For me personally i think that Negs are a key part to my game. I find that a well placed Neg gets rid of the "NICE" guy persona that i often used to get attributed to me.
I have found that Negs are really miss understood. I would count a Neg as a comment that lowers her value and raises you. They only tend to work on women who feel confident about themselves and need to be treated with care.
Heres an example. An HB 8 came into my work last night, in her late 20's, she oozed sex appeal and was very sure of herself. Her and her unattractive friend deliberated over what drink they wanted (Im a barman) and asked my opinion. I basically asked them wether they wanted a cheap drink or an expensive one and continued fluffing while i served them.
So Hb 8 comes back up to the bar and our conversation meant as so:
Hb8: So im guessing you know what i'm going to order
Me: Sorry i don't remember, it normally helps when something about a customer stands out, i'm sorry what was it that you wanted again. (Said with a large smile and kept eye contact.)
Hb8: O So are you new then.. i thought you had worked here for a while.
Me: (Laugh) Yes i've worked here for around 2 years give or take,.. so have you been stalking me then? (Another cheeky smile)
Hb8; (Laughs) O dear i'm busted (sarcastic)
Me: I tell you what now i've taken a look at you, you look the type. Its always the pretty ones who you have to watch out for.
Hb8: Pretty why thank you (Smile)
Me: Ha ha dont let it go to your head, it would be awful if you were stalking me and got stuck in the pub id never get a moments peace. (Smiled then walked away to use the till.)
We fluffed a little, and when they left she loudly said good bye, when i checked her table she had left her number with a small note saying that i should call her "its not everyday you find a guy who is confident enough."
So here i would say that i Negged her 3 times, some of you may disagree, but it displays my point. A negative comment is an off the cuff remark that displays that you don't think a woman is "gods gift" and that she is going to have to work a little harder before you will open up anymore. She expected to come up to the bar and have me acting interested but what she found was that i wasn't going to be that straight forward.
A Neg is a calculated but subtle point not a direct insult. It should be treated with care and used correctly.
Regards, Saint
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