I am going to tell you about my experience because I know u have been through what I have been through. Although I hope you didn't. Chiefly, i am not making up this shit yet this happened before i found about PU.
i am a foreigner and back in my town, i was COOL! However, when i got to USA and to "the high school", i was at the bottom of the pile! I encountered a whole knew setting and i was supposed to survive. i thought i was in jail. I was super SHY and didn't want to talk cos i had an accent and fit the stereotypical foreigner perfectly. This caused problems. where ever i go, ppl would diss me. Girls guys, everyone. i didn't have any respect at all. ppl who talked to me were those who pitted me. so i stuck at home and stayed there as no one would want to hang out.
i got fucking annoyed of the whole world for not accepting me! then i met KEN! he changed my whole life! dude, he had a simple life. he was a foreigner too but ppl somehow respected him. He had a gf, he played soccer, and sometimes basketball (all for fun). he had a very pleasant personality and most of all, a purpose. to do the best he can to be successful. i adored him. Then, before i moved to another place, we met up for fish and chips! he told me there that he could have never made it through school without me. i was fucking speechless!!!
Then after i found the community, i realized that he was friendly outgoing funny and cocky and was frank about what he believes in! Total alpha male. really....? NO! He was just living his life. He HAD a life. Since i met him, i found other people who were just fun to hang out with. i started to make friends and more friends. i didn't find these ppl before i met Ken because I only had extreme hopes for myself. Being the Saviour of the school from dragons was one of them. Lol. Sure, people still dissed me but i HAD a life. it didn't matter to me anymore. I went to the gym with a friend, I study with ppl, went to the movies with a couple of others, and celebrated my b-day with a couple others. soon, the dissing stopped too! i learned how to be a fun and social guy. After this happens, even if no one can make it to a study date, it will be totally fine. I am not getting stuck into the 'old life'.
Life just got easier. Now, since I know what really goes on, I don't get dissed at all. Because I am not doing silly things that will get me dissed. I look up in the eye to people when I talk to them. I find out if they are cool, then I hang out. I also know how to avoid being dissed and being looked as the geek, or the dork! Tell me if u want to know more about this. As soon as I started mixing around with people, I figured out things like. For example, I am not going to attempt to bench 170llb even to show off because I just can't! These lessons are what u get from taking the time to start approaching. If u dont look someone in the eye, you will never know how to counter the anxiety that comes with it.And finally, take it slow. Unknowingly, I did so. I didn't realize this until I got into PU. if you ever think you have a setback once in a while, it is OK! You are still on track! Improve little by little!
Remember; 20% theory, 80% practice
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that's sorta what I did although I'm sure better ways exist.