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| Author: | The_Boss_ [ Fri Sep 10, 2010 6:54 am ] |
| Post subject: | Is it just a contest |
Ive known this community for a year now. when i first learnt it all, id go out everynight like a had a secret weapon that no one else had, with so much confidence. I would pull girls everynight.. and study this shit relentlessly. Id act like its a contest against every guy there and id go so well coz i was so committed to winning. Then i kinda got over it.. not picking up girls, but the whole "secret weapon" thing wore off and i lost my motive to keep studying it all. got girlfriends instead, etc. Id still go out and get girls every few nights tho. anyone else find this? gonna start putting everything into it again and see how my results will climb again. I am sure of this. the whole contest view of it makes you go alot better even though it might not be the best way to look at it. |
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| Author: | jurupa [ Fri Sep 10, 2010 8:10 am ] |
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Why make it a contest? Contests are fun at first but after awhile they get boring. Your problem is you went in this with the wrong mind set/view point. Just have fun with this. There is no reason to make it a contest. Making it a contest works more against you than for you actually. |
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| Author: | Ryan Black SashaPUA [ Fri Sep 10, 2010 11:06 am ] |
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Quote: Why make it a contest? Contests are fun at first but after awhile they get boring. Your problem is you went in this with the wrong mind set/view point. Just have fun with this. There is no reason to make it a contest. Making it a contest works more against you than for you actually.
I agree.Life is not a competition of you versus the world. Initially seeing it like that may provide you with motivation to succeed, but ultimately you're walking around with a poisonous belief that will negatively affect you. Under the assumption that life is a competition, then if I want to "win" really badly, I will start bending my own ethical rules and start lying or cheating or stealing to get those extra results. If every girl is just a target and you HAVE to have as many as possible, then it's a small step to start going around AMOGing guys, stealing girlfriends, breaking up marriages and generally focusing on getting yours and fucking over a lot of people in the process. This is called being a douchebag. If you think about life as a competition against YOURSELF, where you set new goals every day and try to achieve them for your own personal happiness, then you've got a great attitude because then you stop worrying about what other people are doing, and what other people think about you, and focus on making the most of what you have and improving the aspects of your life that you value. This is why everyone should do exercise because you get concrete results you can see and feel based on exactly how much effort you put in which improves your physical appearance and gives you more confidence and self-belief. There is no point thinking about how much bigger that other guy's muscles are, all you can do is set your goals and try your best to improve your body as much as possible. |
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