Hank you say you belive certain women are out of you league(i.e they have a much higher value than you), it is great that you are adressing this.
You are right to say working on inner game will help combat the feeling of inferority.
Now many people will tell themselves, i am the shit, i am the shit, no girl is out of my league, i can get any1 i want, but this isnt effective, dont try and kid yourself that your high value, you have to belive your high value, you have to belive you have a high self worth.
'If you really put a small value upon yourself, rest assured that the world will not raise your price.'
ill give an example,
say i go to a club and do DFG, i get a few Kcloses just because things seem to be going my way tonight, im feeling really confident now, because i know game i BELIVE i now have preselection and i BELIVE the next target sees me as being high value, it is likely i will be very sucessful tonight and have alot of closes. And now i will leave the club feeling very confident and feeling i have high self belife.
I go out the next night lets say my aproaches go wrong, i get blown out every single set, no closes, all and all its a terrible night...Bang, my confidence and self belife is gone, i can tell myself i am confident and have high self worth....but i dont belive it.
So all that confidence i had was temporary, 1 bad night and its gone.
What i am saying is your self esteem and self worth will go up and down radicaly if you deal with like this, you want to permantly feel you are high value, and not have that be in a way that can be completly destroyed in one night.
ok, now i belive you can gain this self value in two ways, you mentioned earlier about inner game, yes i belive this is a very effective way of doing this, changing the way you generaly percive the world can change the value you belive you have.
The other way would be the materilistic things, two examples here would be,
Physical image-If i belive i look good, i will belive i have a higher value and this wont disapear overnight, im not going to wake up tomorrow fat, so, as long as i train i will gain a greater sence of self worth because of how i look.
Doing things your passionet about-For me this would be sports, for example if i train hard and im good at a sport, i will belive i am worth more because i do something i love and im good at it, this wont disappear over night.
(doing somthing you feel strongly about could be anything, charity work, traveling, mabye your job, chess...anything)
To rid yourself of self esteem problems and BELIVE your worth alot i would sugest a combination of adressing your inner game and adressing the more materialistic things.
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