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Author:  Noz03 [ Tue Dec 21, 2010 12:38 pm ]
Post subject:  Subtleties of inviting
what are the subtle points of inviting people? Either by message or in person. This is something I've been wrestling with in my mind... How should you word your invites? It seems to make a HUGE difference on the chance of them being accepted or not.

For example
should you sell it: We have the most amazing party coming up and you must be there!

Or just act cool: We're having a party this weekend, you're welcome to swing by/tag along if you've got nothing better to do?

Or something else in the middle or completely different?

Has anyone read any articles on this? I think it is vitally important for time bridging and getting day 2s etc. but havent seen any info anywhere.

Also, how should you act when it is rejected? or worse a maybe? fuckin hate the maybes...
Author:  KristallNachte [ Tue Dec 21, 2010 12:49 pm ]
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depends on the person.

enthusiasm works with girls more

and being 'cool' works with guys more
Author:  Riskless1 [ Tue Dec 21, 2010 1:40 pm ]
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Well those examples aren't very good, both sound a bit needy and doting. You're better off having the party already set up to be going without them so at least if they refuse it's not going to ruin your party.

I'd suggest it while you're talking to them about other stuff, like mention how you have parties now and then, if they seem interested then invite them, don't pop it on them like it's a question. This way if you are telling them about how YOU are having a party they feel there is a possibility of being left out, they'll be a bit more eager to come.
Author:  PUA Kenny [ Tue Dec 21, 2010 2:51 pm ]
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@Noz03-Great question bro'.

I've always had this question also.

I usualy chose the cool route-"tag along if you're bored".

But trying to sell it,I dont think it's the worst idea.

@KristallNachte-Havent seen you posting lately;you're a vet on the forum.

@Riskless1 -I was gonna totally disagree with you but now I get what you're saying.

I didnt realize it's a party invite;thought it was like an invite to meet up.
Author:  R.G. [ Tue Dec 21, 2010 5:01 pm ]
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Have you ever been in a situation where you've organised a massive party or social event and it's been really successful - LOADS of people have come. Whilst you're at the party and everything is crazy you remember you've forgotten a mate. What do you text him? You could use that as a starting point.
Author:  Noz03 [ Wed Dec 22, 2010 2:06 am ]
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Hmm interesting, all different answers :)

I actually do have a party coming up in a few days which is the reason this is especially in my head.

Some examples of what people might say could be nice to hear. One that actually seemed to work a bunch of times in texts is not to invite at all but just to mention it. "btw did I tell you about the xmas party at my place on fri?" her: "no, mail me the details gaga@gaga.com"

later though I was on facebook chatting to a girl in another city asking what my plans were and saying she was thinking about coming to my city. but then when i talked about the party she started making excuses not to come... very confused... and its not for lack of rep on my parties believe me. I didnt help the situation by trying to counter her excuses, should have a line to just say "well its up to you, your loss if you cant make it" which I did in the end and seemed to bring her back in a bit.
Author:  Noz03 [ Wed Dec 22, 2010 12:12 pm ]
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Ok, just sent a mail invite out to a visiting Dutch girl which I think is pretty good. DHVd a lot and tried to invite her in a way to make her feel welcome but I wouldnt miss her if she didnt come. What you guys think?

So here's my plan: Meeting some Turkish girl for dinner at 6, gather my friends in Kadikoy for drinks at 9 then back to Taksim by midnight for the Electro party at ESN, and possibly after party at Machine who also have a good DJ on tonight. So if you want to join us then gimme a shout! 05123456789

Ciao!
Author:  Diego1234567 [ Wed Dec 22, 2010 12:13 pm ]
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Have you ever been in a situation where you've organised a massive party or social event and it's been really successful - LOADS of people have come. Whilst you're at the party and everything is crazy you remember you've forgotten a mate. What do you text him? You could use that as a starting point.
i second that
Author:  Noz03 [ Wed Dec 29, 2010 11:30 am ]
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I need a second opinion on this, which one is better as a text?

Hey, how r ya? I'm meeting a bunch of cool people later, wanna come join us?

Hey, how r ya? I'm meeting a bunch of cool people later, come join us!

I'm actually testing this on a few girls right now. Just like to know other peoples opinion.
Author:  Mind Hacker [ Wed Dec 29, 2010 6:26 pm ]
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I like to follow this rule:
Treat girls as you would treat guys. Don't supplicate. Only structure opportunities and present challenges.

Seriously... if she was a guy would you keep over thinking "what should I text him?" or you'd just enjoy your life and be casual in your invites?
If a guy can't join you will you cry? Will you have a heart break?

Once you start treating girls as guys, they start to become more attracted to you because you don't show any AFC signs: needy, doesn't have a life of his own, needs validation, etc.

Remember this: every time you start to think too much, you worry about what she'll think, you NEED to get THIS one, you're no longer treating her as a guy, therefore you're losing power/value, you're giving special SPAM because she has a pussy! Think about it.

Here's a visualization exercise for you:
I invite you imagine a mental screen in front of you, much like a movie screen. In this screen, begin to see a picture of the girl you're texting. Now, begin to notice the speed of your breathing, and with each and every breath you may begin to see this picture of her getting brighter, and the more you focus in, the more this picture reaches 3D quality, getting bigger, even more bigger and brighter.
Now, you begin to see a cock growing where was her pussy. Now imagine this picture melting away and turns into a sound bite, it's the sounds of a deep guy voice saying "what's up bro?". Put this sound inside your cell phone. Imagine it going to the place where you put your bros.

Now, try to call her and see how you talk, try to text her and see what you write.
Author:  samex [ Thu Dec 30, 2010 7:32 am ]
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The very basis of an invitation is that a select(YOU SELECTED) group of people are allowed to come.

I believe in my honest opinion the best way to invite the person, is to make that person feel special.

Just frame the invitation in a way that would make someone feel special.

e.g- I'm throwing a party and I would enjoy it if you came.

Side Note: If your inviting someone, don't ask, just tell them you want them there.
Author:  Turkstarr [ Sat Jan 01, 2011 8:39 pm ]
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Quote:
I like to follow this rule:
Treat girls as you would treat guys. Don't supplicate. Only structure opportunities and present challenges.

Seriously... if she was a guy would you keep over thinking "what should I text him?" or you'd just enjoy your life and be casual in your invites?
If a guy can't join you will you cry? Will you have a heart break?

Once you start treating girls as guys, they start to become more attracted to you because you don't show any AFC signs: needy, doesn't have a life of his own, needs validation, etc.

Remember this: every time you start to think too much, you worry about what she'll think, you NEED to get THIS one, you're no longer treating her as a guy, therefore you're losing power/value, you're giving special SPAM because she has a pussy! Think about it.

Here's a visualization exercise for you:
I invite you imagine a mental screen in front of you, much like a movie screen. In this screen, begin to see a picture of the girl you're texting. Now, begin to notice the speed of your breathing, and with each and every breath you may begin to see this picture of her getting brighter, and the more you focus in, the more this picture reaches 3D quality, getting bigger, even more bigger and brighter.
Now, you begin to see a cock growing where was her pussy. Now imagine this picture melting away and turns into a sound bite, it's the sounds of a deep guy voice saying "what's up bro?". Put this sound inside your cell phone. Imagine it going to the place where you put your bros.

Now, try to call her and see how you talk, try to text her and see what you write.
I like this post. Got directed from another thread and this post has helped. Cheers bro.
Author:  Le Loup [ Sun Jan 02, 2011 12:24 am ]
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I need a second opinion on this, which one is better as a text?

Hey, how r ya? I'm meeting a bunch of cool people later, wanna come join us?

Hey, how r ya? I'm meeting a bunch of cool people later, come join us!

I'm actually testing this on a few girls right now. Just like to know other peoples opinion.
With girls I personally never ask them if they wanna do anything because then they think about it and say no. Just tell them to come or say "you should come" or something similar. This is a little different from what I would ask a guy because I would ask him if he wanted to come since I really wouldnt care if he came or not.

I would say "hey, hanging out with a bunch of friends later, you should come"

Simple, casual, almost as if you are asking a male friend but there is no question. Dont brag, so dont say you friends are cool, only say that if she says no, which women initally usually do in my experience.

After she makes an excuse say something like "haha, ok your loss. Im hanging with some friends, theyre pretty cool so we'll be having fun. If you get bored of washing your hair shoot me a text"

And leave it at that, if she replies to that there is generally no need to respond. She will prob wonder why her charm didnt work and why you arent begging her to come so she will prob text you half an hour later and ask if it still ok if she came. had a lot of experience with making girls come to places and this is how i do it, although every situation is different so improvise. I recommend text, gives you time to think.
Author:  Noz03 [ Sun Jan 02, 2011 2:30 pm ]
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Hahaha, if the girl I liked suddenly grew a cock right before my eyes I dont think I'd want her to come anyway.Nice concept though.
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