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Author:  Flynn [ Sun Aug 15, 2010 9:30 am ]
Post subject:  Once a cheater always a cheater.
While I was in The Bahamas last week I ran some game on a girl I ran into at a club. I didn't bother to ask if she was single or not. At the end of the night I K-Closed (YES). lol but anyways after that all went down I kept in touch with her and a friend of hers on facebook. Her friend told me that she had a boyfriend. I was never a fan of getting with girls that are taken but I had no idea so I blame her haha.

Sooo.. What are your opinions on that phrase "Once a cheater always a cheater?"

Also, if you had a chance to get with a girl who had a boyfriend would you do it?

Just a thought I had running through my head. Thanks for the feedback:)
Author:  Little Panda [ Sun Aug 15, 2010 9:42 am ]
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If they cheat only once - we know they're capable of doing it again.

Also, you kissed her because she liked you. If she was YOUR girlfriend, then all it would take for her to cheat on you - is some other guy that has better game than you.

Totally not worth it. Getting emotionally attached with a girl like that is mental suicide.
Author:  Chelios [ Sun Aug 15, 2010 10:25 am ]
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I disagree with once a cheater always a cheater, to an extent anyway.

The girl may not be happy, may feel closed in, bullied etc, so many reasons, so sometimes looking for some joy, or a way out, someone to save her, I've seen this with female friends who have been in the situation.

If she is known for cheating though, more than once, I'd go with the phrase" a leopard never changes it's sports".
Author:  Ezo [ Sun Aug 15, 2010 3:41 pm ]
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Sooo.. What are your opinions on that phrase "Once a cheater always a cheater?"
Thats just BS!

100% of the human population are potential cheaters. All of us can cheat. But that doesnt mean that people cheat to be mean, or to be sluts or whatever. The fact is, if someone gets whatever he or she dreams of then there is no need to cheat. So, a girl who cheats on one guy may not cheat on the next one since he fulfills her dreams.
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Also, if you had a chance to get with a girl who had a boyfriend would you do it?
Of course! There is no sacred bond I am breaking. It is only as sacred as she wants it to be. It is her decision! If Im not going for her, by the end of the night, someone else will anyway. It is all about her. Her boyfriend isnt there so who cares about him. She might but thats up to her. None of my business, I care for the relation between me and the girl, not some random dude I havent even met. And to answer your question, yes, been there done that. And you I would do it again.
Author:  Zephyrine [ Sun Aug 15, 2010 6:37 pm ]
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Once a cheater always a cheater is mostly true.

And mostly everyone cheats, or has the potential to cheat.
Author:  trixsta [ Sun Aug 15, 2010 9:27 pm ]
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Sooo.. What are your opinions on that phrase "Once a cheater always a cheater?"
Thats just BS!

100% of the human population are potential cheaters. All of us can cheat. But that doesnt mean that people cheat to be mean, or to be sluts or whatever. The fact is, if someone gets whatever he or she dreams of then there is no need to cheat. So, a girl who cheats on one guy may not cheat on the next one since he fulfills her dreams.
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Also, if you had a chance to get with a girl who had a boyfriend would you do it?
Of course! There is no sacred bond I am breaking. It is only as sacred as she wants it to be. It is her decision! If Im not going for her, by the end of the night, someone else will anyway. It is all about her. Her boyfriend isnt there so who cares about him. She might but thats up to her. None of my business, I care for the relation between me and the girl, not some random dude I havent even met. And to answer your question, yes, been there done that. And you I would do it again.
I agree with this. What if the girl wants an upgrade?
Author:  dw3llz [ Sun Aug 15, 2010 9:35 pm ]
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I would believe the "Once a cheater, always a cheater stipulation." A LTR of mine cheated in the very beginning, and I let it go because we were really kicking it well, and about two years down the road, I found she never stopped. Its a crushing blow, it definitely makes you rethink all women. And she wasn't like a slut or anything, she actually cheated on a church mission group trip (it was a 3 day trip and she couldn't wait?).

Once the human mind becomes aware of the ability of get away with something like this, it never lets it go. Much like as a child, you would test your parents by going as far as you can with something, in my experience (from friends and this LTR), women will do the same.

Now as for me getting with a taken women, I would do it in an instant. Life's a bitch, get over it.
Author:  AFC Royal [ Mon Aug 16, 2010 2:26 am ]
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"Once a cheater always a cheater"

The answer is, in a nutshell, YES. Naturally, that doesn't hold water in all cases. Someone can easily make an about-face and choose to never cheat again, HOWEVER, this does not happen in many cases.

I personally would always have her previous cheating encounters in the back of my mind, and I could never truly trust her in an LTR. For those who are more open, maybe you could make it work, but I would be disinclined.

Anyway, yeah I would take a girl with a boyfriend, but I'm touchy about this, and I don't push much. She would have to be thinking already about breaking up with him, in my case.
Author:  Fin [ Mon Aug 16, 2010 10:08 pm ]
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There is this thing called Fundamental attribution error in psychology.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Fundamenta ... tion_error

Pretty much everyone who believes "once a cheat always a cheat" is suffering from it.

People make actions with the major influencing factor being circumstances. If the circumstances needed to make someone cheat, (bordedom, lack of sexual ful fillment, lack of commitment, fear of entrapment) are not present. Chances are this person will not cheat.

However if those (or some) of those circumstances are in place, then a person will probably cheat.

Problem is when people are cheated on they rarely want to accept that something with the relaitonship was wrong. And instead become motivated to commit Fundamental attribution error, by claiming that the problem was something in-herint in their partner.

Thus relieving them of any real responsibility, painting themselves as someone who was doing everything they could and was just "tricked".

98% of the time, a bit of close inspection will reveal that that was not the case.

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Author:  redandwhite [ Mon Aug 16, 2010 10:20 pm ]
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My ex kissed a guy after we had been together 3 years and it had turned into a long distance thing. She was the one one to tell me about it. I considered it cheating and broke it off. I think the chances of her ever cheating again (esp on me had we stayed together) are pretty slim, but its possible. Circumstances are all it takes to turn an angel to a cheater or an upstanding citizen into a criminal.

Would I get with a girl that was cheating? Being the devastated victim of cheating, I would like to say no, but if she was a 10 and i was feeling lonely even I doubt I would live up to that.
Author:  jurupa [ Tue Aug 17, 2010 6:13 am ]
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Sooo.. What are your opinions on that phrase "Once a cheater always a cheater?"
There is a reason why such a phrase was coined. Much like any stereotyping its not 100% true. Not all blonds are dumb.
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Also, if you had a chance to get with a girl who had a boyfriend would you do it?
No. By getting with a girl that is willing to cheat on her boyfriend you are just enabling the behavior and making it easier for her to cheat more down the road. As well as making it more socially acceptable to cheat. While I agree people make their own choices (I am a strong believer in free will), I have always thought one should exit their existing relationship before they move on to the next person. Because if you are willing to cheat on your partner you might as well exit the relationship then, because whats the point of staying in the relationship if you are willing to cheat on your partner?
Author:  insatiable [ Wed Aug 18, 2010 2:58 am ]
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pretty sure its been said to death but yeah in my opinion if she can cheat on her boyfriend then obviously he isnt everything she wants and will most likely do it again... doesnt mean that the next bf she has she will do the same (depending on how he stacks up to whatever else she finds)

as for gettin with girls with boyfriends... i steer clear... dont get me wrong ill work them till they are begging for it but then you just stop, walk away and know that not only do you have the game to get a taken girl to that point, you have brains too... and you wont have an unwelcome visit form any oversized unhappy bfs when the truth comes out.
like jurupa said... your just making it more socially acceptable and thats not really cool...
take my situation for example if my gf ever cheated on me id be devastated and vice versa... so i never would and hope she feels the same... but that doesnt mean that you cant run your game just to see how far you can get or how much you need to brush up :P
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