This is still a sticking point for me, I don't know how to maintain a MLTR, they always seem to fall apart rather quickly. i.e.
Date
F-close
in the following 2-3 days the girl contacts me frequently on her own, most of the time via phone messages. Quite often she's quite needy, so I tend to play it cool, I try to not give her too much, but still enough to ensure that she doesn't get upset. For example if she writes "hey, it was a great night, thank you, *kiss*" or stuff like that i reply with a slightly cooler "I enjoyed it too *kiss*", stuff like that.
after that, in the following week or two everything starts to cool down, in the beginning she only starts conversations every now and then, and after 1 week+ it's often necessary that I initiate conversations, otherwise our contact would be gone...
after 2-3 weeks it often happens that there's NO contact left at all, and that's most of the time the end of the story....
So, due to various reasons 8distance, multiple girls) I can't see them more often then once a month, and I think that's simply not enough, things always cool down too much, and so far I wasn't able to build up attraction again after such a cool down.
Actually I'm thinking about two ways to handle that problem:
- either I'm going to call these MLTR every 2-3 days for a longer and intense phone call, or maybe even webcam sessions to keep them aroused.
- or I just play it extremely cool to get them fighting for me. As I mentioned already right after a date they often behave very needy, and when I'm giving them the attention they're craving for I think I'm only speeding up the cooldown process. If I'd not give them any attention at all I'd guess it should be possible to keep them interested for a longer period of time, maybe till the next date, and then start the cycle again...
BUT would be interested how you guys are doing it, I'm really stuck here
