Masturbation's effects on Social Shyness



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PostPosted: Sat Dec 20, 2008 9:07 pm 
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Personally, I think L A Trip's got it right.
Although, at first, I also thought it was because of differences in men's sex drives that would dictate whether or not he should spank the bishop (why are there so many different ways to say jacking off?), now I'm not sure thats the full answer. I mean, lets face it, we're guys, we all have asex drive thats thru the roof, otherwise why would we be on a pick up forum trying to figure out strategies for scoring, right?
I think it's more the matter of "how does your libido rear it horny head?". For some guys going out in the field with the libido blaring makes their body language subtly more sexual, while for other guys it turns them into the wolf from that old cartoon who's cousin has to keep taking back to the country (Girls girls bring on the dames! I'm sorry cousin I'm afraid I have to take you back to the country.)and their body language blares this fact out to any HB within visual range.
So in essence, does your sex drive make you more sexual, and sexy or does it make you look like your about ready to hump her leg?
If you find your in catagory B, then choke the chicken before you go out.


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I don't really like masturbation. Before it used to relieve sexual tension and free my mind a bit, but now it has no effect what-so-ever. Before if I used to go without wanking for a while the tension would increase a fair bit, whereas nowadays it just stays the same. The reason for this is probably because I don't crave sex as much as I used to. Basically, my mentality is sex is nice but in the end isn't that special. It's fun watching pornos sometimes, but whacking off seems a pointless mechanical exercise. Better off without it, save the love juice for the real thing. :)


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I dont know if Im totally weird or what. But personally I find my sex drive to be alot higher when Im masturbating reguarlly (every day/second day). Where as when I obstain for a week or so Im actually thinking about sex less and find it alot easier to just chill out and talk to woman on a non sexual level. Am I the only dude here whos like that?


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I was a christian for a bit a while back. I managed to obstain for several months(Not including involuntary/wet dreams). Thinking about it, it was'nt my strong new beliefs or my willpower that stopped me. It was just keeping busy. My new religion took over my life, going to church meetings and hanging out with other christians nearly every day. I think keeping busy and having a social life is the best way to stop excess masturbation. That and a bit of exercise to blow of steam in a way that will benifit aswell by making you more physically attractive.

Now that I'm not a christian, I'm back to wanking daily. I belive its purely down to boredom and because I no longer have so many friends and social exceptance and value anymore to validate me. So I masturbate just to feel good and improve my self esteem. Obviously sex drive is in there but alot of it I reckon is just to make me feel better.

I agree that excess masturbation is not good. It really hampers your productivity and motivation. Things don't get done because you end up watching porn and wanking instead. I come in from work and have things I need to do but I end up just going on the net and tugging one off instead. Its stress relief and a morale boost really.

Also I find that when I'm doing it alot I have little energy to do anything. I'm not motivated to go out or socialise and I become despondent. I'm lossing my power. I'm wasting it. When I was a christian and did'nt masturbate I was energetic, enthusiastic and found it much easier to get on with people and especially women(in a friends way) and be motivated.

I belive that I need to start taking control of my mind and body. AFC's are the guys who don't understand their own biology and who just follow their 40,000 year old out of date biological programming as Mystery said in one of his vids. As aspiring PUas and thinking human beings we should be able to step back from that and assess things, detach from our natural biological drives. If you can control your mind then your the boss, everyone else is just animals running round, playing out preprogrammed cycles and processes. Its our ability to analyse and change our behaviour that makes us human and so I plan on using that. I'm gonna try the once a week approach.

Its late, I'm ranting, but that is what I think.


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actually yeh, i feel sort of that way, when i go without jakin off for a while im not in a need to jack off but i get angry really quick at the stupidest thing, everything pushes my buttons but thats after a while, but yeh when i jack off once its like i tell myself okay now i shudnt do it tommorrow, but i do it more and more, personally im trying not to, as natural as it maybe, i want my super horniness help motivate me to get more girls


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pardon my geeky and scientific guesstimate :

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You get a dopamine high when you jack off > biology

everyones resistance to it is different ala drug resistance

some can just hold out using sheer willpower for long periods of time

some cant and gets addicted easily like smoking/drugs etc

so YMMV with not jacking off


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Well I will say when I don't jackoff near as much then ill be ready to go get some pussy, then again releasing sexual tension is always good, I'm new at this and tired of my hand lmao so I started reading the Game, have gone out 2 times to try the shit and I get stuck after opening. Its not my looks its my social skills. I have all the confidence in the world in myself with music my looks my sex my personality. I just lose it when I get around a woman I like. Really bad anxiety issues around ppl, it pisses me off. Not just with girls, just ppl in general. This is the problem ya I totally just changed the subject. So what haha


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Jacking off too much makes me not care to go out and get the real deal. I'm new at this pua shit but when drunk I can play a good game but hard to close for a number. If they are in my house or at a party its just a matter of me kissing them. I guess I'm a great bullshitter when I drink. Sober I am awkward, shy and too nice. I'm too fucking honest with ppl and nervous around anyone. Its a shame because I'm confident in myself with anything then in public BAM! awkward! I even carry myself with confidence, I know women want it. I just come off as some asshole which does work but not if you can't push and pull. I just push and go home and say well fuck them I can find better.


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Has anyone mentioned the practice of "locking the inner gate" during all this?

If you want real energy and power try that and I don't mean kegel exercises.

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What if I use jacking mostly to be able to fall asleep? If I don't, I daydream, wander mentaly, go over past and future situations, or my mind starts to race. And when I do it, I usually don't think about regular sex since I am qiute into sexual fetish fantasies. (BDSM) I imagine myself as the dominant one, and HBs are subs: christian schoolgirls, european maids in the muslim harem, etc. So when I meet a familiar HB in the real world I say to myself well I whopped your ass real good yesterday, didn't I, but only in the world of unreality.

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Reread the poem from Chapter 5 of "The Game" by Neil Strauss and when you come to a realization you will know that this is why we sarge!


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Sorry, I made a mistake. I meant to reread chapter 4 of "The Game". Focus on the poem by Neil Strauss titled "Sexual Frustration" and the last paragraph that quotes something like "Even the wiseman dwells in a fool's paradise."

Its a good reference for a starting point and something to look into every now and again. Whenever I am not getting laid or even touching or texting a woman, I will reread this and then go sarge. For myself it allows me to reflect on how pathetic my life is at the moment, how I have improved to that point, it motivates me to improve the 3 life areas (Health, Wealth, Love/Relationships) and pumps me up to go out sarging for new women and numbers. :P


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I believe in not over thinking it. If you do it, you do it no big deal.

However, just be aware when you are doing it cause you are bored, anxious, nervous, or stressed.

Over doing it cause put your body under harmful stress.

Best way to keep from doing it is to just get a life that keeps you busy all the time. I bet the longest you went was when you went to some type of summer camp.


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Also, these days there's no need to do it alone. Use a site like https://www.masturbate2gether.com/, find a girl to enjoy it with. Most girls don't really care what you look like as long as you're horny.


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