sounds like you do have some issues here - and maybe they are so bad that points and hints on this forum alon may not help, but here are my two cents anyway.....
first thing is this - just like you started talking to the oldies, attempt to talk to anyone and ask them an OPEN question or even an OPEN comment about themselves or the environment.. DONT TRY TO PICK THEM UP.....
many people who think 'theres a hot chick, i must impress them, i must get there number, i must fuck them...'
this puts enormous pressure on what should be a VERY basic interation - an initial conversation -
If you go out and talk to any pereson, a 1 or a 10 witht the mindset just to talk to them with no ambition to get numbers then there will be less pressure.
ie you:excuse me, do you know where subway is?' (even tho you know the answer'
them: 'yep, its down about 100 meters'
simple interation, and this can continue to something further 'what do you reccommend there, i usually have the meatball but i think i need a change (but only if they are walking in the same direction - so it seem snatural)
'excuse me, have you got the time on you' is one im sure we can all recall using once or twice, i did it many a times when starting. it wont benefit your game directly, but it will help on intiating interaction with people - even if it is very closed, atleast you are asking them a question and progressing past saying 'hi'
When i first started, and even i bit now for soem fun i loved to interact with clothing store women - as they get paid to be friendly (but they usually are anyway) and they are usually cute if you go to surf stores or alike.
a basic interaction i had yesterday
7: hi, how are you going?
me: (enthusiastically) fantastic (i say this cause its not normal comapred to 'ok thanks'
me: how is your day going? (at this point my body language is still towards the clothes im looking at)
her: oh ok, thanks
me: only ok? (i turn to her) why is your day only ok?
her: well its kinda boring in here, there is no one around.
me: so know youve got nothing to do except re-fold the clothes and straghten up the racks....
the convo esculated into her should be wearing something more revealing to attract more people in the store....
BUT the point is - this is a nice place for someone to start..
ALSO
you must have friends or people you hang with in your town. go for a walk down then street and ask him to initiate converstaion and you can come in with the convo woth him. In a lot of ways have the basis of winging him.
and lastly,
once you talk to someone as a person, not as a 'pick up play thing, or goal' then you will find that people are actually very nice. you just need to speak to them....
goodluck
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