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I have asked a few of my female friends about how many messages do they like to receive/send before the guy asks them out. Overwhelmingly the short answer is that they prefer a guy who is relatively direct.
To be more specific, 2-4 messages is what they consistently have said is on average the right number of messages they like to see before the guy asks for their number or requests a specific plan of action via message regarding a meetup.
While this may be rather obvious, their point is that "if I messaged you back in the first place it shows I was interested. So there is no need to waste my time with a never ending series of messages. Otherwise after a while I just lose interest." Straight out of the horse's mouth.
Basically, that is what my research back a few years ago confirmed and what girls are still telling me when I meet them from online now. A direct opener and a few messages to establish some rapport with questions to get conversation going. Give my # switch to text or calls and set up a date. Sometimes I just set the date via the dating site message system if things are flowing well.
Remember you need to customize your openers for you. If you are using my words but your profile reads as yours then it's going to be inconsistent and girls will pick up on that very very quickly and not respond to you. Being congruent with your openers and who you are is key! Modify so it's using your words not mine, but use the principles I am teaching you.
Bottom line is get from talking on the internet to her # or a date quickly! You don't want all these messages back and forth trying to build attraction. If she messaged you back attraction is assumed thus start building rapport to get her comfortable enough with you to go out on a date. Then from there it's on you.
Thanks for posting this!