I'll keep it brief...
This HB9 responded to my ad on craigslist earlier this week and for whatever reason seemed hooked on me from the get go. We started out e-mailing and then chatting over Gmail chat this past week, and she always initiated it. She's been showing HEAVY interest, i.e. getting pissed at me when I don't message her the next day, qualifying herself to me "But I'm cute", asking me what type of girls I like, and when I play hard to get she says shit like "You want me bad..."
The other day SHE asked ME if I wanted to go to a club this weekend to "give her free drinks and dirty dance with her." Also said she'd be driving down to me (from San Fran to San jose is about 40 mins to an hour). I said that sounds good even though I fucking hate clubs (I planned to handle that "free drinks" thing later on) but since I usually work Friday and saturday nights we'd prob have to do a diff day.
Today I found out I don't work this weekend. She said she's having a party Saturday and people staying the night Friday and invited me over. The way I see it, I have 5 options:
A) Go Friday, where there will be less distractions for her (such as friends and hotter or potentially more interesting guys). Downsides: she might still get distracted by friends and no booze, though the last one isn't much of an issue to me.
B) Go Saturday, where there will be a ton of ppl I don't know and many many more potential distractions for her. She will be drunk, which is a blessing and a curse; lowered inhibitions but also most likely severe ADD. Which in conjunction with all the friends and guys could mean she'll be very difficult to handle, (especially considering I've never met here before).
C) Say I will come Friday, then flake to get her to invest more (this is speculation, not sure if it's a good idea or not) and go Saturday instead.
D) Say I will come Saturday, then flake for same reason as above.
E) Skip the whole thing and get her 1 on 1 for a date. Downside: I run the risk of losing her interest, though to be honest it appears to be seriously high at the moment. So it may not be an issue
Option B is tempting me for the sheer challenge of it, but it seems like it's just a step or two beyond what I'm socially capable of at the moment. My life right now is very complicated and socially dead, so most of my game experience over the past 2 years has been on dates I get from online game, which are much lower energy than clubs and parties. I do fine when meeting a girls' friends, but at parties I don't always do so well. So options A and E seem safest. I'm on the fence though.
What do you guys think?
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Whether you want to go Friday or Saturday, that's your call. Saturday will mean more targets, Friday will mean more intimacy. So really it's your call, both options have their advantages.