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Author:  D_Haile03 [ Fri Aug 01, 2008 10:44 pm ]
Post subject:  How Do I Get Over It?
Guys ok I want you to post in all the advice that you have.

OK I know all the pick up lines, well part of it. I know how to approach girls and make them want me. I know how the kino thing works and all the rest. Infact I am not bragging when I say I am not the ugliest guy. infact i would give myself 6-7 out of 10 on looks. yet that brought me no difference. sometimes I see these beautiful gurls wanting me to approach them ( how do I know? because I have learnt them frm david deangelo's news letters, from nick shane, and all the other pick up artists.)

anyway getting to the point, whenever there comes the time or opportunity to go for it, ( start talking to the gurl) I fall into this fear? anxiety? loss of confidence? what ever you call it I convince my self not to approach them. I don't think I am ugly, or creepy, I just think I am going to get turned down. and one of my problem is I don't like the idea of not getting what I want. I have the reputation for being arrogant in my group and that I am over confident, but the realiy is when it comes to approaching the HB's I convince myself not to do it.

Any advice will be beneficial and appreciated.
Author:  worldwidechris [ Sat Aug 02, 2008 12:33 am ]
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Wow, you could be my twin. Kind of scary, so I guess we'll have to fight to the death or something... Ha ha, that would be fun, minus the death part.
Well man, I've got the exact same problem. When the approaching aspect is taken out of the equation, I'm sitting at nearly a 100% success rate. When I notice sets that need to be opened, I also get the same kind of hesitation that is impossible to describe.
One thing that I've started to focus on is the slight amount of sudden "fear" that surmounts as the approach begins. You know, that point where your shoulders face the target, you take the first step, and you suddenly realize that you're past the point of no return. The only thing to do is approach or bitch out and be pissed off at yourself. I've made that "fear" enjoyable, but unless I experience the "fear" on a regular basis, I receive the occasional bouts of hesitation that are so damn aggravating to fight with. Maybe that can help.
I've also gotten to the point that I'll get off when I pass the point of no return (I won't literally nut myself, but rather feel "pleasure" from passing that point). Currently, I focus on that "pleasure" aspect to help build up the confidence to pass over the "fear" aspect of approaching.
Just to clear up...I don't have any doubt in my mind that I can't conquer the set, it's just getting up off my ass and getting past that point where there's no turning around that is annoying me.
Oh well, as one of my old martial arts instructors told me..."Don't think about it, just do it!"
Author:  Infamous110 [ Sat Aug 02, 2008 3:16 am ]
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Sounds like some form of analysis paralysis - you are confident but think too much when you see an attractive girl.

Fear/anxiety is really only a motivator for improving your way of life. Imagine how much would be added to your life should you view fear in the correct way?
Author:  Fury [ Sat Aug 16, 2008 4:49 am ]
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I think this is a large part of my problem - over analyzing everything. Eventually the moment passes and the girl just gives up on me, so I give up myself. Epic fail haha
Author:  Latino [ Mon Sep 01, 2008 1:42 pm ]
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Hi,

Same here.

I over analyze situations and let approach anxiety prevent me from opening.

Latino
Author:  K-man [ Thu Sep 11, 2008 11:06 am ]
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I'm new to this forum, so maybe someone already gave a similar explanation, but this is how I started getting over my AA:

one day it was raining very hard, and I was going home, but didn't have an umbrella or anything like that... so I was just standing there, waiting for the rain to stop. Then I saw a girl with an umbrella walking in the direction I was heading, so I asked her if I could join her under her umbrella, just till the end of the street.

For myself, it didn't feel like I was trying something, and that made me a lot more comfortable...

At the end of the street, we kept talking for about 5 minutes... was really cool, and above all: I scored my first number! 8)

So I waited again at the corner of the street, 'cause I still had a long way to go home and the previous girl wasn't going my way anymore... As I felt good, I decided to try it again!

Half an hour later, 4 walks with girls and 2 numbers later, I came come. It really felt like this was some sort of new chapter in my game-story!

So what I'm trying to say is: if you got AA, look for opportunities where you feel comfortable with yourself, where your main reason is not getting her number (in this case: going home without getting wet)... Good luck with it!

K-man.
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