So there's a couple reasons I'm going to write this up. I was in the chat earlier, after a good bit of hating the community, and the conversation got me thinking about an old post of mine. So I dug it up, and updated some tidbits, deleted others, and added a dash of maturity. My hope is that people will actually read it in its entirety. With that said, enjoy
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JOIN me... as I step back to when I discovered the Community.... I had everything going for me... or at least that's what every adult seemed to think. Rephrased, I was intelligent, spent time working at school, didn't have too many friends, had hardly talked to girls, My sex life? How do you describe that which doesn't exist? It must be great to be me right?
I met HER. The one. She's great, smart, cute, intelligent.... Best of all, she TALKS to me. Now I'm young, and I probably won't _marry_ her (funny how I even thought of marriage...), but I think I *really* want to date her. Her name was XXXX (removed for privacy issues). Now I just have to figure out how to get her to want to date me too... Enter the community.
I came in looking for the answer. there had to be an answer. How did all those other guys get girls? They had something I didn't, and I wanted it. Now if I could just get the people here to spill the beans...
I give up. I'm not going to get this. I can't seem to figure it out. I guess I'm just doomed to a woman-less future.
Time went by. The world continued, and eventually I got it. I had FINALLY found what I'd been searching for. It took years. I'd moved on from her. She moved on to me. But I figured out what the the Community had been preaching to me for years, and I tried to force everyone else to realize what it was.
No one got it. I was fedup. I left.
***I came back, and left each time soon after. Now 6 months away, here I am again...***
What was it that I preached so intently? I chose silence . It's no secret. Those who care to look, will find it. But only those who realize what it means will understand.
But this does have a point, and I beg you listen to my plea. It is easy to see There is no quick fix. What's harder to see, not so obvious, is you can fix it faster. All it takes is some help. Enter the community.. and all the help you could need... A community filled with emotion. So much anger...defensiveness...disgust... all from a "Community" claiming to not be evil?
PUA is about more than sleeping with women, or getting the one girl to like you. PUA is about bettering lifestyle. PUA is about bettering your self. PUA is about becoming everything you've ever wanted, without compromise. Getting the girl is a mere side-effect.
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Why hate the devil's advocate? Why refute a different viewpoint on a situation? Why harbor hatred for those who can help? Why make it harder to figure out the answer? These questions go on and on...
The answer to each of the questions posed is simply this:
THERE IS NO REASON. There is no reason for any of this in any Community.
So with that said, My challenge to you is this:
Remove unnecessary emotion from the Community. This forum...this lifestyle...this Community... it all exists to help. Leave your emotion at the door. We are not here to ridicule, nor are we here to be ridiculed.
Think about it.
Think about what you want to achieve... What you hope for from the Community...Why you're here. Think about where you are, and what you're doing... Think about your past and how it lead to the present. Think about what you're doing, and if it's leading to the future you want.
The Community is a tool. Don't abuse it. Don't forget about it. And like any tool, used correctly you can achieve the impossible.
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