Masturbation's effects on Social Shyness



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PostPosted: Thu Mar 06, 2008 5:31 am 
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I don't really feel bad about masturbation anymore. Years ago I used to feel really guilty about it and struggled against it immensley. One morning though I woke up and thought "why don't I just stop it?" like it was the easiest thing to do, and from there on I did stop it and I felt extremely in control. I was also very dark and serious. Eventually though, the thought came into my mind "I can't live without masturbation" and so I did it. Since then, I haven't really been able to completely quit the habit.

Anyway, I think it's more about mentalities more than anything else. There can be a certain stigma to wanking especially if you don't feel very self-confident. If you're wanking a lot but not making any progress with seduction then it can seem wanking is what is holding you back. But while that can seem somewhat true it's more of an excuse than anything else. It's an excuse preventing you to see that it's your own bone laziness that is holding you back.

Now, not wanking is something to do. It's a goal, and when one is really motivated to achieve that, he breaks out of his lethargy. So, having woken up from the sleep of having no motivation, it's easier to be motivated doing other things, like picking up chicks.

In this instance, then, stopping wanking can be seen as a good thing. But it's useless if you're not motivated. And with what I've found, it's hard to get motivated to quit wanking cold turkey when you know there's nothing inheriently wrong with wanking in the first place.

Having said that, I don't like to beat the monkey too much. I usually keep it down to 2-3 days on average. The body requires resources to make that valuable love juice, and having it in constant mass production probably makes one more tired and irratable. Plus, who wants to be a sex craving animal all the time?


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I'm trying to go 4 weeks without it. I was an every day guy before, and sometimes more then once a day. I'm on day 10 now. I deleted all porn from my computer. I dunno what effect it's really going to have on me, but I'll find out. I haven't been laid in like over a month since i just broke up with my 7 year girlfriend, so I do think about sex all the damn time. Hell, if I don't make it the full month, I'm at least going to quit looking a porn. It's very weird coming out of a 7 year relationship. Not only is it weird trying to pick up chicks, but it's really all I've been thinking about. We'll see what happens


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I masturbate a lot less now then I have done in the passed. Before it was about 10+ a week now I try to keep it down to 3 times.

I think if you over do it, it WILL effect your game and if you don't do it often enough it WILL also effect it. I think if you know when you're going to go out sarging you should give yourself about 2-3 days build up. Just my opinion, but it varies a lot.


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Ha so my first post will be contributing to a thread about masturbation... kinda ironic

Well anyways, after reading The Game i haven't made my trouser snake cry for almost 2 weeks and i notice a difference in my sex drive. Every day i've hung out with my friends during these 2 weeks i find myself sayin shit like "lets go find some chicks", "Get some pussy" etc.. an i've been sturring up conversations(spittin game) with girls over text that i hardly know. I think actually going once a week might even be too much for me unfortunately :oops:
So it all comes down to the individual or the individual's backround i think. I grew up in a catholic grade school( I'm in a public highschool now) being taught that masturbation's a sin, sex before marriage is wrong, and my mom always prevented me from goin to parties with girls or hanging out with them in general. And i think it's had a pretty large effect on me now.
Due to how my child life was lived i really believe i have a low sex drive, but i'm not making that an excuse for only gettin laid just a handful of time. I Need to harness my sex drive an not feed the dragon.


edit: also would anyone wanna join in on an experiment with me? I want to see what results in my sex drive/sarging/ mental state could occur from masturbating everyday for a month and completely cutting it off for a month. I'm trying to find out for myself atleast the best times do to it and how often.


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I tend to think that if social shyness affects u as it does me, masturbation wont affect it either way.


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40 Days, 40 Nights. Gotta be one of my most favorite "ROMCOM - romantic comedies".

You guys should watch it. Josh Harnett, the main character, this guy is balls-out playing hard to get with this girl, and she goes for him hard, now watch the strategies he'll lay down, he doesnt even know he is using pua skills


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lads im not really sure wat ur on about?

knocking one out releases endorphins in your body which makes you glow afterwards its like a workout with one arm.

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I dont see how masturbation relates to going out and meeting women unless maybe you are solely looking for a good fuck.

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this is really good that we can discuss this very openly... and not feel like wimps. I personnally was thinking of doing it just before i read through the thread and now i'm convinced not to do it. I've also noticed that I have better articulation and enthuism when i hold back from polishing the wood! so contrary to coming off as a sex crazed AFC I come off as very interesting when in field.


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i think that going out with a loaded gun does make the desire to close a lot greater. But it may be to the point that you lose some control in yourself. Mystery talks about stopping foreplay when it starts happening in public. But by holding back the love juice, it makes you want to break that rule and get it out as soon as possible. I think there should be hold backs on masturbation, it keeps the desire to close going; however, it shouldn't be once a week. 2 or 3 times a week sounds nice though.

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i agree,If you jack it off everyday then wheres your motivation for meeting women?When you know you can go sit on your computer and jerk it anytine you wont care about women.From this day on no more jacking.


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IMHO you have to find yourself a balance. Style have his one, I have mine, you should find yours.

When you get to masturbate everyday it's bad because somehow, you lack sexual tension. If you get 30/60/90 days without that or any sexual feeling, you lack sexual tension because your body adapts with that state like Average Joe said.


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I think I have probably masturbated at least once almost every day of my life since I first masturbated. And to be honest with you I'm sick of it. From this moment I am going to try to go a whole week without masturbating and see what its like. If I can do that I might just try a month then maybe stop all together. I really do think masturbating affects your game and its probably not in a good way. So today will be the start of another chapter in my efforts to improve my game.


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i understand where ur coming from but its just that too much of a good thing can end up biting u in the ass. i had this girl that was in love with me but i told her from the start i wasn't going to date her because i didn't like the way she kissed i know its kinda harsh but quick and got to the point . then one day we were hanging out and shes laying on my bed and i get a phone call and jokingly i say when i get back im getting head. lol u know one of those things u don't expect to happen so when i came back shes like im ready. at this point im completely thrown off guard so i got it nd thought that was the end u know like it was a one time thing. so i liked it and called her back a few times and she knew the deal so it was kinda like a mutual agreement u know? so after 3 weeks straight of everyday nuts twice or more a day i started getting addicted, hard like i would whack off and still need to cum, after a week of trying to wein my self off it i got to a realization that i didnt need her i needed self control. so from a fellow man to another be careful cuz sometimes it gets hard ..... lol no pun intended =]


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