I just got out of a long relationship and I'm noticing a bit of rust and social shyness now. It's so annoying, but hey, it's part of the deal I guess. Especially when going for smoke shows. I'm in Shanghai, and there are lot's of hot chicks there. But, they can be mean sometimes, especially the hottest ones. So I need to take the odd rejection, which definitely happens a fair bit when I'm doing a lot of openers, as a learning experience and laugh it off. When I take failures personally, I feel worse and more approach anxiety in future.
I'm hit and miss with social shyness. Even for talking to guys too, just in a normal day to day situation. I don't know what causes it exactly in my case. Sometimes I'm feeling on point, sometimes I'm not. Doing long hard workouts helps a lot, as does eating well. I find if I'm sitting in front of my computer all day, I'll feel low testosterone levels. Girls notice it, I get rejected more, and it fuels a negative loop of negative thoughts and decreased interest to open sets.
When I'm on my way home from the gym, I feel awesome, and never shy, even if I'm looking all sweaty in my gym clothes. I'll make a lot more aggressive openers then. It's easy to tell yourself you shouldn't care, but it's a biochemical thing so you need to change your physical chemistry I think. There are a lot of natural and healthy ways to do it. Obviously drinking helps, but it is not the long term solution for real pick up because you end up acting less sharp. I get confident from booze, like everyone, but then become a sloppy drunk.
I'm looking for some good supplements now. I'll let you guys know if I find any. I took L-Theanine from Now vitamins and it didn't work great on it's own. It was ok, but I want something better if I can find. I like tribulus terrestris for my workouts. That helps raise my testosterone and confidence.
I'll let you guys know if I find something. I'm going to look again and see what's out there. Have you guys had any luck with supplements? For social shyness I mean. Thanks
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