Hey everyone. Thanks in advance for your advice.

So there's a girl in college (I'll call her Ashley). She was in one of my classes freshmen year. It was a morning class, and no one ever talked because we were all tired and didn't wan to be there. I never really noticed her, or was interested in her. All I remember was trying to ask her for a something a copy of something we were all reading, and she sorta teased me. I didn't expect it because, well that class meant nothing to me. I was never interested in her.

But then, throughout the next semester, I noticed her a lot, recognized her a lot. She and I would quickly make eye contact whenever because we knew we used to be in the same class...

Saw her one time at a volunteering event, still wasn't interested in her, but I was curious, and asked her if we knew each other. (Of course, I knew, and I'm sure she knew) I just wanted to make myself noticed. I disregarded her after that, not really caring because I was actually interested in someone else at the time. This was last summer.

Now, the first semester of my second year had just finished. She was in my physics class. I knew I wanted her as soon as I saw her the first few days (I guess it was an acquired taste hah). I have no problem with confidence, generally. As a young business owner, I've learned to develop a lot of confidence, composure, and social skills. In class, I make myself seen, and I make sure I know everyone, and everyone knows me. I never forget anyone's name, and I will always acknowledge them regardless of our familiarity. That's just all from business experience.

But with Ashley, I get nervous, I'm not myself. Throughout the semester, I got better with that. And I finally managed to talk to her more, but she's always attached by the hip with this one girl, and she's always hanging around this other guy (he doesn't hold me back, I just can never sit with her during lecture).

She seems like she is very outgoing, and overhearing her talk to her friends tells me that she talks a lot too. She also isn't afraid to joke around. Very charming girl, very responsive, very friendly.

When we talk, she's not as outgoing. That could either be my lack of confidence, which makes her less comfortable, or that it's something about her. However, I never have a problem, making myself not seem desperate or needy around her. Haha, from my past experience being an AFC, I have developed a lot of attractive women friends. After she and I talked for about two minutes, we went back to doing our own thing. There is no doubt in my mind, that she can tell that I am a people person and have no problem starting conversations or having people to talk to.

It's just her! I just want to do well with her. I have yet to get her number, and now I hardly ever see her, since the semester ended. Hopefully, she's in my class again, but if not.. I guess I'll just have to work harder.

I've always been a nice guy, an AFC. My problem, is that I don't know how to GET the girl, and not just have her be a friend.

I know I'll get her number. When I have a goal, I achieve it. It's just a matter of 1) when I'll get it, and 2) whether we will end up as just friends, or something more. I want something more.

Advice?

Never associate the word "friend" with her ever again. Don't even have it as an option. Look at her as a business client, you either obtain her or you don't.

It seems you are making it more of an issue then it should be. Keep it simple....A polite and well time gesture can reveal everything you need to know, it will tell you whether you should escalate or not.

A subtle compliment is always the easiest way in.

But if you wish to be bold, learn how to make a flower out of paper, or a cigarette or anything. The next time you see her, simply walk up to her hand it to her, then walk away. ( walking away helps you both avoid any awkward pause) This gives her the opportunity to approach you next time your paths cross,( to thank you) by walking away immediately, it allows you to stay in her thoughts longer. If she shows signs of interest and seems to be paying more attention to you ( even just looking over at you more often) You can then move in with confidence.

Good luck.

Fortune Favors The Bold.



Thanks again!