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| Author: | Ryan Black SashaPUA [ Sat Nov 20, 2010 1:44 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Pre-framing |
Are you finding your openers don't hit a lot of the time, or you don't get the set's full attention? Or maybe you're having trouble transitioning, or when you ask questions you get one-word answers or a confused look? Make sure you're using "pre-framing." Opening: If you open a set and dive right in with "so do men or women lie more?" it might seem a little out of the blue, and also the set will not have your full attention initially, so they'll stop listening and might just ignore you completely. This is why a simple pre-frame of "hey guys, I have to get going in a sec but can you help settle a debate my friend and I were having..." and then say your opener. First off, the "hey guys" part grabs their attention, but contains no information that's crucial for them to understand to be able to respond. Secondly, you're false time constraining, so they know you're not gonna hang around them forever, and thirdly, it's a debate you're having and they just happened to be there and you want their opinion. Great! You can modify your pre-frame based on the kind of opener you are doing. For example, if you want to do a direct opener during the day to a single HB, then the pre-frame above makes no sense. However, you can start with "Hey, I don't wanna be weird but..." "Hi, I know this might sound random but..." "Excuse me, I didn't mean to startle you or anything, but..." [useful if you tap her on the shoulder from behind as she walks past/in front of you] Other pre-frames for groups or single HBs you can think about using are: "Hey, let me ask you something...actually - you're not one of those judgmental types are you?" "Hey, are you guys friendly?" "Don't take this the wrong way, but..." Transitioning: Remember, you can use any openers as transition topics, and pre-frames help you get away with more controversial material. For example, if the conversation runs dry and you just say "so are you the kind of girl that attracts the wrong kind of guy?" you might get a negative reaction. But if you preframe with "don't take this the wrong way" then she's likely to be more open to the question. The question is great in general because you can open up a lot of conversational threads about psychology, what she's attracted to, male/female dynamics, etc. that are great topics to explore. Try it! |
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