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Author:  sharkk [ Sun Dec 04, 2011 8:27 pm ]
Post subject:  Approach Anxiety
Hey guys, just joined and my first point.


Straight to the point: I have approach anxiety and its starting to really affect me, every time I see a beautiful woman and don't approach, I die a little on the inside (Seriously).

Soo I'm planning on going out with a few friends and JUST focus on opening girls, just walking up saying hi and see what happens, to see if i can face this fear and get rid of it.

You guys think this will do any good? Will it kill my shyness?

Thoughts opinions? Thanks
Author:  sdmuzik1010 [ Sun Dec 04, 2011 8:50 pm ]
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You have to walk before you can run. Go out use openers, theres plents of them on this forum. If you use your opener and begin to feel uncomfortable or run out of things to say eject. Tell them "well I gotta get back to my friends but good to meet you"
Whats the worst that can happen? I believe Mystery said how the human brain is outdated and thats where approach anxiety comes from.
Watch this video a few times and take it in. It will help ALOT
[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2D3qYvHqnKc[/youtube]
Author:  0uch [ Fri Dec 09, 2011 6:37 am ]
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Check out style's book rule of the game. It's a 30 day challenge that will help you out.
Author:  Ruggedized [ Fri Dec 09, 2011 6:45 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Approach Anxiety
Quote:
Soo I'm planning on going out with a few friends and JUST focus on opening girls, just walking up saying hi and see what happens, to see if i can face this fear and get rid of it.

You guys think this will do any good? Will it kill my shyness?

Thoughts opinions? Thanks
Yes! The more you approach, the more confident you will be talking to beautiful women. If you can cram 25 sets into a 4 hour period of just opening and hooking sets, you're AA will be essentially gone. If nothing else, you can easily start a conversation with new people at any time. Now, with some guys there's always a little AA at some level anytime they approach, even if their game is really good.

You didn't get good at writing or throwing a ball the first time you picked up a pen or a baseball. You did it thousands of times until you found the most effective and comfortable way to do those things. Fortunately, it doesn't seem to take that many repititions to get past a sticking point, but experience will definitely help crush your AA, or any other sticking point for that matter.


-Ruggedized
Author:  Sweep [ Fri Dec 09, 2011 7:33 am ]
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Bringing friends can help a lot. The reason is that whenever you see a set, your friends can provide you with the motivation that you were perhaps missing before. Whereas when you approach by yourself, you can back out and no one's any wiser for it, when you go with friends, and you approach, talking to the two set is no where near as bad as backing out and getting berated by your friends. As to walking up and saying hi, I've found that I had more of a problem approaching a set with that than a normal indirect opinion opener. The reason for this was simply that when you approach you are afraid of getting rejected, and its a lot easier to reject a guy who says hi, than a guy that is wondering whether to floss before or after he brushes (I never use that opener, but you get the idea). You might disagree with me and that's fine, that's just what I've found.
-Sweep
Author:  lyondsol [ Fri Dec 09, 2011 7:46 am ]
Post subject:  AA also.
hey sharkk. I also suffering from AA. and I really need to get over it. I was wondering how you're approach went. I tried before and tried to open only one set in two days. I felt terrible. I am tried again tomorrow with and easy "Hi" until i feel more confident. good luck. -lyon
Author:  sharkk [ Sat Dec 10, 2011 1:00 am ]
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Hey guys,

So I went out last night to a bar, it was 3 dollar drink so there were tons of girls.

The first approach was hard I admit, but it went well. I think we approached 30 sets last night, got a few numbers, met a lot of people, had A LOT of fun. And the thing is I felt more comfortable as the night went on! I got rejected a bunch of times but you learn it doesn't hurt as much as you think it does, you kinda look back at it and think what I could have done to win her...its challenging.
I definitely will not have another night out with the guys without approaching girls, its just not fun without it!

Going again tonight going to do the same thing...Thanks for the responses gentlemen:) Cheers
Author:  tnchn66 [ Sat Dec 10, 2011 1:59 am ]
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Hey sharkk, i relate to a lot in this.
What i did to get rid of approach anxiety was to do "warm Up" sets to be in the talkitive mood. I dont care if the first few sets are guys,fat girls, grandmas, just as long as you talk and your brain will switch itself to be in the talking mood.
The last thing you want is to rock up to a bar and approach the hottest girl there without talking to ANYONE the whole day!
What i like to do is call my friends and have a talk, and approach the sets im not into and go from there.
Also remember when you open the set, JUST focus on opening the girl and the opener, NOTHING ELSE because it will get into your head.

ALL IN ALL everyone has approach anxiety, just do some warm up sets and approach more girls everyday and your aa will decrease dramatically.
I suggest you do some day game!
Hope this helps :)
Author:  tnchn66 [ Sat Dec 10, 2011 2:02 am ]
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Hey sharkk, i relate to a lot in this.
What i did to get rid of approach anxiety was to do "warm Up" sets to be in the talkitive mood. I dont care if the first few sets are guys,fat girls, grandmas, just as long as you talk and your brain will switch itself to be in the talking mood.
The last thing you want is to rock up to a bar and approach the hottest girl there without talking to ANYONE the whole day!
What i like to do is call my friends and have a talk, and approach the sets im not into and go from there.
Also remember when you open the set, JUST focus on opening the girl and the opener, NOTHING ELSE because it will get into your head.

ALL IN ALL everyone has approach anxiety, just do some warm up sets and approach more girls everyday and your aa will decrease dramatically.
I suggest you do some day game!
Hope this helps :)
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