I will try and briefly explain this situation with as much detail as possible and I hope you guys can give me some advice. So, last year in school I become friends with this girl. We started becoming good friends, always hanging out, etc... Basicaly doing what average friends do. Sometime later I was leaving on a trip to New York for a week, so I decided to tell her that I had feelings for her the day before I left, and she told me that she had also started to have feelings for me. And that she saw us as real compatible. So I ask her out another time, and she says 'no I can't do those things, they can I weird me out, its like too serious. I dunno, im weird' So I played it cool. She assured me though that she still liked me and wanted to hang 'hang out'. And so we did, for the last two months of school we were always together. It moved into a relationship without all the dating part, and the going out stuff came afterwards. Now, one crappy thing was that she was from Vancouver, which blew because University summers are long. We had gotten serious enough that now she would be sleeping at my place and what not. So the end of school came close and she told me not to forget about her, and that to keep in touch as much as I could (email, msn, phone, txt msges). And I assured I would. So I took her to the airport on the day she as to leave, I kissed her goodbye, and waited in the airport for the plane to take off.
Before we had talked about me coming and visiting her during the summer. So the plan was for me to show up in July. As we kept in touch she was always telling how she missed me sooo much , and that I should come asap. COME NOW! she would say jokingly. So I had a month free and decided to surprise her in the middle of May. I booked the flight, and hotel, through a recording a studio that I worked at (So I didn't actually pay). However the last few days, before my flight she became really distant, wouldn't email me, txt me, or whatever. So she calls me teh dya before my surprise flight and says I think we can only just be friends, she said I feel weird about this and uncomfortable. blah blah, so i explained to her as I turned into this depressed fuck. haha. that I was going to come and surprise her. So we talked and decided it was best for me to show up and see how it goes. So I hsow up it doesn't go well. I stayed there in Vancouver for about getting hammered drunk everyday with a bunch of these crazies from Washington that were at my hotel. I felt really used and told her. But things just turned more to shit. I went home. We ended up not talking for like almost two months, then she emails me, and you could tell she was drunk when she wrote it. "Hey stranger, I miss talking you. etc..." So now we came back to school this year, and we ended up talking about what happened, and I asked her why she ended it and this is exactly what she said:
I just felt that it made so much sense it made no sense at all, ...like it was too good to be true or something
I didn't get it at all. And she says she doesn't think shed let us happen again, but I can tell she still has feelings for me, and she knows that I do for her. I will not talk to her for a week and she'll txt me/msge me/call me where are you n shit. and then when shes drunk she always wants to talk to me, so I take this as good signs. But then when I ask her like do you want to hang out sometime, she either comes upw ith excuses or she says no. And when we are at parties I always catch her staring at me. Like wtf man...haha. I mean I don't have one-itis or whatever. I am able to talk to other hgirls and date em or what not, but I cared about this girl, and I know she still cares about me. So I'm thinking, that this is just another type of game, and that I could potentially have her back. But how do I go about doing this? Where do I begin? And how can I use PUA to win this situation? Any info and advice would awesome. Thanks so much for your time.
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Pretend she doesn't exist for a while and see if she comes knocking on your door.