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PostPosted: Thu Jan 17, 2013 11:54 am 
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I will be going to a convention with a good female friend of mine (She already has a boyfriend) and a few other friends, im still working on social skills/value and I really want to use the opportunity to improve on my socialising, last convention I went to I was mostly quiet in a small group and it didn't go very well (Managed to get a hug from a girl I was a little bit interested in though) The thing about the girl I plan on practicing on is I don't want to go too far, just want to see if what i've read actually work on future potential girlfriends

She already knows I practice seduction on her occassionally and is perfectly okay with it actually and the only intimate thing we've done was hug (And that's all I want actually) I will be staying at her place for two nights and plan to meet and be nice and open with her family. So any advice on what I could practice besides eye-contact in social situations just for the sake of bettering skills? I really don't want to go quiet for the entire weekend like last time

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PostPosted: Thu Jan 17, 2013 12:18 pm 
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Practice games and stories. The cube, trust test, etc.

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PostPosted: Thu Jan 17, 2013 12:33 pm 
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I've heard of the cube before alright, will go look that up now, I also have an knowledge for dream interpretation and the ability to tell people their characteristics based on their star-signs (Im not sure if it interests girls but people seem to agree with and listen to me when im correct) and it's two of those 'unique skills' (If they actually work that is) I did give that same friend a gift for her and her boyfriend, a frame with their name meanings on it, the following day she told me she was tearing up because of how accurate it was :P but again these things aren't common in the PUA world (Or not that I know of) but they do make girls go 'Yeah, you're right, how'd you know that?' sometimes :)

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PostPosted: Sun Jan 20, 2013 12:17 pm 
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Okay I didn't actually go to the convention as planned, wasn't feeling too well and it's about 100 miles away (I dont drive either) My bro called over and I used him for practice with eye contact and keeping a conversation going, seems to be getting better and better. We decided to go out for a drink in the pub and we sat and talked to some of his friends, again I was practicing eye contact and remembering their names. There was a time I didn't listen very well in a social situation but seems I can when I try, I am still however, too quiet. I can open up to people I trust and know well it seems but complete strangers, I find it hard. One of the guys I was talking too, seems to be pretty profound with women (He's engaged and has a son now though) and the advice he gave me was pretty much the same as I find on the forums and in books, im not 100% sure what I want from girls though, fun or a relationship? I am leaning towards fun however (At least for now) When I see a potential target, I just freeze, even though I dress and smell well and im physically attractive, I still don't demonstrate a lot of confidence. I guess im not getting out and talking to people enough, I guess when it comes to talking about interesting or impressive things, I go blank, I do spend most of my days playing video games

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PostPosted: Wed Jan 23, 2013 2:16 pm 
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I think that last line or two is what you need to go at. Practising on a friend who knows you're practicing pick up isn't really the best way to go about it. She obviously sees you as a friend only, so how are you going to know if a routine (for instance) actually works? More importantly, it is easy to talk to your friends. Most people are confident with friends, but until you go out of your comfort zone and chat with strangers you won't get more confident and be able to do so. But keep up the practice and try to stretch your comfort zone.

I suppose there is something to be said for building up your confidence enough to approach in the first place, but generally your confidence will improve so much faster and quicker if you push yourself out of your comfort zone. Don't quite go and chuck yourself right in at the deep end, but just build up on small targets that get you further out of your comfort zone each time.


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Good point I guess, well i've never had a sister or much experience with girls at all but she's the easiest one I know I can really open up to. I am a quick learner luckily and I used to be packed with confidence before school began, I had to get counselling when I was 23 but it helped a lot, now I simply can't wait to get what I want, i've regained the lost confidence but I have a lot of practicing and work to do, ill get there, step by step, just got to begin with the foundations but I have the drive to get far with this :D Im not totally inexperienced with girls, I have kissed 6 of them but never really picked one up on purpose

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