A lot of guys on this forum said, that the best way to geto ver this is to go out, fuck 10 girls and then move forward (I haven't accually tried this one, so it might work), but I've been experimenting with something else.
Here was my situation:
I broke up with a girl about a year ago and haven't called her since. My last 2 months were a real mind blowing / depressing and I putted my game into hybernate and we all know what happens, when you do that, you fall back into old habits and start thinking about thea past.
Well I know my ex hates me, cause I haven't made any contact with her for like a year. So in my ''worse'' state, I said I'll give her a call to see where I'm at, she'll make an instant decision, to like/hate me and I'll know my ground, if she likes me, good, i can progress from there, if she doesn't also good, i can move forward, cause I can't fucking force her to like me.
I called her, she was pissed and angry and… something that i can't even describe
I can see, that she tried to manipulate me through the phone, but I called with a point, said that and she wasn't for it.OK no problem, I move on.
What I'm trying to tell with this post is if you're affraid of forcing YOURSELF to look where you're at with your one-it, if you can't call her and ask her directly: ''I wanna know, where is your relationship to me is standing right now.'' Then you probably won't ever really go over her. Don't be affraid of her saying no to you, that tells you exsactly what you need to know.
That's something that helped me out. Give it a try OR you can go and fuck 10 girls, give a try to that too
Peace