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| Author: | gfunkhauser [ Tue Sep 27, 2011 5:46 pm ] |
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I'm a sophomore in college who's been fairly successful with girls for years. I'm generally not anxious and I genuinely love talking to a girl who I'm trying to get in bed with. However, I have absolutely no idea what to do before engaging in conversation. Eye contact, smiling, all of this I'm clueless on. Any comments would be appreciated but here are some questions to start out: if I'm sitting in class and think I'll approach a girl after class or something, are somewhat darting glances a good idea? Like, possibly having eye contact two or three times without smiling, then giving an acknowledging smile the next time eye contact is made? Or is it better to immediately smile? What about girls I see every day walking the same places that I could possibly approach at some point? Eye contact and smile? No eye contact? I usually try not to think too hard about girls but I'm so completely clueless with this that I'd like some rules to be outlined. Thanks in advance. |
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| Author: | khuram [ Tue Sep 27, 2011 6:45 pm ] |
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initially, you should do hard eyes contact(80% percent of time) , its important to keep their attention on u till u get them hooked. As for approaching, dnt get direct into their face, open them at ur shoulder nd face them fully within 30 to 60 seconds. And within 3 minutes of opening try to get locked in the set (if u dnt know whats dat, google it) and while opening, use ur voice tone, eye contact and hand gestures to keep their attention at u. Stand so dat ur feel are shoulder length opnd. I hope that helps. Feel free to ask any question |
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| Author: | PurePlaya [ Tue Sep 27, 2011 7:16 pm ] |
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Buy the book The Definitive Book of Body Language |
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| Author: | flows101 [ Wed Sep 28, 2011 1:09 pm ] |
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feel Appreciation ----> feel sexual state ------> Approach ------> Eye contact ------> Vocal tonality --------> vibe & show sexual intent ------------> CLOSE |
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| Author: | -Nike- [ Sat Oct 01, 2011 4:19 pm ] |
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The first thing to remember, is ultimately, one is useless without the other. Eye contact without a slow smile, is like a crackle without a pop. Notice how I mention a 'slow' smile. This should gradually grow on your face as you maintain eye contact, and should not immediately dart up out of nowhere. Someone that maintains eye contact, but refuses to smile, would be labeled a freak of some sort. On the other hand, smiling without eye contact, for all she knows, you could be smiling at a random thought in your head. You have to acknowledge when you look at her, that you are interested; so you smile. And likewise, when you smile, she has to know the smile for HER, therefore, make eye contact, and engage her. You also have to remember that a stare, a gaze and a glance are 3 different things. Body is also a big issue. Do not slouch or lean against the walls. This is a sign of laziness and puts forward the idea that you are not interested at all, despite the cheesy, inviting grin in your face. It's best to stand up straight, or if you are sitting, possibly lean back confidently, not cockily. For the record, whether you plan on picking up a girl, maybe just for making friends or possibly, just a polite greeting to a stranger passing by. There always, always always has to be eye contact! Studies have shown that whilst women (and men) are conversing, and one seems to withhold eye contact, they are likely to assume that you are shifty, shy, sneaky, snobbish and possibly a liar. How long should the eye contact last? Well; Try this: "After you've smiled, silently say, 'I like you' to your eye contact recipient. There are three advantages to this: 1. The time it takes for you to say to yourself 'I like you', is precisely the amount of time your lingering eye contact should last (debatable) 2. Saying the words silently gives you a warm expression. Unless you really work at it, your mind can't say 'I like you' while your face is saying 'You intimidate me' at the same time. 2.Your inner monologue keeps your mind from racing to other thoughts -- like 'I wonder what they think of me?" -An extract taken from a magnificent book entitled 'How to Feel Confident', written by Leil Lowndes Good Luck! |
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