Just because you are alone, does not necessarily mean you must let others be aware of it.
The difference between a loner and someone in a group, is effort.
You cannot sit and wait for the party to approach you. You have to locate where the 'hot spots' of the place (club, park etc..) are, and zone in.
That being said, never seem uninterested. Some assume that the "Meh, i'm just here chilling. Not really bothered. Whatever.." attitude; women will find it somewhat of a 'bad boy' attribute and therefore, attractive. Wrong. It will do you much more harm than good, that's for sure. If you are not bothered, why should they be? Engage others, and be willing to be engaged by them.
If you are unfamiliar with anyone, your best option is to make acquaintances with the males first. Why? For the simple reason that if you dive in, with the key obligation of making female friends and chatting them up; the guys will see you as a threat, and will then, block you out completely as a group. Therefore, rendering you even more lonely than you were to begin with! And who knows, you might even manage to find yourself a new wingman, and make it a bit easier on yourself.
Never stay stationary. Make sure you are moving around frequently. This suggests to others that you are putting in the effort, and they will meet you half way. As opposed to the couch loner, who would much rather let others do all the work.
Smile, and let others know that although you are alone, it is not putting you down and you are eager to make friends.
When you are in a bored and depressed state of mind, they will sense that, and will assume that once they begin to converse with you, you will cause a chain reaction and bring them down as well, ruining their night. Be positive!
Good Luck!
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