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Author:  bobstar [ Wed Mar 14, 2012 8:17 pm ]
Post subject:  never picked up, where to begin?
I'm a 20 year old and an AFC.
I have had relationships in the past, but in the past year I have been single and very inactive.

I've read The Game and loads of posts on here, so I think I know a lot aout game, but I suffer from massive AA.

where should I begin trying to pick up? Facebook? Street? Shops? Clubs (I'm not great in clubs when I'm with my friends because I don't want them to see rejection).
Author:  Smoothy1990 [ Wed Mar 14, 2012 11:27 pm ]
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Do a little bootcamp, or newbie challenge or however you want to call it.
Go to a public place, like a shopping mall, with a few openers and start talking to people :). You'll never get over AA, I think everyone gets nervous when approaching a stranger, but you will learn to dismiss your fear and go for it
Author:  Theodiscus [ Thu Mar 15, 2012 12:23 am ]
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Do a little bootcamp, or newbie challenge or however you want to call it.
Go to a public place, like a shopping mall, with a few openers and start talking to people :). You'll never get over AA, I think everyone gets nervous when approaching a stranger, but you will learn to dismiss your fear and go for it
Do what he said and read, read, read! Here is a dating site with what they suggest reading as a noob (The Game is the first) http://www.datingskillsreview.com/video ... g-strategy
Author:  Musterion [ Thu Mar 15, 2012 1:16 am ]
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Do what he said and read, read, read!
No.
Read what he said and do Do DO!
You'll learn far more from doing than from reading.
Author:  Skuzzle1008 [ Thu Mar 15, 2012 11:44 am ]
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Ahh OP, you and I are in the same boat. I'm still new to it, but one thing that's been awesome for me is to talk to random people.

Practice the three second rule and just talk to a stranger about anything (It can literally be anybody). Do no have any expectations on how it'll turn out. If they respond well, then awesome! If they ignore you or walk away, then it's ok. You succeeded in your mission.

This will help you feel more confident about your approaches. It helps!
Author:  mintsauce [ Thu Mar 15, 2012 12:23 pm ]
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a hint of advice. at 20 you are probably in some school or college. that's the easiest game. ;)
Author:  bobstar [ Thu Mar 15, 2012 6:58 pm ]
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I know that constant practice will help, but it doest seeem to make it easier!
the problem i have is im a shy guy when i first meet people.
i know if i can start approaching i will increase my confidence and therefore increase my success

Im sure a lot of people are in my boat, knowing that we should just approach.
the first few approaches are bound to be the hardest

unfortunately, even though im 20 im working full time, which is a shame because on a few university visits seeing friends i have met girls without doing anything! but it has to be done because im hoping to travel america next year (im from england).
Author:  mintsauce [ Thu Mar 15, 2012 7:19 pm ]
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bob, to correct shyness make it a point to talk to one person every day you won't normally do. start small, the lady standing behind you in a queue, ask random strangers for a light etc.

heck, start with dudes if you are awkward with girls. it's not that hard. I was in your shoes at that age. I went ahead and acted in a play. problem solved !

p.s. read up on body language, nothing is as important as that, your own shyness would change with your posture. believe me.
Author:  Monsignor Crisanto [ Thu Mar 15, 2012 7:23 pm ]
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I'm Swahili. My English is not that good. But I think I know what you need.

Here are some pointers.
  • 1. Focus on one small goal. Forget about the fuck close for now.
    2. Let's call this small goal sarging the restaurant cashier.
    3. Do you have at least 10 restaurants within your area? (McDonald's, BurgerKing, TacoBell, etc.)
    4. What do these girl cashiers say when they take your order? That's their routine and the answer that they usually get is the same old answer. This is something like, "Would you like to add some fries?" or "Enjoy your meal."
    5. Say something like this, "What would you recommend for a crocodile hunter?"
Your goal is to get ONE smile from the 10 restaurants in your area. If you got more than one smile out of 10, then feel the adrenaline rush. This adrenaline rush will boost your success rate for the next goal.

Frame it this way. Your money in the bank will earn less than 10% interest. When you get one smile out of 10, you're doing better than money in the bank. If you got three smiles out of 10, then you're doing better than Warren Buffet's 27% in the stock market.

One small goal at a time brother. That's how you kill approach anxiety. :twisted:
Author:  bobstar [ Thu Mar 15, 2012 8:18 pm ]
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i think thats how i will try to start. just talking to people i dont normally talk to. i need to stop just hiding in my comfort zone.

hellhound, i have a lot of restaurants around where i live and i really like this. if anything seing the girls smiling laughing at what i say will naturally increase confidence. thanks man
Author:  mintsauce [ Thu Mar 15, 2012 9:21 pm ]
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cute cashier girls are good practice. don't forget body language.

just yesterday I was at a shop to buy a pen, focused on the girl's whatsitcalled triangle (eyes and lips). not too long either, just a few seconds and she started blushing like anything.
Author:  Chuck86 [ Fri Mar 16, 2012 8:30 am ]
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Hey! Good luck with this, im following this tread as i'm kind of in the same spot. Just moved to a new country and dont know where to start.
Author:  wildchildAFC [ Fri Mar 16, 2012 12:13 pm ]
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Streets and malls is a good way to start. Try this! bring a friend with you, whenever you spot a set give your friend 10 dollars, if you don't approach the set your friend keeps your money, if you approach he would return your money. I've been doing this lately and it helps with my aa because if I don't approach I would lose my money :wink:
Author:  Smoothy1990 [ Fri Mar 16, 2012 1:34 pm ]
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p.s. read up on body language, nothing is as important as that, your own shyness would change with your posture. believe me.
Definitely, DEFINITELY start paying attention to body language, your own as well as others. Training your body language to show alpha male characteristics changes how people perceive you immensely. And paying attention to other people's body language will teach you a great deal about that person.

Whenever I'm bored when walking down the street, or sitting in a bus or whatever, I like to do two things:

1) To try and feel which vibe people give off (do they make me feel reassured, threatened, awkward, at easy,...) and then pay attention to their body language and try to figure out what it is that makes me feel a certain way about them.

2) To change my own body language and see which reaction I get from people. I remember the first day I started doing this a couple of months ago, me and a buddy were walking down campus and I was trying to convey confidence and a relaxed, in control, carefree vibe through my walk. We passed 2 HBs I had never seen before, both looked me in the eye, started smiling and blushing. This never happened to me before so I was feeling really good at that moment :D. I remember my friend saying "dude, what the hell just happened" when the first lady smiled, and then 5 minute later "watthe...again! This is crazy, what did you do?" I felt like a boss ^^
Author:  Monsignor Crisanto [ Fri Mar 16, 2012 4:38 pm ]
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I'm an Aquarius and my English is not that good. But I know what you need.

After you get that adrenaline rush and extra boost in confidence from sarging cute girl cashiers, your next goal (as many suggested here) is to improve your body language skills-- the reading side, non-kino side and kino side.

Do this field routine for the reading side and non-kino side of body language. We'll get to the kino side when you reach your goal in this exercise.

Alpha Male Newbie Routine
  • 1. Stand straight. Chest out. Stomach in. And drop your hands to your sides. Don't exaggerate this posture. And don't put your hands in your pocket.

    2. Walk with purpose. Not too slow. Not too fast. Just right. Relax and glide.

    3. While looking straight, establish eye contact with the first girl that tries to hold your gaze.

    4. Don't look down. Don't look away. Maintain that gaze until the girl looks down or gazes away.
The goal of this newbie routine is to make you feel more comfortable being dominant (not domineering). Dominant men sexually turn on women. Your aim is to get ONE out of 10 girls to look down as you hold their gaze.

Getting 3 out of 10 is ideal. When you get 10 out of 10, then you're the man. :twisted:
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