hey guys
just another one of those newsletters, some interesting shit in it.....enjoy
DM
... a 5-STEP MAGIC FORMULA.
Yes, it's a formula, and you can tinker with it, customize it to
your personality - and more importantly -- your STRENGTHS.
Ultimately -- the memorable, sensory, scene-creating DETAILS of you
unique life and personality should SHINE through.
You are going to stand out from the gobbledy-gook of generalities
that 99% of guys' profiles offer. You know the routine...
I'm laid back, I love to work hard and play hard, I'm loyal, I'm
funny, yadda, yadda, yadda, barf.
You will stand out from all those guys.
But remember, this isn't absolutism here. This isn't brain-dead,
fill-in-the-blanks Online Dating for Robots. Please consider the
5-Step Profile Template I'll be outlining for you as a
scaffolding...
Because...
The fundamental structure WORKS.
It follows some basic marketing and even dramatic structure
principles.
So use it in good health. We'll start today with Step One:
Intrigue.
STEP ONE: INTRIGUE HER
This is maybe the easiest place to stand out from other guys,
because 99% of guys' openers SUCK!
A quick glance at men's profiles will turn up
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I graduated from the University of...
I was born and raised in...
I'm a fun loving guy who...
My friends would say I'm...
I'm a genuinely nice guy...
Well, lets see, I moved here from...
Hmmm, I think I would start by.,..
I am handsome with a heart of gold!...
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Mike - I don't know why after reading one boring
profile after another, women don't just go lesbian!
Listen, your job at the start is the same as a filmmaker's: open
with something to CATCH the ATTENTION. An INTRIGUING IMAGE.
HUMOR. Or a story. Something DIFFERENT.
Here are a few ideas...
Opener Idea #1: Start With a Story. Everybody's ears perk up when
you say "Once Upon a Time" in one form or another. It's a primal
way of communicating. Our brains are attuned to storytelling mode.
Here's an example of a guy who just launches into it...
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So I am having dinner with my sister and my brother-in-law the
other night and he turns to me and asks me if I would know what to
do if a shark were to come up to me while I was swimming and I said
"frankly Bennett, I have no clue. Tell me."
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This story ends up being a joke and he continues by saying how much
he loves being with fun, funny people, and then his profile peters
out.
If he were an N2B guy, I would have had him DEEPEN the picture of
that table, the wine they were drinking, the hot food, the way he
looked at the faces of these people he cares about.
He would have made the reader FEEL like she was visiting his great
life. And then, of course, I'd have him add a few piquant details
about the rest of his life. Then move to the INVITATION.
(There's a whole chapter called Invite Her Into Your Exciting Life
in the N2B Manual, Pt. II, Chapter 8. And one on How To Invite a
Woman rather than beg for a date. Or what we call in marketing,
the Call To Action).
Opener Idea #2: Make Her Laugh.
If you can be funny, be funny! I love this guy's profile:
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Vive le difference: I speak Dog. A large chunk of my
music collection is in Portuguese, Spanish, French
and other languages I don't understand. I never
"played games," nor am I interested in doing so.
I have an active conscience. The results of sports
games are inconsequential in the greater scheme of things.
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This guy detonates so many positive explosions in a few lines.
First off - yes! Vive la difference dammit! And then, what I
consider a GREAT line, "I speak dog."
Not only is it funny, it WILL WARM any woman's heart.
In his next lines, he is:
(1) humble without being self-denigrating,
(2) he takes the moral high ground regarding Being a Player (Check
your N2B Manual for the Chapter on Taking the Moral High Ground
there are so many cool, casual ways of doing it). And
(3) he defuses most women's worry about ending up with a guy who
has his head up his sports television. Some women like to watch
but most don't.
Not a boring sentence there. Strong declarative sentences suggest
a strong personality and sense of direction. Nice.
Humor is a great way to stand out at the start. But please don't
use a clich้. Say something original. Be over the top. Here's a
great opener I found from a New Yorker...
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I am a wonderful, wonderful, wonderful, wonderful,
wonderful, wonderful man. In many ways. But I'm
far too wonderful to list them all here.
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Of course every guy is saying the same thing about how wonderful he
is -- but dead seriously, this guy stands out because he gets it
and rises above it.
Opener Idea #3: Teach
Remember your N2B Manual: Teach her. Tease her. Lead her down a
yes-chain. Take her mind by the hand and IMMEDIATELY LEAD.
Here's a cool opening from a schoolteacher.
Most schoolteachers would write the standard, "I teach 7th grade
and I really love my job" and he'd sound like every guy laying out
his laundry list. But see how this guy gets you right into his
world, teaching you a "trick" right off the bat. Women will be
drawn right in...
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The trick to impressing middle school kids is to go on a TV game
show. It doesn't even matter if you win; they'll just love that
their history teacher was on TV. I love working with kids. I love
the looks on their faces when they get something they hadn't
understood before. I tell them you can do anything you set your
mind to whether it's learning about the Middle Ages or getting in
shape.
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See how he gets right into it? No awkward introductions or
prevarications.
This is a GREAT way of making your job come alive. If you have the
N2B Manual, then you have read about how to turn your job into an
opportunity to talk about how you are in SERVICE to the world. To
your students, customers, clients, whatever.
High Quality women will be turned on by a MAN who speaks about his
work not by title or prestige but by how he sees himself as a man
in service (the generous OUTFLOW of energy rather than the needy
INTAKE of energy)
THAT is sexy. In fact it's sexier than just about anything else.
It's CAVEMAN SEXY.
So those are three quick ideas on how to STAND OUT from the million
dull profiles out there in your first lines.
The idea is to INTRIGUE her in some way. Not by showing off, but
by using the power of language. It's about HOOKING her.
Tell a story. Be funny. Teach something. Ask questions that bloom
her open. Talk about HER, not yourself, describe the woman you
want, so that she finds herself gasping, "he gets me!"
These are the kind of quick, effective techniques that come at you
one after another in the N2B/N2W Manual. If you haven't done so,
get yours now -- here http://www.net2bed.com/v2
If you already have one, go back through it a few times. I'll bet
you find new ideas and new inspiration.
Just use it... and succeed!