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One thing that scares the crap out of me when I think about talking to someone I don't know is the fear that I will not know what to say. The fear that at some point in the conversation my mind will go blank and I will not know what to say. I am trying to think of things I can do to makes sure I NEVER have to experience that awkward feeling again. I'm sure this is a much bigger deal to shy, introverted people like myself who often already seem boring and uninteresting to others in the first place. The awkward silences just make us seem even more uninteresting.
I see that others are using routines, stories, games, and stuff to have things to say. Some of these kinds of things though seem like they wouldn't necessarily fit with every kind of conversation that you might find yourself in. I think it can depend upon the conversation as to whether it would be best to tell this story or that story. One thing might be more a appropriate for one moment than another. I personally, would rather flow with conversations and make them seem more natural then to jump around from one thing to something else totally unrelated.
On that note, I was thinking that there has to be some topics that would fit well in any conversation. And if I could come up with at least 10 different topics like that (that would fit well in any conversation) then I could keep those topics in the back of my mind for when I need them and that could help me get over the fear of running out of stuff to say. I think the fear can be alleviated by being prepared. Think about how much more at ease you would be if you had at least 10 different topics or conversational threads that you could launch into.
So, what do you guys think would make the best backup topics? Obviously not things like religion - not everybody agrees on that stuff so it wouldn't fit every conversation. And not other worldly things like ghosts and aliens - not everybody is interested in things like that. I guess they would have to be ordinary everyday things that we can all relate to. Any ideas?
Well, I'm no MPUA. I can share resources I use or things I've done. For starters, after some disasterous occurences in my life, drunk driving accident, dead dad and sis. My game went to shit. I got depressed. My game was never flashy. I was always humble and slightly shy. I found success going to Jeffy free tour in Januar (check my review). I wanted it to happen after free tour and pull but, it didn't happen. It was gradual. I was chill. I kept cool. I got numbers, I watched rsd instructor vblogs, I rarely posted online (post count under 200 since 2011 start date), I tried new things, started meditating, trying new things, and learning real social dynamics principles. I learned about freedom from outcome and bringing intention still. I learned about abundance, having options, and not chasing a oneittus. The one I recommend that helped me is self amusing. I am a clown, I laugh at myself sometimes, and topics are about my perspective or what I think is funny.
I got jeff free tour bonus for signing up. I await Alex free tour next month and the bonus to follow. I'll be there in Montreal for anyone interested. I paid a $25 deposit I'll get refunded at the event so, anyone interested can inbox me and I'll let them know who is coming with.