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| Qualification - Underrated, Unappreciated and Undervalued https://www.pick-up-artist-forum.com/viewtopic.php?f=25&t=75171 |
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| Author: | Ryan Black SashaPUA [ Fri Sep 17, 2010 4:46 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Qualification - Underrated, Unappreciated and Undervalued |
According to Mystery, when you receive 3 IOIs you have attraction and can then proceed to qualification. His qualification question is "if you could do anything in the world without fear of failure, what would it be?" Once she answers this, you qualify her about some aspect, and then you move into comfort building. For me, qualification is THE WHOLE POINT of the interaction. It's the meat of the pickup and it's the part where you really get to find out what a girl is about and decide for yourself whether you're really interested in getting to know her as a person. The attraction phase is essentially a bunch of silly tricks to get her attention and get her interested. It's like all those lame sales techniques like false takeaways and whatever. It's not really YOU, and you haven't really gotten to HER yet. Once she's interested, THEN you can actually get to who she is as a person, and really display the fact that you have abundance because you ask screening questions, and want her to explain to you the positive features that she has that YOU WANT. If you like to have wild crazy sex in bathrooms of clubs, then this is the time to tell a story about that and ask her if she's that kind of girl because you find people like that fuckin awesome to hang out with and so liberated and free spirited. If you're looking for something long term then that's the time to talk about that and ask her if she values family and honesty and loyalty because you're super tight with your family and friends and you don't have time for phonies and fakes. If she shares any of this with you, she will qualify herself and prove that she does parallel those values. This is fantastic because now she's working to prove herself to you. Once you get a few of these out of her STOP THE BULL SHIT C&F NEGGING SHIT and just honestly say "you know when I first met you I wasn't really sure, but actually it's great to meet a real, honest person who gets X and cares about that cuz it's important." If she just honestly disagrees with you then you've saved yourself a lot of time because you two are clearly not compatible and the rest of the pickup is gonna be more difficult and she will not be that fun to be around. You can choose to lie to her to get a ONS but there are plenty of girls out there who will be much more fun because you'll actually be able to HANG OUT with them and have a good time as well as fucking them senseless! Finally, it's happened to me after a bunch of ONSs that they girl asks something like "why do you like me." This is because I didn't do qualification properly. I generated enough attraction to get through the close, but they don't feel a proper connection to me and this can cause problems down the line. If you want to avoid the player vibe, and you want to keep an LTR or MLTRs going, then you need to qualify properly and early, otherwise they will assume you don't actually give a shit about them. In conclusion, qualification performs a number of important functions, and should be reached ASAP and properly executed before moving on to comfort and seduction. 1. Shows to her that you have abundance 2. Makes her prove herself to you 3. Establishes commonalities and a deep connection between you 4. You can figure out whether this girl is worth actually hanging out with 5. She feels there is more to this than just you wanting sex 6. She will want to see you again after sex (as long as you last more than 5 seconds!) and will be less likely to experience buyer's remorse. |
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