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| Author: | PUAdave [ Fri Jan 14, 2011 5:57 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Being Mocked |
If you're into pick up it's going to happen. You are going to over hear or some ones just blatantly going to talk shit to your face. I'm just curious how you guys handle it. It's easy to say don't be reactive, ignore them, and not care and if your a fully secure person maybe you can but I think most people cant and many of us are her because we are trying to learn and not there, and sometimes they just nail the right button. A couple weeks ago I could hear this couple mocking me as I walked by. In the past I have had a similar situations I confronted head on. One I just turned and introduced myself quickly and stared them down as if to say yeah I heard you and I'm standing here, dare you to say it again. Looking at that logically I would say that's very reactive which is lower value and says they nailed you, and could lead to bigger problems like fights, but every time I have done this I did feel a lot better, especially when they just about crapped their pants or backed down. Oppose that to this couple I just pretended not to hear them and walk by, while the had a good laugh at my expense. Sounds smart but this shit gnawed at me that night and for a week and I went back actually hopping to bump into them. I did bump into the girl and talk to her with the plan to insult her but she actually seemed pretty cool and interested in me which I think kind opened my eyes about peoples insecurities and trying to knock other people a level to make yourself feel better which is what my instict was as well Just curious if there is another option I'm missing in all this beyond confrontation and taking it and sulking away like a chump while they laugh. |
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| Author: | Ryan Black SashaPUA [ Fri Jan 14, 2011 8:40 pm ] |
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Quote:
Be honest with yourself of your intentions behind actions and suddenly you understand others much better.
Great little quote just there.My basic mindset is "this is who I am, I make no apologies for what I do or say, what my beliefs are, how I go about my life, what my sense of humour is, and who my friends, family and lovers are. If you're into any part of that, then great, let's hang out. If not, I'll politely excuse myself and talk to someone who is." It's basically a TIME issue. Why spend 10 minutes trying to convince someone who doesn't like you that they should, when you could spend it having a fantastic laugh with someone who totally loves your style? Secondly, confronting someone about making fun of you isn't gonna make them suddenly be like "oh actually now I see you're a cool guy," they're just gonna dig their heels in as you're now giving them more and more reason to dislike you. If you vibe with EVERYONE at a party apart from one person who made fun of you, who you just ignore, they'll probably feel left out and might even give you a second shot - this is the power of social proof. |
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