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Author:  The_Boss_ [ Wed Dec 08, 2010 4:41 am ]
Post subject:  This shit ruined me!!
Almost wishing i never learnt any of this pickup shit now. Feel like it was good while it lasted. but now it fucked up the best thing I had.

I fucked it up with what currently feels like was the love of my life. I dont know how much longer ill have to feel like shit till this passes. Bad case of oneitis and ironically, its coz of my ability to get lots of girls that made me lose the only one i want.

Anyone else ever had this? :(

> single and picking up for ages
> meet a girl i think i can settle down with
> start dating
> after a year feel like I want to be with other girls aswell
> start ruining relationship and getting with other girls
> Girlfriend leaves me, never to come back again. Already seeing another guy.
> Inner AFC in me released, begging for her back.. lol

Now im just lonely and depressed us fuck. I lost her coz I THOUGHT I was too good and could do better/ get more girls becoz of all this Gaming and Picking up chicks mentality that i learnt!!! soo dumb of me . turns out I was wrong.

All the begging for her back wouldnt of helped my chances to ever be with her again. So ive tried to end it on good/sad terms. I need to break contact and move the fuck on.

Open discussion if anyone has done similar. Itl be comforting to talk to someone...

Also just as an example to everyone. Make sure you knows your goals. I guess I lost track of mine... dont fuck them up like I did.

The sad thing is.. Its not becoz of what I learnt that I met her. This girl I didnt game at all when we met. It was just mutual attraction. :(
Author:  urielpie [ Wed Dec 08, 2010 5:38 am ]
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aw one chick ruined u how sad. dont worry we'll get her back! i think a correct title would be the misuse of this shit killed me
Author:  taylormade [ Wed Dec 08, 2010 5:38 am ]
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I haven't really had that situation. I have realized lately that I cannot connect with women on the level that I want to. It's like everything is the game for me and I can't put it down for one second to have a real conversation.

I did have an experience once though:

I hooked up with this girl on sunday and was still talking to her. I didn't want a relationship with her but I thought I would keep her around for a month or so and have fun. So on tuesday (2 days after we fuck) I go to the bar she works at with a bunch of friends and I just get hammered drunk. I made out with 2 different girls at the bar like right in front of her. The night ends and my friend apparently forgets that I rode with him and he left so I have no ride. I walk next door to walmart and walk around calling people to pick me up. I call the bartender chick and she's super pissed off at me. I somehow get her to come pick me up anyway. She takes me home and the whole way home I get to hear about how much of an asshole I am.

story of my life
Author:  Chief [ Wed Dec 08, 2010 7:23 am ]
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Yeah, Mystery Method followers never really do get peace of mind
Author:  The_Boss_ [ Wed Dec 08, 2010 9:04 am ]
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Yeah, Mystery Method followers never really do get peace of mind

im not even like a mystery method follower lol i just think his stuffs cool. what do u do that gets you peace of mind then. i could use it right now
Author:  The_Boss_ [ Wed Dec 08, 2010 9:06 am ]
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aw one chick ruined u how sad. dont worry we'll get her back! i think a correct title would be the misuse of this shit killed me
nah thats a gay title

sure, misuse is right though.
Author:  Chief [ Wed Dec 08, 2010 9:54 am ]
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what do u do that gets you peace of mind then. i could use it right now
What that will take is taking a step in a fresh new direction. I recommend starting with The Zen of Meeting Women by Max Weiss as that first step. It was mine.
Author:  Ryan Black SashaPUA [ Wed Dec 08, 2010 10:18 am ]
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You put a couple of new shiny toys in the puppy's playpen, and it drops its old one and plays with the new one. But, once you start taking the old toy away, suddenly it drops the new ones and HAS TO HAVE the old one again.

The feeling now that you have about losing the ONLY ONE that you LOVE is only because you had something pretty good that you were somewhat emotionally invested in, and the fact that you can't have it anymore makes you think it's ALL YOU EVER WANTED AND NEEDED.

But you KNOW that's not true. If that were the case, then why did you feel the need to see other women? Because actually the relationship wasn't that great and she wasn't that amazing. But, it was comfortable and easy and you had someone to hang out with, and guaranteed sex when you wanted it. And now when you've lost that you remember all the good things and want them back again, whilst completely glossing over the stupid arguments and bullshit and her boring stories and her annoying friends.

You can easily find a girl who's younger, hotter, more into you, more intelligent and funnier tomorrow if you simply continue to play the numbers game that is picking up women.

This time, why not try starting things out as an open relationship from the very beginning? That way, if she's unwilling to do that, then nobody gets hurt because you split/stay friends before things get serious, and if she is, then nobody gets hurt when you do see other women. Simples!
Author:  The_Boss_ [ Wed Dec 08, 2010 12:04 pm ]
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You put a couple of new shiny toys in the puppy's playpen, and it drops its old one and plays with the new one. But, once you start taking the old toy away, suddenly it drops the new ones and HAS TO HAVE the old one again.

The feeling now that you have about losing the ONLY ONE that you LOVE is only because you had something pretty good that you were somewhat emotionally invested in, and the fact that you can't have it anymore makes you think it's ALL YOU EVER WANTED AND NEEDED.

But you KNOW that's not true. If that were the case, then why did you feel the need to see other women? Because actually the relationship wasn't that great and she wasn't that amazing. But, it was comfortable and easy and you had someone to hang out with, and guaranteed sex when you wanted it. And now when you've lost that you remember all the good things and want them back again, whilst completely glossing over the stupid arguments and bullshit and her boring stories and her annoying friends.

You can easily find a girl who's younger, hotter, more into you, more intelligent and funnier tomorrow if you simply continue to play the numbers game that is picking up women.

This time, why not try starting things out as an open relationship from the very beginning? That way, if she's unwilling to do that, then nobody gets hurt because you split/stay friends before things get serious, and if she is, then nobody gets hurt when you do see other women. Simples!
i love you
I appreciate what you just wrote so much.
Author:  The_Boss_ [ Wed Dec 08, 2010 12:11 pm ]
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what do u do that gets you peace of mind then. i could use it right now
What that will take is taking a step in a fresh new direction. I recommend starting with The Zen of Meeting Women by Max Weiss as that first step. It was mine.
thankyou,
I highly respect your views so Im hoping this works!
Author:  Noah E [ Wed Dec 08, 2010 7:27 pm ]
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I wasn't even going to post till I read Blondguy's post

That's just gold man lol
Author:  Puaking [ Wed Dec 08, 2010 7:46 pm ]
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You put a couple of new shiny toys in the puppy's playpen, and it drops its old one and plays with the new one. But, once you start taking the old toy away, suddenly it drops the new ones and HAS TO HAVE the old one again.

The feeling now that you have about losing the ONLY ONE that you LOVE is only because you had something pretty good that you were somewhat emotionally invested in, and the fact that you can't have it anymore makes you think it's ALL YOU EVER WANTED AND NEEDED.

But you KNOW that's not true. If that were the case, then why did you feel the need to see other women? Because actually the relationship wasn't that great and she wasn't that amazing. But, it was comfortable and easy and you had someone to hang out with, and guaranteed sex when you wanted it. And now when you've lost that you remember all the good things and want them back again, whilst completely glossing over the stupid arguments and bullshit and her boring stories and her annoying friends.

You can easily find a girl who's younger, hotter, more into you, more intelligent and funnier tomorrow if you simply continue to play the numbers game that is picking up women.

This time, why not try starting things out as an open relationship from the very beginning? That way, if she's unwilling to do that, then nobody gets hurt because you split/stay friends before things get serious, and if she is, then nobody gets hurt when you do see other women. Simples!
This guy is a genius. I bet you he gets pussy like no other lol
Author:  _Lothario_ [ Wed Dec 08, 2010 9:17 pm ]
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Blondguy- Great post. I wish I made it on in time to write that myself!


Jando, the grieving process is not usually easy, and it serves a purpose as a chance for us to take a look at what we did wrong and learn from it. I am at the point in my growth where I don't need to sleep with women to fill any void or prove anything to anyone. I have put myself in the position most WOMEN find themselves in, putting members of the opposite sex sternly in the friend bus.

The reason for this is because I used to meet MANY women, close them every time I left my house, and date one I had the greatest connection with while I was still doing the former. I had the power to get what I wanted, but I abused it. I was basically, a douche bag. lol

Seeking out women with such a direct agenda becomes emotionally reckless when you move too fast. I look back at the many women I have dated and can see why they were never right for me, but while blinded by emotions immediately following a breakup, we fail to see this. We are blinded by the woman's initial presentation of herself, and decide to look past all the flaws that would otherwise disqualify her.

So now the women I meet are put on the friend bus, so that we can evaluate each other without the bias created by the initial "spark" we create with seduction. It gives a great foundation for trust and allows me to decide, without carpet bombing hearts, if I would like to actually take that next step with little or no emotional risk.

By jumping into a relationship before you REALLY know a person, based on a connection that you have previously had with many people before, you create a hostage situation in which both parties want to leave the other but are unable to let go of the idea of that person. Becoming dependent on having a relationship, we create a void before we even have one, and use other people to fill it. Time spent with that person further increases dependence and the withdrawal period upon breakup can be unbearable.

After a breakup, relationships go back to the way things were, and with no previous friendship as a foundation, there is nothing to go back to. The dumpee is left with the void.




The very act of seducing women causes us to seduce ourselves, blinding us from seeing who they really are. We fall in love with a woman that never was and associate her with the woman that is.

Build friendships. Evaluate. Decide.

Until then, GFTOW!


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Author:  PlayHer Man [ Fri Dec 10, 2010 2:11 am ]
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All women are replaceable.
Author:  Stand Up [ Fri Dec 10, 2010 7:38 am ]
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Game didn't fuck you, your natural desire to shag as many girls as you can did. Get over it, it's just a woman, we've all been in love and most of us have been fucked on once, but who cares. 3.1 billion other women on earth, do you really believe none of them are better than the one you had.
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