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Author:  Scarecrow247 [ Mon Oct 03, 2011 12:53 pm ]
Post subject:  Girl wants me | she has BF | help?
Introduction: 19 year old male, i am rather good looking with a decent body. Im estimated to be a 7 or 8

So to my problem: Iv started in a new school this year and in freshment week I met this girl, we hit it off right from the start and spent that evening (last evening of the week) making out and there was some tuching invloved but got cockblocked by her girlfriend who started to throw up. During this time we spent togeather her ex kept calling her, I just ingored it. The next day i texted her and chatted a bit

Next week i see on FB that she is back with her ex (who lives on the other side of the country) so I decided to stop talking to her, but for some reason 3 weeks ago she started talking to me again and asked if I were going out on the coming saturday, I said yes and we met up on the town danced and had fun, went back to her place, got in her bed and then it didn't go much further. A bit of teasing but ended with her going to sleep on the caoch cus she got horny and knew she would have sex with me if she stayed.

Later that week we went to the movies, snuggeling but no kissing (very clos though). The weekend she went to see her BF.

On saturday we decided to meet up again on a club, I don't remeber too much, but we kissed alot and then we went back to her place and the same thing happend again. I confronted her a bit and she started to cry but not too much.
So i was supposed to hang with her yesterday but i cancelled, but we are going to meet at a party on thursday.

advice?

I realy like this girl, and for the first time since i was 17 i feel something for a girl aswell.
I can tell she likes me aswell but her BF ofc is holding her back to take it to the next level.

thanks :)

PS: not sure if this is where i should post this?
Author:  Scarecrow247 [ Mon Oct 03, 2011 2:29 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Girl wants me | she has BF | help?
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Hey man! Based on your story i would say make your move and escalate as soon as you can. It seems that you have been getting a lot of LMR lately and this has a reason. Her boyfriend which is a. far away b. seems to have some qualities since she went back together with him. On the other hand she seems into you majorly!!

The one thing you must avoid is to become her friend with benefits who is there when her boyfriend is being a bitch. You dont want to be a reserve player but the MVP right? :) Next time you are together with her initiate sexual contact and when she tells you she doesnt want it, test her by admitting that with like "i know this is wrong and we shouldnt be doing this" BUT continue kiss/stroke/lick her some more direct after. See how she will react. If she rejects you try Mysterys freeze-out method.

Im sure there are more experiences and skilled PUAs here who can advise you on a higher level than i can but these were my 2 cents :) Good luck!
Thanks bro! All help is very much appriciated!
You are right about the LMR. When we get sexuall and she stops me i'v tryed to stop everything and say "it's okey we can just sleep" then she continues the tease and stops me again. I get a bit further each time, but never far enough
Author:  Scarecrow247 [ Mon Oct 03, 2011 9:23 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Girl wants me | she has BF | help?
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Hey man! Based on your story i would say make your move and escalate as soon as you can. It seems that you have been getting a lot of LMR lately and this has a reason. Her boyfriend which is a. far away b. seems to have some qualities since she went back together with him. On the other hand she seems into you majorly!!

The one thing you must avoid is to become her friend with benefits who is there when her boyfriend is being a bitch. You dont want to be a reserve player but the MVP right? :) Next time you are together with her initiate sexual contact and when she tells you she doesnt want it, test her by admitting that with like "i know this is wrong and we shouldnt be doing this" BUT continue kiss/stroke/lick her some more direct after. See how she will react. If she rejects you try Mysterys freeze-out method.

Im sure there are more experiences and skilled PUAs here who can advise you on a higher level than i can but these were my 2 cents :) Good luck!
Thanks bro! All help is very much appriciated!
You are right about the LMR. When we get sexuall and she stops me i'v tryed to stop everything and say "it's okey we can just sleep" then she continues the tease and stops me again. I get a bit further each time, but never far enough
No problem man glad if i can help. The best thing, actually the only thing i can see you do here is to go ahead and play along with her, then when you sense her backing out admit that "you shouldnt be doing this" while continuing to soften her up, touch her and all that. DO NO STOP UNLESS SHE EXPLICITLY TELLS YOU TO. It has worked for me countless times. Just, you know, keep doing your thing with her but at the same time take down the girls defenses by doing the above.

I dont know how deep you are in the game but have you considdered throwing some NLP patterns at this girl while you are intimate and/or together in general. Since she seems to trust you i dont think you would have a hard time inducing a specific state of mind in this girl or establishing a pretty strong anchor... For reference check the book "How to get the woman you desire into bed - Ross Jeffries" I vouch for this book any time of the week, twice on sunday :D

Quick question: How long has she been together with her boyfriend before they broke up and why has their relationship become a long distance one?

Peace!
To answer your question: I am realy not sure on how long they have been togeather cause generaly we don't talk about him, for instance: On her room she had her initials and his initials on like a picture and I asked who it was for (was drunk here so don't judge :D ) and she said her brother, and ofc later i understod i was him. Is this good or?
2nd question: She just moved to my town to study, so they way I see it they decided to break up because of the distance, but then decided to stay togeather after all. It seems as it was the BFs idea, he calls her alot and allways write stuff on her FB wall

Im not too into the game here, iv heared a bit inner game audio and stuff, but I try to pick up stuff here on the forum.
Any sugestions on where to start to get game? I don't have too much money so what products would you suggest I buy for max results?

thank you again :)
Author:  Debone [ Mon Oct 10, 2011 2:16 am ]
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I would suggest the freeze out, next time you get the LMR just break all contact. Just tell her 'I understand' and get up and leave the room. Go and lie on the couch, it will feel like you are punishing her and she will then want to apologise and will possibly escalate things herself. It does sound like she is using you a bit as an ego boost when she is feeling a bit low about her BF situation. Good luck dude. Please criticise if anyone thinks I'm wrong.
Author:  AdamThomas [ Mon Oct 10, 2011 8:04 pm ]
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I would suggest leaving her alone until she's single. I don't do girls with boyfriend because if it's just sex I want, it's not worth breaking a relationship up over... But also if I want her as a girlfriend, I want a girl who I can trust to be faithful. If she'll cheat behind her boyfriend's back what makes you think she'll treat you any differently if you ever get together?
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