No, im suggesting not to think of your gf as a practice tool for your future wife you will have children with
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| Author: | Consistence [ Mon Dec 20, 2010 2:07 pm ] |
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Hi. You know who I am talking about. The BEAUTIFUL and PERFECT girl you will meet in the future. THE ONE. Meeting THE ONE is for most guys a future scenario. A major future event in life. "The day I meet the THE ONE I will finally be happy. My life will finally calm down and I can finally start to live life as I want to." And the girl you are in a relationship with now? No, she's not THE ONE. She is just your "practice-tool" before you eventually will meet THE ONE you TRULY LOVE. Hang on, what did you say? You are not 100% sure, she MIGHT be THE ONE, you just have to find out first. Are you in a relationship with this kind of mentality? Read the rest of my post please. There are many problems with this attitude. 1) You think of your life at present time as WORSE than your future life. 2) You are waiting for something that doesn't excist. 3) THE ONE is a construction in your head. Congratz, you are brainwashed. If you have read so far you probably think that "Consistence has already met THE ONE, but she broke up with him, so he is jealous on everyone else that still is together with their THE ONE." You are right. It is a perfect description of me, two months ago. I have met girls I thought was THE ONE, but there were always something wrong. They were almost perfect for my imagination of THE ONE, but never 100% perfect. The girl had always at least one big fluke (on drugs, was cheating etc.). My conclusion thereafter was that THE ONE was waiting for me in the future. One day I realized how the world works. I stopped believing in THE ONE and started to love THE ONES. You can have awesome times with your gf and then break-up the next day. I believe there are different THE ONES at different times. You break-up with your girlfriend and your life stops because you have lost your ONE. There is no point living anymore. It is time to get some perspective here. Just ask guys with experience. They have thought they have met THE ONE many times, then the break-up has occured and after some time they have find a new THE ONE. Morale is. The most important thing is to be happy RIGHT NOW with the girl you are in a relationship with. Don't think of THE ONE. Ever. Happy Christmas. |
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| Author: | zigzag40 [ Mon Dec 20, 2010 2:33 pm ] |
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Are you sugesting 'If you cant be with the one you love.... Love the one your with' |
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| Author: | Consistence [ Mon Dec 20, 2010 2:55 pm ] |
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No, im suggesting not to think of your gf as a practice tool for your future wife you will have children with
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| Author: | Riskless1 [ Tue Dec 21, 2010 10:32 am ] |
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I've kind of ruined my chances at finding this mystical "one" you speak of. I thoroughly don't believe in it. My view on that "everlasting relationship love" is that that feeling of love is an outdated throwback to tribal requirements to stick together and protect each other. Don't get me wrong, love is real, but it's different. I love everyone because of the complex differences that they all share that have somehow manifested in such stark contrasts to each other even though we are all made of the same strands of carbon. "The one" will never happen because that feeling is created by hormones, and hormones are an organic enzyme that decays like everything else. I know it sounds morbid but it's actually extremely liberating if you interpret it how I do. |
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| Author: | Consistence [ Tue Dec 21, 2010 3:27 pm ] |
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Quote: I've kind of ruined my chances at finding this mystical "one" you speak of. I thoroughly don't believe in it. My view on that "everlasting relationship love" is that that feeling of love is an outdated throwback to tribal requirements to stick together and protect each other.
It's the sad trough isn't it. But on the other hand there will always be persons who fit nicely together even though the "hormones decay" and it will be worth to stay put. But THE ONE doesn't excist.
Don't get me wrong, love is real, but it's different. I love everyone because of the complex differences that they all share that have somehow manifested in such stark contrasts to each other even though we are all made of the same strands of carbon. "The one" will never happen because that feeling is created by hormones, and hormones are an organic enzyme that decays like everything else. I know it sounds morbid but it's actually extremely liberating if you interpret it how I do. |
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| Author: | Wagon [ Tue Dec 21, 2010 4:46 pm ] |
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Quote: I've kind of ruined my chances at finding this mystical "one" you speak of. I thoroughly don't believe in it. My view on that "everlasting relationship love" is that that feeling of love is an outdated throwback to tribal requirements to stick together and protect each other.
Regardless of whether or not you buy into the emotionless objectivity of scientific description, there's something to be said for this, and I feel it lines up in part with what the original poster was getting at.Don't get me wrong, love is real, but it's different. I love everyone because of the complex differences that they all share that have somehow manifested in such stark contrasts to each other even though we are all made of the same strands of carbon. "The one" will never happen because that feeling is created by hormones, and hormones are an organic enzyme that decays like everything else. I know it sounds morbid but it's actually extremely liberating if you interpret it how I do. Take life as it comes, don't assume you're going to find the 'one', whatever that notion might mean to you anyway, don't assume you're going to see tomorrow, because there's no guarantee you will. All you have is now, so smile and enjoy it. |
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| Author: | Consistence [ Tue Dec 21, 2010 5:52 pm ] |
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Quote: Quote: I've kind of ruined my chances at finding this mystical "one" you speak of. I thoroughly don't believe in it. My view on that "everlasting relationship love" is that that feeling of love is an outdated throwback to tribal requirements to stick together and protect each other.
Regardless of whether or not you buy into the emotionless objectivity of scientific description, there's something to be said for this, and I feel it lines up in part with what the original poster was getting at.Don't get me wrong, love is real, but it's different. I love everyone because of the complex differences that they all share that have somehow manifested in such stark contrasts to each other even though we are all made of the same strands of carbon. "The one" will never happen because that feeling is created by hormones, and hormones are an organic enzyme that decays like everything else. I know it sounds morbid but it's actually extremely liberating if you interpret it how I do. Take life as it comes, don't assume you're going to find the 'one', whatever that notion might mean to you anyway, don't assume you're going to see tomorrow, because there's no guarantee you will. All you have is now, so smile and enjoy it. 
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| Author: | Chelios [ Tue Dec 21, 2010 6:35 pm ] |
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I believe, the one for you, is the one you choose. |
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