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Author:  imanewbie [ Mon Jun 07, 2010 2:59 pm ]
Post subject:  I got messed by seing an ex
Folks I'm messed, please if you are up to say just fuck another 10 girls please dont read.
Oki, I had a LDR with a girl who moved into my city in march. Ive met her three times since them tough we were unable to reconnect. Too many arguments I was really trying to go out with other girls tried to get fresh.

Two weeks ago she smsed me saying she was missing me. I did not reply, I was also having toughs about her but was trying to do my best to recover and go ahead. Then last Thursday came. I met her with the dude she just started a relationship and it was very awkward, she freaked I freaked, long silence.

Something still moved inside of me and I think of her too. I talked to her on msn and she basically said she had just started dating again and I was to blame by the fact we did not work out and till 2 weeks ago it was possible and her will. I've blocked her now cause arguing at the moment is not a good idea. Valentines day is coming in a week...

Problem is we got to a so sore point we got unable to communicate properly she smsed me "Winter reminds me of you" I answered I would like to go have lunch with her. So the synthony was lost. And Im fucking over-thinking it. I've dated other girls since the split without many luck.

So I called her and asked her a think I do not regret. I asked her no more "almosts" and "implicits" said her that if she gets single and wanna try, just call me and say "lets do it" no more half heart commitments no more half breath efforts and she agreed saying that I should not wait, but she got my message. I feel damn relieved, big part of me moved on in that moment but I still sore inside. I dont have hope for a call but I got an end for that terrible anxiety of "will it happen? can I do it?"

We tried about 5 times among starts and breakups but that would be the first time we were living in a same city. To be sincere I still don't feel like going after her I need to fix myself a bit before I could try that again, but I feel an enormous sadness for the fact of despite all the great and I really mean great moments. We could not make it work as a team. In different times, by different reasons one got burdened and burnt out.

I feel a mix of feelings now, like was I too demanding? Lack of experience? I'm 25 she is 26. Before she started again I asked her out and she was not explicit neither to accept neither to decline I did not insist much as I've said before, I cannot do it again half hearted.

So now I'm feeling low like "there is no one for me". Strange is I still don't think she was the right, maybe she was the less wrong so far. She said me I was the right for her on our last convo, but she is trying again somewhere else and is "happy".

More than anything if I want to date anyone else again I must fix my self up, stand tall and walk ahead. Still I don't feel like managing it. Anyone has any ideas or insights?

Thanks folks, please be kind :cry:
Author:  AFC Royal [ Mon Jun 07, 2010 6:23 pm ]
Post subject: 
Go away.

Either that, or re-adjust your attitude.

You want us to spoon-feed you information on how to overcome your personal problem, which really isn't different from the other guys here. We've all been miserable and sad about similar stuff.

But you know what? We let the top guns bust our balls for it, and we learned and improved our lives.

Go somewhere else for your sympathy. Come here to be tested by fire and to learn something worth learning.
Author:  Jav [ Mon Jun 07, 2010 6:42 pm ]
Post subject: 
You either

Figure out what you want and go fucking get it. No dicking around.

Or

get the fuck over this girl.


There isn't a middle road.
blue pill or red pill
left or right.

make a choice
Author:  johnchangmai [ Mon Jun 07, 2010 6:45 pm ]
Post subject: 
It is better to have loved and lost then to have never have loved at all.

An old,old,old saying i know.

I don't reeally know what to say here except TIME.
You seem a little confused about whats going on and your are trying to make sense of it all.

Given enough time you will be able to move on from this.
But like a scar from a childhood accident these emotions will be with you for a long time.(and despite what people say,they never really go away.)
In later years try only to remember the good times with her.
In the meantime you will just have to come to terms with your emotions.
Having a strong connection with women is tough in the heart strings when things come to an end.
If it makes you feel better she is probably just as cut up as you.
Don't let your emotions torture you for months on end.
She would not want to see you unhappy i know.

And remember.

The good times.

The end.
Author:  imanewbie [ Mon Jun 07, 2010 8:30 pm ]
Post subject: 
Quote:
It is better to have loved and lost then to have never have loved at all.

An old,old,old saying i know.

I don't reeally know what to say here except TIME.
You seem a little confused about whats going on and your are trying to make sense of it all.

Given enough time you will be able to move on from this.
But like a scar from a childhood accident these emotions will be with you for a long time.(and despite what people say,they never really go away.)
In later years try only to remember the good times with her.
In the meantime you will just have to come to terms with your emotions.
Having a strong connection with women is tough in the heart strings when things come to an end.
If it makes you feel better she is probably just as cut up as you.
Don't let your emotions torture you for months on end.
She would not want to see you unhappy i know.

And remember.

The good times.

The end.
Thanks bro. I do agree, yeah she is also sore. And for now best to do is move. If it is supposed to be it is gonna be doesn't matter now. Something big is gone. Can't replace it but I hope things will slowly adjust.
For the others, there is just no way to fight for her now. Cause Im shred, I need to fix my self up. Put head high walk tall and then things will be better again.
Author:  Chelios [ Mon Jun 07, 2010 8:33 pm ]
Post subject: 
Ask yourself, is something that brings you down worth that position in your life?

Answer is no, and that's what she is, you were in a relationship, kept trying to fix things and it never worked, surely that tells you something?

I wont flame you, because in this community I honestly feel we're meant to support eachother, but seriously, your going to have to get out there and as I said, the things that bring you down and make you think in a negative manner aren't worth it.

Get out there, do things you enjoy, game, and time is a healer, that's just the way it is.
Author:  imanewbie [ Mon Jun 07, 2010 8:37 pm ]
Post subject: 
Quote:
Ask yourself, is something that brings you down worth that position in your life?

Answer is no, and that's what she is, you were in a relationship, kept trying to fix things and it never worked, surely that tells you something?

I wont flame you, because in this community I honestly feel we're meant to support eachother, but seriously, your going to have to get out there and as I said, the things that bring you down and make you think in a negative manner aren't worth it.

Get out there, do things you enjoy, game, and time is a healer, that's just the way it is.
I strongly agree, I had a meeting with her before all that and the connection was not the same anymore, maybe I got a big o jealousy attack. Also what the guy upper said about deep feelings. And thanks for the support.
Author:  Chelios [ Mon Jun 07, 2010 8:40 pm ]
Post subject: 
Quote:
Quote:
Ask yourself, is something that brings you down worth that position in your life?

Answer is no, and that's what she is, you were in a relationship, kept trying to fix things and it never worked, surely that tells you something?

I wont flame you, because in this community I honestly feel we're meant to support eachother, but seriously, your going to have to get out there and as I said, the things that bring you down and make you think in a negative manner aren't worth it.

Get out there, do things you enjoy, game, and time is a healer, that's just the way it is.
I strongly agree, I had a meeting with her before all that and the connection was not the same anymore, maybe I got a big o jealousy attack. Also what the guy upper said about deep feelings. And thanks for the support.
No problem man, we've all been there or there abouts, just some people go on all stupid about things.

Think about enjoying yourself, limit your thinking time, that way time passes and she can't enter the mind as much.
Author:  imanewbie [ Wed Jun 09, 2010 2:59 am ]
Post subject: 
Quote:
It is better to have loved and lost then to have never have loved at all.

An old,old,old saying i know.

I don't reeally know what to say here except TIME.
You seem a little confused about whats going on and your are trying to make sense of it all.

Given enough time you will be able to move on from this.
But like a scar from a childhood accident these emotions will be with you for a long time.(and despite what people say,they never really go away.)
In later years try only to remember the good times with her.
In the meantime you will just have to come to terms with your emotions.
Having a strong connection with women is tough in the heart strings when things come to an end.
If it makes you feel better she is probably just as cut up as you.
Don't let your emotions torture you for months on end.
She would not want to see you unhappy i know.

And remember.

The good times.

The end.
I just got to the point you mentioned after talking witha friend older than me. There is no meant to be, there is being. Now it was; so I will be better:)
Author:  imanewbie [ Fri Jun 11, 2010 3:39 am ]
Post subject: 
Quote:
You either

Figure out what you want and go fucking get it. No dicking around.

Or

get the fuck over this girl.


There isn't a middle road.
blue pill or red pill
left or right.

make a choice
I feel much better and now I can comment on it. I must fix myself first, going begging after her will solve nothing now. I must straight my head and them if still in mind go for her.
Other thinhgs like she seeing anyone else or the sky being rainy dont matter I must be okay. (I had open issues with other ex when I met her and still we went for it)
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