I half agree with you, yet half don't.


I would agree and say, learning 'inner game' and mindsets are completely useless if all you do is read them off of some website/forum or out of a book.

A spiritual understanding that is not practised under fire is without value; only by applying our knowledge in trying situations do we come into genuine possession of it.

That being said, it's all good reading a book and 'knowing' how to do/respond to something, but it is only when a situation that really tests us arises, that we are able to put it to use(or try). It is only then we know if we have been able to apply the knowledge we obtained.



Now, taking all that into account. I strongly believe it's not going to do you much amount of good if you have no 'outer' skills.

Outer skills are important, you need to know how to communicate and understand that shit.

Now, why 'inner' shit is important, is because it can make a whole load of difference to how EASY it is to execute the outer stuff.

Now, you can either achieve this confidence or 'ease' from becoming REALLY skilled at outer stuff... however, this is very long winded and your confidence becomes greatly dependant on external factors... Which means, if something goes wrong a few times, your confidence will hugely be affected.

or

You can change the way you think about the whole process, how you see 'rejections' how you see 'mistakes', and this makes the whole process of learning, practising, and executing 'outer' principles a lot easier if you start seeing things can only go 'right'. Also, this lack of 'fear' that 'things could go wrong', subtly effects a lot of outer things, especially your comfortableness in the situations, your body language, your smoothness, your mood, your vibe. All things that are a major factor in sucessful interactions.



I hope you found my perspective interesting to read.



Love

~Finesse