Quote: Usually human mind reacts to everything it perceives as danger with flight or fight response, just think you have to be absolutely bold and playful and your first point of danger is clear eject from the girl side, nothing less, if you are just fearing approach then your mental perception of danger is something very low which shouldn't be frightening you logically.
I like that man nicely put  @ amatpua
The one thing I have realised in my daygame is that, and I think alot
of people will agree with me on this, is that if you're spending like
an hour or so wandering around a mall looking to approach
women...you're not scared, you're waiting for that perfect
moment to happen. It's not the approach you're scared
of, it's how will you react when the moment does
finally come round...will I approach or not approach? I'm
guessing it's the latter. There is no such thing as a perfect
moment. You need to go out there and make that
moment happen, it won't just manifest out
of nothing.
Don't have the hollywood mentality. Like, you're
a geeky rundown darn out of luck womenless
guy who one day meets a gorgeous girl at
the foot of his doorstep because it was
raining or because her car broke
down and she'd like to use your
phone. Apart from that just
sounding silly, why would
she need to use your
phone? She probably
has a blackberry or a smartphone!
I'm digressing here lol.
My point is man,
women won't just magically fall into your lap
and you can't sit around and pray for things to get
better when the only person that can make things
better, is yourself. No one else can do it for you,
no one can approach the girls for you...If you really,
truly want to begin approaching women, you
need to break free of your comfort zone
and fight for what you deserve.
You also need to look deep inside yourself
and ask yourself what is really holding
you back? Is it what she might
think during the approach? To counteract that,
don't think at all. Better yet, who gives a shit
what she thinks? What's the worst she can
say..."No."? I've done many approaches
to know by now that, women, will not
bite your head of or punch you
in the mouth if you just
open them to have a brief interaction.
In all
honesty, I approached a girl the other day to
ask for directions and while she was talking
to me, I smiled to let her know that I was
friendly, and when she saw me smile,
we both laughed at each other
and we couldn't get a word
in! We tried talking
to each other but
we just kept on
laughing for no reason We had no idea why were having a
laughter contest in the middle of the mall...but it was fucking fun
and giddy!
It was fun just randomly laughing with this girl in the middle
of the mall  She probably had a great sense of humor...
I only met the chick for 5 seconds and I made her
laugh with me just for being friendly to her and
making her day, I can tell she enjoyed the
interaction cause she was blushing and
giving me IOI's throughout!
Approaching women is not as difficult as it seems,
you just need to get out of your own head and
just do it. I know that cliche but it's true. Don't
think about what you're gonna say. The
second you start thinking about what
to say and you mull on that thought,
you begin to instill the fear
even more because you're spending
more time thinking then actually doing.
More fight and less flight!
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