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| Author: | Indie_Russell [ Sun Jul 08, 2012 12:11 am ] |
| Post subject: | Have you lost your game before? |
Recently ive become someone else. Simply and specifically I find it very hard to have a normal conversation with anyone (guy/girl) who isnt a good friend/relative. Ive always been like this to some degree but within the last couple months ive got alot worse. Its not like I'm nervous around people either, my brain just jams up from trying to think of something funny and spits out the first thing it thinks of (if anything at all-which can be weird or plain unfunny). I don't know what's triggered this or if it's hopefully a phase, and I do know thinking about it puts even more pressure on me now, but I'm 23 and really wanna change. Unless I have something deeply in common with the person I can't just "talk" about anything. Alot of the time id admit it's from lack of trying, like at work I dont like the guys there (just not my type of people) and just don't want to socialize with them, so I end up talking very little during the day. This can affect my actual work as well. So in regards to pickup, I don't wanna look like I'm bragging but I'm just stating this to show that I used to be capable- I have slept with 35 women, and many more that i havnt actually fucked. This is a number that came relatively naturally to me in the past, but it's been my lack of things to talk about/speech anxiety(?) that's put a stop to this lately. I still have 2 girls that I can see as fb's but even then that's maybe once a fortnight. It's like I feel Insuperior when i don't pick up now and that must come off as desperate towards girls. Point is, I feel like I've lost my mojo, in and out of the game, and I don't know why! There is nothing that I can think of that could be a catalyst for it. The thing that gets to me to is that I'm very well travelled, have an extreme job and have quite a few interesting Hobbies but yet I still have nothing to say for fear of sounding like a douche. I have no fear of actually approaching a girl (or even a guy for that matter) if I'm thinking straight and have something to talk about(which is 1 in a 100), but it's this having nothing to say the majourity of the time that really hurts me. If I had verbal dhiorhea I feel i would be unstoppable. Another thing too is that I have a reputation as a player, which I guess has been putting even more pressure on me to perform, but then getting no results makes me feel like a failure. Most of my friends are married or in a LTR, so this doesn't help me feel any better about the whole thing either. Can anyone help me or shine some light on this topic? I'm gonna post this elsewhere too, don't know which catagory it belongs in. |
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| Author: | anon78910 [ Sat Jul 28, 2012 3:33 pm ] |
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wow almost same situation here exactly. Except no Fb's here, current cold streak. If u find out please let me know because I just never have anything to say either unless its with someone I have a lot in common with or if its something im serious about. Just know your not the only one out there. Ive been with about 20 girls in the last 3 years and am now on a 6 month cold streak. Mojo and game just vanished. My GUESS is that maybe me or you are looking for something more, like that one girl and have become picky because we feel like we can because of past success, which is understandable and not a bad thing in my opinion (says the guy on a 6 month cold streak). My biggest motivation for getting girls originally was to prove to myself that i CAN. i didnt really like hooking up with a bunch of different girls (well i did sexually and it boosted my ego). I had sex with 8 girls in a 2 month period and then met one i really liked. I dropped all the other girls and stuck with her. She dumped me about 3 months later and then the cold streak began. I dont know if me mentioning this is helping but I thought id say what happened to me in case you can relate to it. |
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| Author: | anon78910 [ Sat Jul 28, 2012 3:37 pm ] |
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i should mention to that i also have NO fear of approaching anyone and saying anything when I know/believe in what im saying. never have had approach anxiety, just simply dont know what to say. |
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| Author: | easel [ Wed Aug 01, 2012 1:54 am ] |
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One side effect of Mystery Method. I have this problem before and worse. Several months ago, I just thought normal conversation is completely boring. It makes me worse... Then I read 60 years of challenge. It helped me. I talked less and hold eye contact when girls are talking. Even there is silent, I do not break it and let girls to break it. I have to say, mystery method is a good thing to help you talk. But once you took it 120% seriously, it would mess you up. |
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| Author: | easel [ Wed Aug 01, 2012 1:56 am ] |
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My fun now is screen girls. Enjoy their feminine vibe and enjoy they qualify themselves. |
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