she didt hear the first time

then i asked her "Who you think lies more men or woman?"
while i was talking i was so nerfous i could hear my heart pumping like bum bum bum

the Woman answert" defenetly Mans

then i was smieling to her and i said "Haha okei i would say womans for 100 % =)"

I did not make any body rocking i think i speaked with her pretty frontal not really over the shoulder

Then she said "okok whatever bla bla piss off now"

while she said that she did a Hand emote like go away

I was so embarasing i just walked away this rejektion effectet me verry hard emiotinal now when i want to open a new set i allways think what happend in that night to be honest i was pretty happy that i had the balls to talk to open but seems like i sucked pretty badly since then i coulld no open a new set anymore im really paranoid i allways think that the woman that i try to pick up has a bf and hes here and will kick my ass when i go to her and try to hit on her do u guys have any advice how i can overcome my fear???

I tried to drink alot of alkohl but even when im totaly drunk i still fear the approach.... dosent matter how much i drink
Author:  pumpington [ Sat Mar 31, 2012 1:13 pm ]
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you already overcame it, you know what it is like, expect more of the same with mixed results, what you experienced was a blowout, that is basically the worst that can happen to you, if you continue on your path will see all sorts of different reactions, some girls will be really friendly, some will be really rude, some will ignore you, some will only be half interested in what you have to say, some will want to talk your ear off, some will be really shy, some will be annoying, some will be cool, the more you do it, the more comfortable you get with doing it and you can go further and further each time and push yourself and test your own limits with what you feel comfortable saying and doing

just keep at it, talk to more girls, you already broke the first approach barrier, now you just need to work to break the 1000th approach barrier

good luck
Author:  alrasch [ Sat Mar 31, 2012 1:28 pm ]
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heii thank you verry much for your answer man :)


I have a question lets say im in A1 and i open with the who lies more opener if i dont get rejektet i would not know how to continue i pretty much suck in story telling but but it would a good idea to talk about the weather after the Opener or should i emedetly neg the target first with you know when u smilie ur nose wiggles a little bit? u have any good lines that i could say after the opener?
Author:  pumpington [ Sat Mar 31, 2012 2:41 pm ]
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heii thank you verry much for your answer man :)


I have a question lets say im in A1 and i open with the who lies more opener if i dont get rejektet i would not know how to continue i pretty much suck in story telling but but it would a good idea to talk about the weather after the Opener or should i emedetly neg the target first with you know when u smilie ur nose wiggles a little bit? u have any good lines that i could say after the opener?
if you want to get comfortable with negging for a while and want something super standard just say something really generic, like, you know from far away you looked really scary and mean, but up close you are more cute and friendly looking

then bring up something that relates to a story you want to tell them, try to bring them into the story and relate it to them, give them a chance to invest in the conversation as much as possible, soon as you start seeing interest from them in investing start to get the qualification ball rolling

also on more advanced topics you can start handling asd through you little dhv stories and setting a sexual frame behind your interaction
Author:  0uch [ Sat Mar 31, 2012 5:04 pm ]
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Think about this, if your nervous to go open a girl, imagine how nervous you would be if she somehow grabbed you and took her home to sleep with her. That was the reason for your blowout, you were nervous. Confident will over write anything you say. Trust me, I say the most off the wall shit ever.


Anyways, pick up coming from your experience is gonna take long time to learn. Been there. Lots of trial and error. 2 years minimum if you stick to it. Learn from your mistakes though. I fucked up a lot and still do til this day.

Now here is how your gonna learn. Mystery method is broken down into steps. Until your solid at Opening and can do it without being nervous, you should not worry about A2 or A3. Most likely you will get further then A1, if so, don't worry about the step. Just talk and stay in the set long as possible.
Author:  splican21 [ Sat Mar 31, 2012 10:53 pm ]
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Everybody had it at one point. I had it, It was so much fucking me in the head I didn't know what to do. I didn't approach any women before 18, nor did I have sex with them or anything close to it. Soon you realize that fear isn't rational. Yeah close people around that know your problem and these pua's on forum all tell you that you have nothing to be afraid of and nothing to hold you back from approaching women, which is true, and which is something you THINK you believe but you actually don't believe it, because you haven't experienced it yet. I used to compete in kickboxing and can you imagine I did a few fights before making my first approach to a women. I was actually more sustained from going up to a strange women, which has no logical and potential risk (only if you don't do something totally outrageous towards the women and makes her or somebody around you attack you) compared to entering ring which has justified reasons for fear:

1. Ensured beating that you will receive, no matter how good you are you will get your part of the deal in 3 rounds
2. Potential risk of serious injury
3. Having an audience

My father knew about my obscurity with women and one day he told me: "What the fuck is the problem, son, they won't beat you if you approach them. She won't mae geri you in the chest."

Anyway someday on summer of 2008 I was out with a friend of mine, who was fucked up with women like I was and probably hasn't changed much since then, unlike me. I decided to do my first approach. There were these foreigners that came by boats and anchored them on the port just outside the club. There was this fucking 11 I'd rate her. Bombshell blonde with big tits and big ass and long sexy thick FIRM legs with no fat on her. She had a purple mini skirt dress one part that was bonded all over her body, plotting all her sexy curves and a big open cleaveage show lots of her big tits.

Sorry for writing such a long post of this great pussy, My dick got hard just remembering her.

Anyway she was with one short, ugly, spotty faced bitch. I don't know what the fuck the two of them were doing together. Sex goddess and FUGLY GIRL. So I got infront of her and i told her: I want you. She smiled, then leaved over to me, put her hand on her chest and smilingly asked: "You want me?" I just replied to her with a slight smile looking her in the eye: "Yes, I want you"

All this time her fucking ugly friend was just besides us and at this moment she grabbed me by the hand and told me: "Why don't you just walk in that direction, until you hit the water or something" pointing at port. Pulled this gorgeous babe away and that was it. I was confused the whole time.

Anyway that encouraged me to approach more. Since then I approached god knows how many times, I got rejected shitloads of times, got shitloads of numbers, met shitload of women, forgot shitload of women, slept with a dozen, made out with hundreds, and got experience.

Sometimes it's not all that good, sometimes it's shitty, you get rejected and seems like you never can get that extremely gorgeous women. Sometimes you feel like a God, sometimes you're making out with two women at once, I actually achieved that but I am still going for a three some.

I still don't have desired success with women, still have a lot to learn and to work on. I am daily improving myself.

The most important part is self confidence, which you're currently lacking of plenty of it, that's why you're scared to approach. The more confident you are the more you will approach women, the better your approaches will be and the better they will look. It's not easy to develop confidence. And confidence is not something you either have or not. It's somebody everybody has, just at different levels.

Just like not having a fucking dollar in your pocket or having millions. Confidence is the same.

You gotta get your swag like
Author:  weaponx [ Mon Apr 02, 2012 6:04 pm ]
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If it makes youi feel better mystery still has anxiety approuching woman. He said so on one of David D's programs. I think he said that other things were more imprtant than his fear.
Author:  TITAN4264 [ Tue Apr 03, 2012 7:11 am ]
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Brother Alrash all you need to do is carry some openers written in ur phone and some routines to follow it up. As for fear all you need to do is to go to a supermarket or some place that ladies frequent a lot and say hi to almost every preety lady that passes you by, that my brother will kill the fear...GODSPEED
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