PUA Forum :: Uncomfortable with my sexuality because....

After reading loads of seduction materials and taking some in-the-field training, I've come to understand the importance of being comfortable with one's own sexuality.

But I find myself in interaction after interaction that never breaks out of the platonic. It's because I'm afraid to escalate...simply for the common fear that I won't be taken seriously, but also because I have a kink.

I am terribly attracted to women's feet. I'm attracted to all the usual feminine body parts, but the feet are definitely my favorite. I've been this way for as long as I can remember, and it's a part of me that's never going to change. Nor would I particularly care to.

I can have sex like a normal guy, without ever even looking at her feet. But every time I talk to a girl, it's in the back of my mind that there's this weird part of my sexuality she won't accept.

I have a feeling some of you are going to say it's an excuse, I'm a pussy and I should get over it. Or even that I'm gross or sick. Which is okay. But I'm also looking for some constructive ideas. Thanks in advance.

If a woman has a nice body she´s probably used to getting compliments about her ass, breasts etc. I honestly think most women will LOVE being complimented about their feet in an intimate situation. I also believe that most women associate nice feet with something uncommon and model like (I certainly do). Originality my friend.

"You know, one of the first things that got me attracted to you are you´re absolutely gorgeous feet".

Why not?

EDIT: Guess I ignored the whole goddess, submissive, worship aspect of it. But I´m still convinced that in most cases a small obsession with feet will be very well received!

hmm well just make sure you don't get too excited in your pants when she's wearing open toe sandles................

Author:	Sulaco [ Sat Aug 25, 2007 11:05 pm ]
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After reading loads of seduction materials and taking some in-the-field training, I've come to understand the importance of being comfortable with one's own sexuality. But I find myself in interaction after interaction that never breaks out of the platonic. It's because I'm afraid to escalate...simply for the common fear that I won't be taken seriously, but also because I have a kink. I am terribly attracted to women's feet. I'm attracted to all the usual feminine body parts, but the feet are definitely my favorite. I've been this way for as long as I can remember, and it's a part of me that's never going to change. Nor would I particularly care to. I can have sex like a normal guy, without ever even looking at her feet. But every time I talk to a girl, it's in the back of my mind that there's this weird part of my sexuality she won't accept. I have a feeling some of you are going to say it's an excuse, I'm a pussy and I should get over it. Or even that I'm gross or sick. Which is okay. But I'm also looking for some constructive ideas. Thanks in advance.

Author:	duck [ Sat Aug 25, 2007 11:15 pm ]
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You dig feet and that's ok. Just remember - you aren't going to get to the feet if you can't get to the woman. It's ok to realize you have this proclivity - just don't let it kill your confidence so much. Get to know her, do your thing and then if the relationship develops let the feet thing come out.

Author:	Boonen [ Sun Aug 26, 2007 2:19 am ]
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this is going to sound like a weird question but how was your relationship with your mother while you were growing up? from a psychological point of view, one would say that while you were growing up, your mother neglected you and never carried you, thus only being fixated on her feet.

Author:	Sulaco [ Sun Aug 26, 2007 7:06 am ]
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Hi Boonen, I don't think it's a weird question at all. I've definitely researched the theories about this, and parental neglect is one of them. I've liked feet for as long as I can remember (although as a child, I didn't realize my interest was sexual in nature. That came later.) If my mother was anything less than great to me when I was at the early age when one develops a foot fetish, I don't remember it. I had problems with her when I was adolescent, but I was already drawn to feet by then. Other theories about why one develops a foot fetish is that the guy might be afraid to relate to women in general (could apply to me) or that it's neurological in nature, as the part of the brain that receives sensation from the feet is adjacent to the part that receives sensation from the genitals.

Author:	edible [ Mon Aug 27, 2007 1:03 pm ]
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OK From a womans point of view. I know a lot of girls that like their toes being sucked, and rubbed. The right partner for you will be someone who enjoys it just as much as you do or lets you be free to explore her body. Girls keep their toes pretty because they like it and they know that guys dig it too. There is nothing wrong with being attracted to feet. Own it and love it about yourself and she will too.

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Author:	EvoJ [ Mon Aug 27, 2007 2:49 pm ]
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Everyone here is right. I mean seriously, if that is what you like then that is what you like. Look at it this way. When you are walking through the mall, and your passing all these women... casually glance at their feet. Find women who are taking extra-ordinary care of their toes and wear open-toed shoes all the time. These women are TRYING to show off their feet. And more often than not, they see them as a part of there body there to attract guys. And remember.... everyone and I mean EVERYONE has special quirks about their sexuality. I, personally, like taking charge. And when I say taking charge I mean it. Some women like it.. some women LOVE IT... and some women are like "You ask a girl if she wants to do that." And I tend to reply with "Lets get this clear, outside of "no" and "stop" your choices evaporated when we started. So either you can sit back, relax, and we can do things that will make us both happy, or we can get up, put our clothes back on and get some coffee." She can tell me what she likes and doesn't like before OR after but during is a bit too late. (I know I sound like an ass... but this is what I like and how I like it. She can always say no and end it... but until that time she is mine any way I want it. {unless specified earlier in "the talk"}) EvoJ

Author:	Mech [ Mon Aug 27, 2007 5:13 pm ]
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Quote: After reading loads of seduction materials and taking some in-the-field training, I've come to understand the importance of being comfortable with one's own sexuality. But I find myself in interaction after interaction that never breaks out of the platonic. It's because I'm afraid to escalate...simply for the common fear that I won't be taken seriously, but also because I have a kink. I am terribly attracted to women's feet. I'm attracted to all the usual feminine body parts, but the feet are definitely my favorite. I've been this way for as long as I can remember, and it's a part of me that's never going to change. Nor would I particularly care to. I can have sex like a normal guy, without ever even looking at her feet. But every time I talk to a girl, it's in the back of my mind that there's this weird part of my sexuality she won't accept. I have a feeling some of you are going to say it's an excuse, I'm a pussy and I should get over it. Or even that I'm gross or sick. Which is okay. But I'm also looking for some constructive ideas. Thanks in advance. This is not a problem for the vast majority of women. If you're about to sleep with them, you could definitely tell them that you find feet to be very sexy and get a positive or neutral response. It's in no way inappropriate, and nothing you should be ashamed/self-conscious about. One tip for you though, read up on massage. Sounds like you would enjoy giving a foot rub, and if you do it right you can make women absolutely melt.

Author:	edible [ Mon Aug 27, 2007 6:13 pm ]
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A lot of women stand on their feet almost all day. A foot rub is ALWAYS welcome. Who doesn't like to be pampered? Get a book on reflexology.. It's about using the feet to relax your whole body. I believe it is understood that men look at a girls feet for attraction and hygene. Almost every guy I know looks at a girls feet before they approach. I always keep mine pedicured just for that reason. I dated a guy that sucked on my toes, I didnt like it as much as he did, but I was open to it because he liked it so much and that made me happy to see him so turned on.

Author:	Sulaco [ Tue Aug 28, 2007 3:30 am ]
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Hey, thanks everyone. This has been helpful. I can massage feet until the cows come home. It's crossed my mind to take a reflexology class, but I'm afraid I'd get too turned on.

Author:	OneTime [ Fri Sep 14, 2007 6:45 am ]
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most women have more shoes than I have clothes, actually all women do. They get pedicures and all that stuff so obviously they want guys to see their feet or at least the top of it. Everyone has their own fetishes. And having a foot fetish isn't all that uncommon to some other weird fetishes out there. Best of luck!

Author:	Rookie [ Fri Sep 14, 2007 7:22 am ]
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If a woman has a nice body she´s probably used to getting compliments about her ass, breasts etc. I honestly think most women will LOVE being complimented about their feet in an intimate situation. I also believe that most women associate nice feet with something uncommon and model like (I certainly do). Originality my friend. "You know, one of the first things that got me attracted to you are you´re absolutely gorgeous feet". Why not? EDIT: Guess I ignored the whole goddess, submissive, worship aspect of it. But I´m still convinced that in most cases a small obsession with feet will be very well received!

Author:	EasyLover [ Sun Sep 16, 2007 7:48 pm ]
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hmm well just make sure you don't get too excited in your pants when she's wearing open toe sandles................

Author:	BlackBull [ Sun Sep 16, 2007 8:02 pm ]
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Quote: If a woman has a nice body she´s probably used to getting compliments about her ass, breasts etc. I honestly think most women will LOVE being complimented about their feet in an intimate situation. I also believe that most women associate nice feet with something uncommon and model like (I certainly do). Originality my friend. "You know, one of the first things that got me attracted to you are you´re absolutely gorgeous feet". Why not? EDIT: Guess I ignored the whole goddess, submissive, worship aspect of it. But I´m still convinced that in most cases a small obsession with feet will be very well received! I dont think that will go down comfortably with her. Most women hate feet,talking about it,referring to it... Careful.This one's a double-edged sword.And it can sting if misused.

Author:	SouthernCross [ Sun Sep 16, 2007 8:12 pm ]
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Quote: hmm well just make sure you don't get too excited in your pants when she's wearing open toe sandles................ EasyLover ur silly HAHAHA

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Author:	Alekc [ Sun Sep 16, 2007 8:29 pm ]
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everyone has something that turns them on the most. yours just isnt the one that is popular. (btw out of all the abnormal fetishes feet is by far the most popular so its more like .....sub-normal lol)