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| Author: | AFCPG [ Mon Oct 10, 2011 7:51 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Hard To Aprroach |
Hello There I'm 17 I've been studying for 3 months and still no approaching...only online because our town has 100 000 people And do you have any ideas for places to practice my game because if I start doing game in my school and I fail it will be really hard to see them again... My other problems is that I need constant attention from others and if someone ignores me I'm ready to kill him :S :S. However after so much material I'm confused do you have any idea what exactly to do for my age. Thank you |
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| Author: | papichulo818 [ Mon Oct 10, 2011 8:14 pm ] |
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Sounds like issues with attachment. Did your parents coddle you as a child? |
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| Author: | AFCPG [ Mon Oct 10, 2011 8:18 pm ] |
| Post subject: | tttt |
My parents divorced when I was 4. Since then I'm the center of their war. If u have some materials please share. Because psychologists in our town arent worth it. |
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| Author: | pyuya [ Tue Oct 11, 2011 2:24 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Hard To Aprroach |
Quote: Hello There
try taking yourself on practice dates like go to a restaurant or a even starbucks alone and just enjoy being alone in a public place.. go to hobbies and groups like soccer and frisbee or take dance classes or start jogging, when you have a life full of activities you enjoy, you become less caring about if someone ignores you cuz you have better stuff to look forward to
I'm 17 I've been studying for 3 months and still no approaching...only online because our town has 100 000 people And do you have any ideas for places to practice my game because if I start doing game in my school and I fail it will be really hard to see them again... My other problems is that I need constant attention from others and if someone ignores me I'm ready to kill him :S :S. However after so much material I'm confused do you have any idea what exactly to do for my age. Thank you |
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| Author: | papichulo818 [ Tue Oct 11, 2011 3:16 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: tttt |
Quote: My parents divorced when I was 4.
Read up on pioneer of attachment style John Bowly and Mary Ainsworth. Sucks you were unwittingly drawn up in their battle - it's common for separated parents to use the child/children as a way to spite the other - doesn't mean they don't love the child, it's often done on a very unconscious level. Only way for such situations to be resolved is for them to open dialogue directly rather than using u as a sideshow/distraction. You can get a lot of info online about attachment styles - it's been shown that the style of attachment between us and our parents sets the blueprint for how we are in relationships later in life.Since then I'm the center of their war. If u have some materials please share. Because psychologists in our town arent worth it. This isn't to say you can't do anything about it, just being self-aware is a very good start and knowing your triggers (e.g. if you get extremely anxious every time a friend or gf doesn't call). You can probably benefit from Cognitive Behavioral Therapy to manage the anxiety, there are lots of great CBT workouts out there that can be done without he aide of a psychologist/therapist. One that comes to mind is 10 Days to Self-Esteem by Dr. David Burns. If you want to learn about how they apply to relationships, there's an amazing book by Dr Sue Johnson called "Hold Me Tight"; but it's primarily for people in relationships already and who are having problems, and I'd recommend the book to anyone in a relationship. |
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