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| Author: | Warped Mindless [ Thu Sep 02, 2010 5:58 am ] |
| Post subject: | Natural Game: Take her for granted |
I seen this over on RSDNation and decided to repost it here. All credit for this writing goes to the user "VisionsDivine" All girls were made for you. It is innate that you take this for granted with every girl around you. Why do you think you go numb when you see a beautiful lake surrounded by mountains? Because you feel grateful for what nature has giving you. Your presence is a way to say thank you to this moment. But why are you grateful? Because deep inside you know that moment is yours and that picture in front of you was given to you. In the same way, when you see a beautiful woman, you may go numb the first time you see her, why? Because you feel grateful for what nature has giving you, because deep inside you know that image in front of you was given to you. The problem is what usually happens next. Most guys will start thinking the million reason why she is not for them. They think: "I can't have her", "she is too good for me", " she may have a boyfriend", "she has better options than me", "she will think I'm a creep", etc.. All that nonesence pops into many guys minds and makes them get disconnected from what at one moment they simply took for granted. At one moment they simply felt "yes this is for me", but after thought process kicked in they moved away from that and transformed their own reality into uglyness. Social dynamics are simple: "In any given interaction one person will be reacting more to the other depending on the value accepted at a moment to moment basis." The person who is reacting more is usually the one with lower value at that moment, while the one that cares less, is the one that will be acting more freely and with more authority. Many hot girls in our society are wired to have some kind of delusional sense of coolness. They simply take you for granted. They don't even consciously think you are lower value, their subconscious mind recognize it and make them move away from you without they even knowing why they did that. However this delusion is usually based on social feedback and not on their own acceptance. In the other hand if you are guy centered in your own reality, making your own decisions, acting through your own intentions, having your own opinion and recognizing when something resonates with you and when something doesn't, then your reality will always be stronger than the reality that is only based in social feedback, and this is what ultimately will make you elite attractive. The reason why many men get unattached from taking things for granted is becasue of unrealistic excess of focus on negative experiences. They have built an ego around the fact that if this happened before, it means it will always happen again, so this becomes an obstacle for them to gain new reference experiences that could defy their current beliefs. On the flip side, guys that have successfully recognized negative experiences as something that does not define them, will be more likely to maintain their natural tendencies to take things for granted and act upon the things they really want. For example: Girls Have you ever took a girl for granted? How was your behaviour? Was it needy? Were you afraid to not be smooth enough? Did you run out of things to say? Were you afraid to lead the interaction? Were you unable to self amuse by playing around with her and challenging her? Were you afraid to grab her hand if you wanted? Were you constantly asking questions to fill in the blanks? Were you trying for rapport? Did you feel a lost if she moved away? Did you feel unable to leave her and go talk with other people for a while because you could lose her? Were you worried if she likes you or finds you attractive? Of course not, why? Because you took all these things for granted, they didn't even cross your mind. That my friend is natural game. When you don't take a girl for granted, she will take you for granted. If you do not take this girl for granted, for what she is, "a gift from nature to you", she will only assume you are not enough, but you are, so why lie to her? If you consider youself lower value you are just communicating to her that you are not enough that she can take you for granted because you suck, unless she has an agenda, she will never even think of having sex with you. For her to accept having sex with you she needs to feel that you are making her cooler than she already is, and if you are telling her you suck, she will only follow your lead and believe you. What's cooler? A stronger reality, knowing you are the shit, that's cool. If you are the shit you don't care what she thinks, it doesn't affect you, you take her for granted, you are the shit regardless, and your priorities are always more important than hers. What are your priorities? What you value in life, what makes you have fun, what makes you enjoy the moment. She is going to respect that. A girl will not sleep with you unless she knows you can have her. This whole taking her for granted is not a technique that you do at the approach and you get the girl. Taking her for granted is not a line you have to think. Taking her for granted is a behaviour. I like the idea of adopting mindsets. The problem with the word "mindset", is that people think a mindset is something you need to think or have in mind. It is not, a mindset is something "you act upon", and you keep it "the whole time". If you are taking her for granted you don't have this "I need to practice on her" mentality, you are there for a reason, you have a purpose and you take it for granted from the beginning to the end. No matter what she says or does, if you take her for granted, you know she is probably just messing a little, but you already know is a joke because she is already yours and was given to you. The same way you pick up a glass of water. You do not ask yourself: "How do I pick up a glass of water?". You just do it, from the moment you walk towards it to the moment you put it back in the dishwasher, you did not think your way through it, it was automatic, you knew what you want and you went for it, you took your time, you enjoyed it. When you take her for granted you don't even need to lie. You have nothing to lose, you can be honest and sincere. You don't need to impress her with anything you say because you are taking her for granted, you simply say what you are thinking and you don't worry about how she will respond because you are in your own time and while she is with you, she is in your own time too. It is very easy to fall for judgement when you have been conditioned your whole life. Judgement is never a path to rely on, trusting a guess is not the way you want to treat an illness or you may drug yourself to death. If you are with her and you take her for granted, there is not need to judge her, you cannot blame her for what is natural in her, she is looking for value, she is looking for you. Instead, sharing what you are thinking means sharing the present moment and sharing what is observed at a moment to moment basis. She is interested because you are offering her to see the world through your own eyes, a different perspective that she doesn't have a clue of because is your own reality and is unique. You will always have material to talk about because if you take her for granted you can relax, be chill, be calm and observe things that you would not normally observed if you were too worried in making an impression. Maybe you have been standing for a while and you just want to sit, you tell her "we had been standing too much in here, let's go sit there"; or maybe the place is noisy, you tell her "this is too loud, let's go outside where there is not so much noise". It is very simple, just follow your path, you are already taking it for granted. http://www.rsdnation.com/visionsdivine/ ... er-granted |
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