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Author:  Chai [ Sat Oct 01, 2011 12:50 pm ]
Post subject:  Getting more confidence now :) My AA is slowly peeling away!
Hey guys

I went out today mainly to work on my AA as it my biggest
sticking point, funnily enough the mall I went to was
situated in a really nice part of the city and all
the hot girls go there, like really gorgeous
girls, how could I resist? In any case this
mall was really HUGE, like able to fit
50 000 people huge!

I arrived and I must admit that I was a little
scared to go and approach but I just went in
relaxed, cool, calm and collected and I
managed to get 5 great approaches :)

Here's how it went down.

After 20 seconds on arrival I opened an
HB8 in a clothing store with "Excuse me,
do you know where the Mugg &
Bean is?" (Mugg & Bean is a
really popular coffee shop
in my city). She complied
nicely and with a smile too,
she gave the directions, I said "thanks
alot I feel like a lost kid in this place sometimes haha"
, and I bounced and grabbed a coffee. Turns out
the HB8 was either a greek or russian, some kind
of european cause her accent wasn't the same as
most girls...sexy lol.

The 2nd girl I approached was a promoter working
helping setting up a modeling ramp, this chick was
also was so close to an HB9, she had the best
breasts I have seen aswell but overall she
was just gorgeous! I decided to walk
right past her cause I saw that her
guy friend was talking to her
or something and I almost
didnt approach her but I
did! I walked up
to the dude next
to her and asked him directly
"Sorry guys, do you know where ther
Mugg & Bean is?" The guy was about to give
me directions but then the chick jumped in (YES!)
and she gave me the actual route to the coffee haven!
I was actually surprised cause I felt really nervous about approaching
that kind of girl, I mean I don't think I've approached an HB9 before so
that's a bonus! (I felt so nervous I was actually considering walking
away entirely, but I did a 180 turn and just approached and went
in with no prob, it was awesome)

3rd GIRL...This one was probably the best. I was on my way to the
coffee shop and walked past this cute girl with long hair and a cute
face, I walked right past her and thought "Oh my god it would make
my day If i approached her..." So I did another 180 turn and began
walking up to her, suddenly I thought "Wait, if i'm just about to go up
to her I'll have to open with Kino." I paced real quick to catch up to her
and I gently used the back of my left hand to slowly turn her around to face
me, her skin was so soft even though I felt it for just a moment.
"Nice" I thought, opening great with the kino.
I used the same coffee opener on her and this girl was
beautiful, i would give her an HB8.5 if there is a thing. ANYWAY, I did the opener
and she actually gave me VERY elaborate directions (she told me to go down until the end, go left, turn right at the stairs, pass 2 clothing stores down the way, take the next turn on the right and it will be on the side next to a pet store) cause we both at like the back
of the mall. I noticed that the whole time she was smiling at me the whole time too :) After ejecting turns out those directions were...correct! It's so cool that girls comply with this stuff.

The 4th girl was like...WOW! After I got my fruity treat from the coffee shop
I walked passed a LOREA'L an this girl was promoting a new fragrance,
wait for it...wait for it...she was promoting....IN A SKIN TIGHT PINK AND
PURPLE CAT SUIT! I was like "NO....WAY" I could literally see every curv
on this chick (I should have taken a photo of her but I forgot lol) I opened
to this girl with this "Oh my god. That has got to be the most awesome
outfit I have ever seen in my life! My one girl friend would SO rock up
in a club wearing only that!" She laughed real genuinely and told me
that all the girls working there had to wear the latex suit as part of
the job! We both laughed and thought "Now thats what i'm talking
about :) " I quickly ejected and moved on and told her I'll see
her around and moved on.

Finally, the final girl, or women, this one was a treat. I finally for
the first time in my life approached a MILF who was an HB9 .
After all the approaches
I did today I new that approaching her would not be a problem, so,
I went up from behind, used the kino to turn her to me, ran the
coffee opener, she gave me the directions, I thanked her and
ejected and moved on. After that I was like "Wow she was AMAZING!
This approaching thing is getting really cool now!"

So that was my morning guys, I think I did pretty well.
It's so weird though, like, last week and so long before
I was so afraid to go and talk to a complete stranger
in a mall that I would get paralyzed with fear and just
not approach at all, but now I'm getting more confident
in myself and I can feel my approach anxiety slowly
peeling away. I haven't been this happy in a long time,
and I am loving it. I'm going back there tomorrow to
go practice some more, my goal is to approach 50
girls altogether overtime. 5 down, 45 approaches
to go!

So guys...what's your favorite opener?


Thanks for reading I hope you enjoyed it!
Author:  GWhizz [ Sat Oct 01, 2011 1:10 pm ]
Post subject: 
Good job man!

But I dont consider this as really approaching her.
Why approach anxiety exists is because you dont know what to say to get her to like you.
I could ask literally any person in this world for directions and not give a crap, because you dont want something from them. When I have to really game a girl, then its another story.

Also, indirect approaching is actually a bit beta for an alpha male. Its making up an excuse for what you want, and an alpha doesnt need excuses.
Author:  GoldDust [ Sat Oct 01, 2011 1:16 pm ]
Post subject: 
That's good, you're approaching chicks. Maybe tomorrow you should go out and take a step further.

You can ask for directions like you usually do and then transistion into a opinion opener. After she has given the directions you could say something like "Oh by the way, seeing as I have your attention anyway, I need to get your opinion on something..." and go from there.

From what I can see, the girls seems to be really open and helpful, maybe just helpful however. Turn up the heat slightly. Go out and try what I told you and let me know how it goes.

I'll keep an eye on this thread to see how you get on :)
Author:  Chai [ Sat Oct 01, 2011 2:23 pm ]
Post subject: 
Thanks guys, yeah I know i might be quite over enthusiastic just by
this but it's been SO long since i've been our and practicing and
approaching girls. Also i'm kind of a social introvert and I don't
go out much so for me this was a good step forward in improving
myself :)

I'll definitely step it up a notch tomorrow and see what comes from that!
Author:  Mr-Rev [ Sat Oct 01, 2011 2:50 pm ]
Post subject: 
I am definitely following this one to see how it goes, made me smile while reading, can really tell how much you were enjoying it and getting a feel for just talking to someone.

Do as GoldDust says, expand a bit further, hasn't got to be going for numbers every time, but at least you are pushing away from just asking directions to more of a conversation.

Keep it up man, enjoy the ride!
Author:  khuram [ Sat Oct 01, 2011 3:05 pm ]
Post subject: 
best of Luck ! ! !
Author:  Chai [ Sat Oct 01, 2011 4:32 pm ]
Post subject: 
Thanks golddust an mr-rev i enjoyed myself, even though if it
was just the simple things i worked on today. Tomorrow I can
guarantee an update and expand in conversation further after
opening cause that's what i'm gonna work on, I am amped for this!
Author:  Chai [ Sun Oct 02, 2011 11:13 am ]
Post subject: 
Hey guys, reporting back. So I went back to that
mall this morning and arrived there, a little
disappointed. WHERE ARE ALL THE HOT
CHICKS FROM YESTERDAY? Their gone!
They were replaced by old people and
kids :( I did go have a walk around,
it's like it was replaced by senior
citizens on Sundays, which is
not cool cause not even
the hot promoters
were there today.
I walked around
trying to find atleast
ONE girl to approach,
it's not even funny, the
place even smelled like prunes.

I'll have to try throughout the
week at other various
places and go back next
week for a full on approaching
fest. I'll also try post pictures
next week to give you guys an
idea where i'm practicing at.
Author:  GoldDust [ Sun Oct 02, 2011 11:19 am ]
Post subject: 
Yeah it's the same with my local shopping centre. On sundays it it was full of old people and I can't see anyone below the age of 50 lol

Saturdays are best days to go as no one is at schoo, college or university. During the week they are all at these places so there wouldn't be much luck then either. But yeah I'd say try again on Saturday. Depends on where you live.
Author:  Chai [ Sun Oct 02, 2011 2:10 pm ]
Post subject: 
It sucks doesn't it haha? I wish I would just get all the old people to
play bingo on some shit on sundays instead of taking over
the place, mind you I guess those old geezers need love
too lol.

I'm actually near to 4 malls cause I live
in the suburbs, in my area there's
always parties going on at the
clubs but I need to work
on my game first
before I can
advance into that
field ! :(
Author:  Chai [ Sat Oct 08, 2011 10:49 pm ]
Post subject: 
Hey guys.

So I went out to my mall again to
go practice transitioning today.
I failed pretty dismally.

I only managed to approach...
2 girls today :?

I feel like I'm back to square one
in my AA which is a little shit
cause I felt like I haven't
been going out as much
I have needed to in
order to practice
getting over my
AA, and I am
the only one
to blame.

I lost all my momentum from
that first day when I approached
6 girls and today when I went out,
I just felt like I had lost it all! It's
SO frustrating cause of my over-
confidence! I mean, today could
have gone better but this is
how it went down. After
walking around the
place for like
a fuckin
hour looking for a good
girl to approach I finally worked
up the courage to go approach a chick,
figuring that if I just opened her I could get
back my confidence and open even more girls
than last time. When I approached the chick
(this girl had a perfect body, beautiful hair
and really nice fashion...but the WORST
FACE i could ever imagine! What a let
down :( But nonetheless it was an
approach so I gave myself that
credit in trying)

Also a new problem I'm having now
is that I now realise I don't smile
enough when opening or talking
and I have to fix this cause
it conveys confidence when
smiling when talking to a
girl. Another thing which
I also realized I'm
taking a corner
in is the way
i'm opening up
with my usual kino.
I lightly use the back of my fingers/hand
to get the girl to turn to me and when she's
turning I use my idle hand to position her
correctly without her even knowing it, I
was doing this great until I knew I
was cutting a corner today, and
I found that out first hand.
After spending another
hour finding girls (I
wasted so much
time, it wasn't kosher
at all I must really get over it!!) I
decided to open a two set that walked
past me (an HB8
and an HB9...simple enough,
NO.) The girls weren't the
problem, I was! Check it.

I decided to open the HB8 and
pawn her to get the HB9 to
interact with me from
leaving her out...this
is how it went down.
I ran up from behind
the HB8 and opened with
kino, but then I ran so
fast that my foot
skid on the floor
but I remained
my composure,
and I still managed
to open the HB8 but
my hand like just brushed
her shoulder! Trust me
guys it's worse than
it sounds!

When I opened
her she gave me
a bit of a weird look like " :? "
and I just wanted to get out of the
set before the HB9 got involved because
I thought the chick was about to get on the
fact that I nearly took her shoulder off!
Oh my god guys I looked like SUCH a
fool I just...I lost all my confidence
and went home...FUCK!

I know now that I can't
get too over-confident
on the first try cause,
well, look what
happened. I need
to go out every night I can
but I succeed well in
practicing daygame
cause that's how
i'm getting over
my AA. I just
felt not with
it today and I paid the
price. Everything happens
for a reason I guess.

You're thoughts guys...
Author:  GoldDust [ Sat Oct 08, 2011 11:45 pm ]
Post subject: 
Hmmm ok...first of all you didn't fail. The only time you fail is when you don't try, you did try. Remember that!

The first girl you approached may not have had the best face in the world but once you open, try to stay in set. Remember, you aren't there to pick up this girl, you are out to build and improve your social skill set so when you do meet a girl who you really like, you'll be ready for it. Don't put too much focus into it. I think you are so focused on an outcome that it is holding you back. Go into sets thinking about improving all the time, not about picking them up. However that doesn't mean if a set is going better than expected to just walk away, get her contact details if you feel it is going very well.

Smiling as you open a set is good and you should do it, it puts you and the girl at ease. But don't be standing there smiling all the time, you will look creepy. Stop smiling once you have the sets attention but throw a few cheeky smirks into the conversation every now and then,

The second set you approached...all I can say is approaching from behind is BAD! Don't do it. Main reason being is you'll freak the girl out, especially when you touch her shoulder and she doesn't even know who it is. The same applies with your first set. I assume you approached her from behing because the last thing you saw was her damn ugly face,

You need to approach from the front. Make sure the girl can see you before you make your move. For example, if you are walking down a street and a HB is walking towards you, make eye contact with her if possible. Even if she doesn't look up, still look her in the eyes. If you make eye contact, throw a smile her way and say "Hey". You can begin gaming her then.

Another thing you can do is when she is walking towards you is cut her path. Not so fast that she bumps into you but cut her path so there is enough time for her to look up and see you without being freaked out. When you do this, you can put your hands out with your palms facing her and say "Hey, stop a minute will you..." and you can go with your opener, Its best to go direct in daygame so you can justify the reason as to why you have stopped her or it will be weird.

So next time you go out, try approach from the front, you must stop approaching from the back.

Hope this helps :)
Author:  Chai [ Sun Oct 09, 2011 6:59 am ]
Post subject: 
Yeah but man I felt like I did fail
cause I didn't approach as many
girls that I should have you
know? I'm trying not to
think about it too
much again but
it just that
you know
I'm giving
out all
this good
advice to the
newbies on everyone
else on the forum,telling them
the proper way of doing shit, how they
must approach and what to say...but when
it comes to my side it just seems like i'm
doing is all talk and hardly action :cry:
I take pride in what I do man
it just sucks knowing that
I didn't try hard enough
and it's a shitty
feeling
having that.
Author:  GWhizz [ Fri Oct 14, 2011 4:35 pm ]
Post subject: 
Okay dude.

There are millllllllions of hot girls in this world.
Why do you care about what other people/girls think about you, if you will never see them again?

When I'm not in my hometown, I just picture it like I'm on a holiday.
And you won't see ANYONE again. So why not make the best of it?

:)
Author:  Chai [ Fri Oct 14, 2011 7:58 pm ]
Post subject: 
I don't picture like what they'll think of me
cause I know I'll never see them again, its
just I had an off day thats all. I'm getting
miffed that I'm still working on my AA
and I wan't to just get into the
fucking clubs already. I want
to get over this AA so badly!

I'm going again tomorrow and
will post back my results
afterwards.

I'm not giving up guys! :x
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