Yeah, cachiiing!!! penny drops....wasn't quite sure where you were coming from.
It would be something if I could do an approach with the same mindset as I would going to run along the beach.
Actually just thought, something that I used to do was pretty similar- I used to tell myself that it was going to be like a walk in the park and that my feelings were actually due to my fucked up perspective and that the true "reality" of the situation was "approaching hot girls is like a walk in the park"- no matter how I feel.
Would be awesome if I could get to the point where actions and feelings coincided!!!!
hehe i am not done with you buddy my unconscious mind is working on making a perfect strategy for you...but in the meantime i just throw the pic for meditation...hehe
actually the pic is a perfect fit for you cause internal barriers stopped you from approaching not external, didn’t they?
that’s because we kinda live in psychological reality... but more on this later...
here what i was having in mind... there are things you enjoy and like to do...the things that make you feel good
, happy and fulfilled...and those are the things that you need to devote to... what we all want is to feel good
happy and ok...you don’t actually want to fuck or approach the girl...ok you do, but why in the world you want it? cause you want to feel good
... ok? you want to feel good important and happy don’t you? of course its only natural to have feelings for girls and to want to make love to them but for a while why not just relax, feel grateful and have fun with the things you already have...cause that will provide you with clarity of the mind
and trust me on this brah! this is the most important resource you have...
Now, as you concentrate on those things you like to do
that are already giving you feelings of peace wellbeing and happiness, you will naturally attract more of such feelings and opportunities for such feelings into your life...you don’t have to approach girls
, i mean i like to approach girls wherever and whenever i see them but its not the only way
…. if that is causing stress in your life right now perhaps you need to step back for a while, stop and think about other ways... there are many many other ways more effective and more efficient…why not take today 30 minutes for working on that…exploring other options…and you can always fall back to this direct cold approach perhaps later with more wisdom, vision and perspective…or when you resolve internal obstacles
and issues of which you are not even aware of...
Actually what is more effective is to solve problem on higher levels
lack of abundance of the women in ones life is but a symptom of obstacles on higher level... its only a symptom
remember that, not a root of the issue…you probably harbor some beliefs and superstitions, some outdated ways of thinking or behavior that are preventing you from having abundance of women in your life...there are some ways you organize your life that are preventing a natural flow of women toward you…
There are a thousand hacking at the branches of evil to one who is striking at the root
Henry david thoreau
I mean i can offer you some advices how to manage aa and it may even work and it may work real fast but why not structure your life in a way that women naturally comes to you and that you meet them on homecourt where you will not feel like a hunter or weirdo and not feel good
1. One of the ways to make you more attractive to women naturally is to follow your passions…when you do what you really like you shine bro…
you become so full of good feelings and hormones that people start approaching you wanting to kiss you and hug you… longing to be with you and to be in your presence…
why not explore into that...why not become expert on how to feel good
, how to feel blisfull?
2. the other way is to set your life so that you naturally have more opportunities for meeting and seducing women…(for example- join yoga or tenis course or french classes or offer yourself private classes to people, volonteer to organization meet new people man and women etc there are thousands things one could do...)direct or cold approach is kinda playing game on the road not at home…while we look for the ways that you play with homecourt advantage…
of course if one goes through pain and approach enough women in spite aa one comes to feel at homecourt even if he is approaching a stranger girl directly in the daygame particularly if one resolves internal issues and beliefs so that those voices that makes you feel like weirdo never appear again…
I approached so much women that most of the time I don’t feel nothing…it become natural to me to see a stranger girl approach her and start caressing her or touching her without ever seeing her before and without even saying a word (when I got rid of obligation to say anything, not even a single word, a huge burden come off my shoulders
and I started approaching more and more successfully and the funny thing is then the words started coming easily and effortlessly hehehe)…perhaps the only thing that sometimes bothers me is there any males in vicinity that could feel threatened by my assertiveness…
But again let us set up your life in a way that you will naturally meet beautiful women
…I am looking forward to write more on this later… here you have it some food for thoughts…
The other thing that I want you to become aware of is hidden hamster wheel...
and this is fucking with a mind of many people preventing them from having success with women and other beautiful things
“I will be happy when…”
“ I can not be happy if…”
“ I can not be happy until…”
Many people are like that however it doesn’t work that way… first you must be happy then the things will appear in your life…That’s why I said enjoy the things you like and that you already have focus on them and the joy will spread to the rest of your life as a contagion…cause we live in psychological reality and what you focus on increases...
huh, boy aint I brilliant! that wonderfull & unbeatable feeling when you love yourself