My perspective on social interactions has changed immensely since I discovered PUA and began improving myself. Now I find myself paying attention to details that I never used to notice or give a second thought to. Now I find myself analyzing, thinking, and even sometimes planning before a set - most of which I can't help - and after a set I always find myself evaluating the interaction.
When I eject or close a girl, I always evaluate what I did right and what I did wrong in the set. This is sometimes helpful to let you learn from your mistakes, but doing this in the middle of a night out or between sets will get you thinking too much about your state and your game and get you out of the moment and not being present. But after a night out, it's good to look over your interactions and what you did right and what you did wrong.
Every once in a while, when a set goes poorly and you get blown out, rejected, eject early, or something else goes wrong, you blame the girl or an external source for you fucking up. You might find that you tell yourself "Oh, that girl was just a bitch, that's why", or "That AMOG wouldn't leave me alone," etcetera.
Here's a little wake up call though; it's *almost* always your fault. You can *almost* never blame the other person or external factors for you messing up a set or a conversation. It's *almost* never the girl's fault. It's *almost* never the guy's fault. It's *almost* always your fault.
I hope this doesn't come as a punch to the gut for most of you, but if it does, there is a silver lining that I think you'll appreciate. The fact that it is *almost* always your fault means that you are also always in control. You are in control of whether you fail or succeed. You are in control of whether you number close, kiss close, fuck close, or don't close at all. It really is all up to you. So when you don't do any of these things, when you don't chase what you want, when you are afraid to escalate or approach a girl, it is *almost* always your fault.
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