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 Post subject: A reason
PostPosted: Tue May 07, 2013 3:41 pm 
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I find that I'm freaked out considerably at the thought of talking to strangers of the street. Sometime's I do it, sometimes I feel as though its impossible to do. So I thought about, really really thought about it for quite some time, and realized that to be able to chat with these people and not be so intimidated I need to have an a reason to talk to them, I have to feel this reason eminate inside myself. I cant just be like..."oh! I wanna go meet people" think about it lightly and do it.

So my question is, what is the process, or how do you create a reason to talk to someone, you REALLY dont NEED to talk to?


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 Post subject: Re: A reason
PostPosted: Tue May 07, 2013 4:00 pm 
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I find that I'm freaked out considerably at the thought of talking to strangers of the street. Sometime's I do it, sometimes I feel as though its impossible to do. So I thought about, really really thought about it for quite some time, and realized that to be able to chat with these people and not be so intimidated I need to have an a reason to talk to them, I have to feel this reason eminate inside myself. I cant just be like..."oh! I wanna go meet people" think about it lightly and do it.

So my question is, what is the process, or how do you create a reason to talk to someone, you REALLY dont NEED to talk to?
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 Post subject: Re: A reason
PostPosted: Tue May 07, 2013 4:27 pm 
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Thats really interesting, I find that alot of the time when I try to make these approaches...I'm basically "Hyperfocus" and I think to much. Is this something that goes away with time?


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