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Author:  ~Finesse [ Wed May 26, 2010 11:44 pm ]
Post subject:  The Waiting Game...
Lately I haven't really been 'gaming' as such. Just didn't really like it. Trying to *force* interactions ain't really my thing. However, I still go out to interact with people / chicks, because it's something I really enjoy doing.

I like flirting with girls, I also enjoy sleeping with them, and such things, so when I say "I haven't been gaming", what I mean is I don't 'do' game.

Something I noticed, is that personally, my game is much better when I'm not forcing things, when I'm not 'doing'. I'm hoping I can explain my experiences with this, and why I think it works, as I feel it could be of benefit to people.

If it helps you to label things, you could call it 'oppurtunistic game' or passive game.

In interactions, oppurtunities will constantly be making themselfs available to be used throughout. I find a lot of people *force* things, they'll suddenly try to 'DHV', or they'll suddenly decide to try and make a girl qualify etc etc. They force situations. This can mess things up. Think of it as in ball games... a lot of players try to 'force shots' and take them at random just because they're in possession of the ball, this often results in missed shots and lost games.
  • "...This is the approach, if you ever wanna score; 'Cause some players rush their shots - Thats why they're never on the floor..."
I don't ever think about having to do anything whilst interacting with girls, becuase I know the oppurtunities are constantly presenting themself... The key is being aware of these oppurtunities, and taking them.

For example, some people 'kino' for the sake of having to 'kino'. People 'qualify' for the sake of 'oh I have to qualify'. Etc. There's really no need to force it, just learn to be aware, and you'll notice the oppurtunities to do so in an extremely natural way.

I also feel this does another thing... When you 'do' game, you are now actively working for the interaction, and you are the one chasing her. You're the one using your effort. When you game passively, it shifts things ever so slightly, but it certainly does shift your mindset which is much more useful for acheiving your desired outcome. Do you want to be working for her, or have her working for you? It goes a long way in removing needy behaviour, and not being attached to an outcome.

This adds fluidity to your interactions.
  • "One who lives in accordance with nature
    does not go against the way of things.
    He moves in harmony with the present moment,
    always knowing the truth of just what to do."


Love

~Finesse
Author:  Jav [ Thu May 27, 2010 1:18 am ]
Post subject: 
What an absolute money thread.

It is ridiculous how many opportunities arive to "spit your game".

It's how I roll.
Author:  johnchangmai [ Thu May 27, 2010 8:25 pm ]
Post subject: 
I like this post a lot.


If it helps you to label things, you could call it 'oppurtunistic game' or passive game.
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But you have to be somewhere, for random effents to take place for you to react in a passive way.

Lets just say, that now i am in my thirties i do this a lot.

Its a bit like being that bear in a trout river in canada...............wait and a fish will jump in your mouth.
You have to be in the river mind.

I find that if you talk to a women and it appears it is just by chance, you can pull off more of a genuine connection.
It is another way of slipping in under the radar.
And it is more REAL to meet people in normal places as opposed to clubs and bars where it is obvious when you approach what your intentions are.

I agree about removing needy behaviour.

And as for your bit about nature.
I spend more time in the forrest than the trees do.

I like the fact that you mention your game is better when you don't force it.

Or maybe you are more of a natural and happier just being friendly (yourself) because by being NICE or GOOD or BAD or what ever you do naturally your inner spirit is content with that.

I believe the key to your point is being AFC.
The natural pua comes out when needed instead of being switched on, or charged when ever a women is about.
Author:  madals [ Thu May 27, 2010 9:43 pm ]
Post subject: 
This is a great point well made.
I really relate to this, I didnt meet my GF when I was "out sarging". I met her at this activity weekend. I did not go their to sarge or even with the intent to meet a woman.

This pretty much sums up my view of PUA. Your life should not be about getting women, your life should be about cool things you enjoy and you meet people along the way who also enjoy those things :)
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