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| Author: | rezrez0 [ Sun Jul 24, 2011 7:08 pm ] |
| Post subject: | not sure what to do. leaving for college |
ok so almost two years ago now I met a very pretty girl (hb9), she later became my homecoming/prom date 2 years ago when I was still in High School.. we always really liked each other but never made it an official relationship.I guess you can say we've unofficially been dating for over a year if you add up the total. I started losing interest in her because of how introverted she was with me (shy) when with a lot of other people she was a lot more open.. so I kind of stopped talking to her and started seeing another girl. I hadn't talked to her for about 3 months when she called me one night and told me she always loved me and had a thing for me then I just flat out told her I have no feelings for you and i'm already seeing another girl. So no contact again for a few months. but then we started becoming "friends" again,nothing sexual or emotional, but just seeing her with other friends and talking. She started becoming a lot more open with me (not as shy as before) and started talking to me more.. Now about a month ago we took it next level and started seeing each other A LOT (almost everyday) and we're basically boyfriend/girlfriend now but without the title. We hold hands, kiss, make out, go to each others houses at night, do everything.-she even brings me to her family reunions and such-we obviously like each other a lot now. BUT . there is a HUGE problem. in 11 days I leave for college in a city 4 hours away IN PLANE. The reason why I havn't asked her out is because of this. She knows that I am leaving but we have never discussed about this seriously, and I really feel the need we have to. I feel I need to talk to her about our open possibilities and what we can do to make it work out. In the 2 years that I've known her/unofficially dated-she hasn't had a boyfriend-and i've already seen 2 chicks. Also, her brother is a very close friend of mine & trusts me a lot with her, 75% of the people she closely hangs out with are very good friends of mine too and her mom (parents are divorced and she lives with her mom) loves me.. the guy who is going to be my roommate in college is actually an extremely close friend to her too (one of her best friends). So as you might tell, it's sort of a closely knit group.. I'm still going to be coming back here every winter/spring/summer though-so maybe about 3-4 months a year ill be at home? I really am not sure what to do- I love her but I think I made a mistake of going for her a month before I leave to college. It's like I wish I could fast-forward the 5 years of college and still be with her afterwards. I've never been this close with her my 2 years of knowing her. We havn't talked seriously about this and i'm not sure how I should do so. Should I tell her beforehand that we need to talk about serious stuff or just randomly bring it up? Not even lying I feel like i'm married to her already from pretty much all her family knowing me-i guess that's how close we actually are that she's presented me to her whole family.. I really need advice guys, and i'm sorry I wrote so much but I really feel I needed to explain the whole situation to be able to get the best advice possible. If you guys can please help out i'd appreciate it a lot because as we know, the day I leave is only 11 days away and the thought is slowly killing me. thanks a lot! |
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| Author: | $uave [ Sun Jul 24, 2011 8:09 pm ] |
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man, nobody knows your situation as well as you do. Just ask yourself what you want to do. what do YOU WANT to do. Not out fear, scarcity and other bs. Simply because you wanna do it. And do it. Whatever the outcome you'd be better off acting on your own, rather than asking bunch of people who know nothing about you two to give an answer to such a question. peace. |
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| Author: | rezrez0 [ Sun Jul 24, 2011 9:42 pm ] |
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well I want her to by my girlfriend for sure, but i'm not sure how it's going to work out long distance (never done a long distance before)- and I DO NOT want to lose her this time. so I posted to ask to advice to hear what other people have to say.. and I know the thought of her being with another guy while I am gone is going to be on my mind a lot .. unfortunately, I don't want it to affect me a lot - but I want to be with her.. |
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| Author: | thisismekd [ Mon Jul 25, 2011 12:15 am ] |
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if both your feelings are mutual then it should work out long distance maybe go to a closer school? |
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| Author: | sw3rv3 [ Mon Jul 25, 2011 3:54 am ] |
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